5 types of anxiety you can overcome in two hours with Hypnosis
Today I will explain 5 types of anxiety you can overcome in two hours with Hypnosis. In my last blog post, I showed you what you could achieve in one hour of Hypnosis but today I want to focus on the types of anxiety that I have experience of helping people overcome in most cases in two sessions.
Anxiety can really affect day to day life for sufferers. It can feel unbearable but it is relatively easy to treat. Once you are anxiety free, you can live your life without constraints.
When I refer to ‘Hypnotherapy’ here I am talking about the advanced Hypnotherapy I offer, along with other therapies like NLP and tapping. I weave these together in the best way for you so you get the best outcome.
1 – Work anxiety
Lots of people suffer in silence every day at work. Feeling anxious about the work they do, or the way they are managed or dealing with colleagues and customers. Workload and performance management drive anxiety higher and actually affect your ability to do good work making the situation worse.
And the self employed suffer too, the pressure of starting or managing a business, generating business, overwhelm or fear of failure.
Symptoms I’ve seen include sleepless nights, hair loss and weight gain. There is also a fear of speaking out at work because anxiety can zap your confidence.
2 – Children’s anxiety
The things children get anxious about may not make sense to adults, which is why parents are not always equipped to help in the best way. The issues I see for children are worries about going to school, going to sleep or staying asleep, fear of the dark, thunder and lightning or fussy eating.
These situations affect your whole family. You can forget what ‘normal’ feels like and it’s lovely when anxiety leaves your house.
Getting help for children’s anxiety can be a long and difficult journey, but there is help and effective treatment available that can change your child’s life.
3 – Social anxiety
Social anxiety is said to affect up to 40% of the general public. I wrote a popular blog post about it. Social anxiety is when social encounters or situations cause you distress and worry. Many people don’t realise they even have it, they just think they don’t like going out.
It can cause problems with relationships and make you feel lonely if you want company, but find it hard to socialise. But Hypnosis is very helpful for overcoming your social fears and once you have had a few successes, your confidence will grow, as will your social circle.
I help a lot of clients with social anxiety on Skype, because they find it easier to relax in the comfort of their own homes at the start of treatment.
4 – Public speaking anxiety
The thought of public speaking fills some people with terror and panic. They don’t just feel nervous before the speech but in the months, weeks and days leading up to it. The more they dread it, the more the panic grows.
Some people will need to speak publicly more often than others but we might all have to do it at some point in our lives, maybe:
- In an interview scenario
- In a role at a wedding; father of the bridge, best man
- Speaking impromptu (off the cuff)
- Delivering reports
- Delivering prepared speeches/presentations
- Introducing speakers
- Accepting and presenting awards
- Contributing to meetings at work
- Speaking to inspire others
5 – Driving anxiety
Anxieties around driving can range from making right hand turns, driving over bridges, driving alone at night, driving in rush hour, driving on motorways and driving abroad. These anxieties can really limit your options and stop you going to places and doing things you want to do. It limits your freedom.
When you are no longer afraid, you can begin to live.
You could change years of feeling something. Yes really. The other benefits of overcoming your anxiety are that it opens up your world. You will feel calmer, more confident and able to live a happier life.
Hypnotherapy helps you get to the root of the issue safely and overcome your fears.
The entire premise of my work is to make a difference to how you feel from the first session. One of the big things with anxiety is that people think it controls them but with a few simple techniques you can take back control.
Book for free consultation today. Text me now 07530 890089 or email me and then we’ll chat
So you want to know the real secret to getting motivated? Like so many secrets to success, its very simple! The real secret to getting motivated is to clear the blocks. Yes that’s it. But let me explain why.
Clear your blocks to get motivated
Smart people know that Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool to achieving the things you want to in life and I often see clients who are looking for help with what they describe as a ‘lack of motivation’. Behind this lack of feeling motivated I have noticed the key themes of:
- Lack of confidence
- Disconnection with themselves
Now imagine trying to cook a meal in an untidy and dirty kitchen. You wouldn’t really want to would you? It would be difficult and not enjoyable. You would get in a flap moving things around, finding a place to put things and well it just wouldn’t feel good. That’s the equivalent of looking for a motivated feeling when the issues I listed above haven’t been dealt with.
All the issues on the list above cause procrastination and procrastination and feeling motivated are not a marriage made in heaven. Let’s look at them one by one.
A traditional coaching question for getting people motivated is ‘what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail’. Usually when I ask people this their eyes light up and they get excited about something. And then soon after asking the question they will try and dip into all the reasons they can’t or feel they shouldn’t do that. The reasons why will vary but the underlying theme is often a fear of failure. Failure is how we learn.
What if a baby gave up when it didn’t walk the first time it tried? And Edison, the inventor of the light bulb famously said “I have not failed 10,000 times, I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.”
Lack of confidence
Honestly, lack of confidence can stop the most qualified people from having success. It can stop people having fulfilling relationships and being able to show up in the world as themselves. If you are someone that sees other people doing things and you think you could have done it better it is probably confidence that has stopped you.
Lack of confidence is one of the easiest things to fix with Hypnosis and Coaching and like taking your driving test, you only need to do it once and you are set for a very long time. Once you enjoy the freedom and opportunities that come with increased confidence, you will not want to change it.
Perfectionism could be renamed as ‘not feeling good enough’. But it can stifle the best creators and keep people stuck. Life really is too short. Of course it’s important to do a good job and do things properly, but for some people they spend so long perfecting that nothing really ever gets finished. And during the time they have spent perfecting, things have changed so much that their thing isn’t really relevant or up to date anymore so off they go again changing, improving, perfecting, missing out…..
Nothing kills motivation faster than overwhelm. And wow we are surrounded. Battling inboxes, phones, standards, jobs, homes, family and friends. But if you have something you want to achieve you have to channel focus because your mind just can’t do a gazillion things at once. It’s not the way it’s designed and ‘good’ multi tasking doesn’t exist.
I use an amazing process in Hypnosis where we create a map of your objective and your unconscious mind will sort out any blocks to achieving it and give you an inner focus like never before.
Disconnection with yourself
Have you ever had instructions from someone that didn’t make sense? Isn’t it frustrating! Clarity makes things so much easier. But if you are not clear on who you are and what you want how will you be able to muster the motivation that you need? I love helping people get clear on their values (what is most important to them) and identity (I will ask you now to answer this question out loud…Who are you?).
When you get clear on yourself you will feel like anything is possible. Like searching for the right house and when you get it you just can’t stop thinking about it because it just feels so right.
Clear the blocks and the motivation will come, by the bucket load!
Don’t hang around, be an action taker and feel how good that feels! Here are things you can do right now.
Sending you fizzy energetic vibes,
This 10 ways that Hypnosis can help small business owners be more successful is an exciting post for me to write because as a Hypnotherapist discovering the endless uses for Hypnosis seems to be my life purpose!
In the past year I’ve been helping lots of small business owners improve their mindset so they can be more successful.
This week is American Express shop small week where you can get £5 for £10 spent. We also recently had Small Business Saturday and Local Business Week back in May. These are great marketing opportunities for small business but a good mindset will see you through an entire year.
So why Hypnosis for mindset?
Hypnosis is loved by those who understand and use it and misunderstood by many that don’t. One of my popular blog posts was this one in which I answered some of the common questions people ask about Hypnosis. I had a lot of calls from that post purely because people better understood what Hypnosis is and isn’t.
Hypnosis isn’t ‘woo woo’. You don’t have to believe in it for it to work. It is a process of bypassing the critical factor (the logical part) of your mind, to get to your unconscious mind, which is the part that calls the shots.
So if you spend lots of time and energy on doing all the things you think you need to do to be successful, life and business could be so much easier if you tapped into your greatest asset. The power of your unconscious mind.
Here are the 10 ways that Hypnosis can help small business owners be more successful
1 – Self-belief
I consider this to be the biggest issue for entrepreneurs. Many have great ideas, business plans, amazing websites and good products. But you need self-belief to keep going, to overcome hurdles and to achieve your dreams. It’s different to confidence because you can be outwardly confident, but inwardly giving yourself negative self-talk like ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I will fail’ and ‘I’m not good enough’. Not having self-belief makes you doubt yourself and not ‘go for it’.
Having self-belief is a game changer because it makes you believe you can do anything and not to listen to nay sayers.
Sports people probably understand this the most. When they are about to start their game or race, they HAVE to believe they can win. That’s why so many sports people have coaching and many use Hypnosis and NLP to increase their self-belief.
2 – Confidence
You wouldn’t believe how many ‘big business’ names have coaching to increase their confidence. It helps with presentations, public speaking and leading teams but also it feels good. It’s normal to have a few nerves before an interview or public speaking event, they can be useful in creating adrenalin. But no one wants to be a nervous wreck in the toilets before an important event or meeting.
Hypnosis can eliminate reasons that you don’t feel confident and create ‘anchors’ for you to use to give you a boost. Confidence is a state of mind so it makes sense that Hypnosis is brilliant for increasing confidence.
3 – Removing blocks
Procrastination is the nemesis of many entrepreneurs. Maybe you know what needs to be done and just can’t understand why you are not doing it. And then you see other people around you doing it. Maybe your competitors!
You know what you need to do and why so why aren’t you doing it? You can’t understand it. This is because these blocks are held in your unconscious. You can’t access them yourself because they are not known to your conscious mind. I can’t tell you how many people have ‘wow’ moments and clear blocks during Hypnosis.
4 – Strategy
If you are struggling to put a clear strategy together or can’t get a clear view of the ‘big picture’ for your 1,3,5 year plan, Hypnosis is marvelous for creating one. I use a technique where you create a map in your mind of the big picture and all the elements of getting there. This can be done in person or on Skype – try it!
5 – Creativity
Creativity is held in the right side of your brain and will become stifled if you are overloading the left side of the brain where you logic sits. Stress will also affect creativity because your brain can’t relax into that nice place where creative thoughts flow.
Have you ever noticed you have good ideas as you drift off to sleep, or after exercise or on holiday? This is because you are relaxing and your brain can perform at its creative best. In Hypnosis you connect to the unconscious mind where ideas and creativity come to the surface.
6 – Resilience
Being in business (and life!) requires resilience. Resilience comes from self-awareness and taking action when you realise you need to. Hypnosis can help you let go of things that are worrying you and making you less resilient and teach you how to connect to a place inside where you can replenish and restore.
7 – Calm
Just in case you don’t know. A continuous state of stress isn’t good for you. Not meaning to scare you here but the World Health Organisation say more than half of the top causes of death are linked to stress. I wrote a blog about it here. Now the reality is that business can be stressful but it is how you manage your stress, not your workload that is important. Products, finances, customers, suppliers, employees… it all goes on. But some people can juggle all this and not feel the effects of stress and other people will feel very stressed.
Like resilience, awareness here is key. Know your stress signals and take action to address them when you feel them. More importantly, build relaxation time into your schedule on a regular basis. I have a free relaxing recording that you can listen to here. Just 12 minutes to totally unwind 🙂
8 – Winning business
I’ve had lots of clients who come to see me because things aren’t right in their lives. Maybe they feel a bit lost or confused about themselves. Or maybe issues from the past have presented themselves as unhelpful emotions which are getting in the way of winning business. With these issues dealt with in a few sessions of Hypnosis, winning business will be much easier with you feeling focused and energised.
Customers can sense when things are off balance so it pays to get things sorted so you are at your best when you are selling.
9 – Increased intuition
Intuition is a very useful business tool. although good planning and strategy are important, intuition is your internal compass.
If something isn’t right for you, your intuition will know this. Intuition is basically your unconscious mind and its job is to keep you safe and do its best for you. The more you are able to tap into your unconscious mind, the better your intuition will be able to help you do the things that are right for you.
10 – Creating an abundant mindset
An abundant mindset means not worrying about a ‘lack of’. A lack of clients or customers, a lack of money etc. an abundant mindset means you believe good things will come to you easily. If you believe there to be lots of customers for your services this gives you loads more opportunity to see and takes away ‘competitor envy’ because there is enough to go round. An abundant mindset means you are not scared to invest in yourself because you are worth it.
Because everything in life operations at a ‘vibrational level’ you will be sending positive messages to the world around you and this will manifest as good things being drawn to you. Now I know that sounds a bit ‘woo woo’ but it’s actually energetic principles in action!
So how can you use Hypnosis to have a more successful business?
I can help you with any of the ten things above, just get in touch to book a session and get the edge for 2018 in your business. Don’t let another year pass and struggle on with the same battles in your head, get them sorted and grab 2018 with both hands. This could be your best year yet.
If you have ever wondered what the secrets of slim people are, your questions might be answered tonight in a show called ‘The truth about slim people’
The truth about slim people
We will get to see how two people; Anne-Marie and Yemi, manage to stay slim despite it seems eating whatever they like, whenever they like.
It is a true case of nothing being as it seems as I read the article about it.
Anne-Marie is a 42 year old mother of two who was trained as a dancer but now runs a dance classes for kids. She is 9 stone a size 8. Every aspect of her life was filmed for 5 days.
Yemi is a 37 year old father of 2, has a 32 inch waist and weighs 12 stone. His childhood nickname was ‘Dustbin’ because of his large appetite. He did a lot of sport in his younger days.
Neither of them eat ‘healthy’ food and they both at what they like in the quantity they desire. Or so it seems.
As part of the programme they both have medical test and it is found that neither of them have ‘magic metabolisms’.
The findings tell this story (see if you can spot the key ones that I, as a Hypnotherapist, will talk about today):
- They don’t snack in the day
- They fully satisfy themselves at mealtimes by eating what they fancy.
- They both eat enough to feel full until the next meal.
- Neither of them are ‘emotional eaters’.
- They don’t drink much alcohol.
- If they eat a lot one day, they eat less the next day
- They unconsciously seem to balance their calorie intake
- Anne-Marie is found to be a ‘fidgeter’. Never sitting still and using up lots of energy just ‘being her’.
- Yemi walks at a very fast pace
- Both sleep well
- Both have good gut bacteria
- Neither of them are ‘hung-up’ on food
- They are both ‘self-regulated’
- The conclusion from the show was that the secret to staying slim is mindset.
From the list above I am going to talk about the emotional eating aspect today.
So what is an emotional eater?
It’s safe to say that an emotional eater will not see food as fuel only. If you are an emotional eater food is more of a friend that you call on when you need to feel better. When you feel negative emotions you will use food as a way to take your mind off them. Because your mind is distracted by the emotion, it means you don’t recognize when you are hungry or full so eat you fulfill an emotional need rather than a physical one.
Emotional eaters use food as a crutch rather than a source of pleasure to be enjoyed for what it is.
So what emotions might trigger an emotional eater to eat? Well any negative emotion really such as:
- Dislike of yourself
- Feeling unloved
Eating numbs the emotion and therefore feels comforting. But the bad news is after you’ve eaten you will probably feel more negative emotions about yourself like hating yourself for having no control, guilt, not liking your body, feeling fat or ugly or shame (especially if you eat in secret).
If you are unhappy being overweight, you may feel you have to wear make up to ‘hide’ yourself or even feel ugly without it and you may feel the need to behave in a way that distracts from your body which only adds to your feelings of internal discomfort. You may not be happy in your own skin.
Before you beat yourself up for what you crave and eat….
Why is it that certain foods seem to feature highly for emotional eaters? Foods like cake, biscuits, ice cream? Well your cravings can be justified for good reason. The blend of carbohydrates, sugar and fat can be delicious. A multi-sensory and temporarily satisfying experience. The feel in your mouth, the smell, the flavours and the taste exciting your senses and providing a distraction from anything else at that moment. And they are so easily available.
These type of food also provide instant gratification.
But did you know that your brain chemistry actually changes when you eat. “Carbohydrates set off a series of chemical reactions that ultimately lead to a boost in brain serotonin,” says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., the former director of the Research Program in Women’s Health at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Clinical Research Center. The higher the levels of serotonin, the more content you feel (at least temporarily).
There have also been studies around fatty foods making people feel less sad because fatty acids can induce a signal from your gut to your brain, which may influence emotions.
So how can an emotional eater change?
Keep an emotional food diary
Keeping a food diary to track what you’ve been eating alongside what how you are feeling at the time can help you identify what triggers emotional eating.
I’ve made a food and emotion diary download for you which you can download here
Knowing what these triggers are can help you break the emotional eating habits and deal with triggers instead of turning to food.
How can you deal with emotional triggers?
So if you’ve done your food diary and spotted some emotional triggers for you, you need to know how to do something other than eat when they occur.
Although there are many ways that you could find something other than eat to do, it is a good idea if you try and find something that satisfies your reward centre. What I mean by that is the place in your mind that needs to feel good and satisfied (known as a reward centre). If you don’t do this, you are merely distracting yourself from the thought of wanting to eat (this strategy can work well for some people too).
If you think about how your emotions are soothed and the deep connection they have with food for a minute.
Ice cream at the seaside – this often starts in childhood. There you are having a great time with your family and your treat is an ice cream. Not only is the ice cream delicious in itself, but it anchors those happy feelings of your time at the beach probably with people you like to be with.
Popcorn at the cinema – going to the cinema is a sensory experience. you are going to watch a story that you can be absorbed in undisturbed for a couple of hours. You will see things that might be amazing and open your unconscious mind and emotions right up (think Disney or Hollywood). You then eat some sweet popcorn which anchors the experience.
Candy floss at the funfair – you are surrounded by fun and people laughing. you may have been spun round and round or been taken on a ride up in the air. Everyone there is happy and laughing. There are bright lights and your adrenaline, serotonin and oxytocin which make you excited and happy will all be in full force. The candy floss anchors the experience.
These experiences are bonding tastes and food with experiences. Your brain will want the same feeling if you don’t give it the food it thinks it wants.
So you need to get creative to think of things you can do which may make you feel good. Maybe excited or like you’ve accomplished something. Get thinking about what they might be now. What are you craving and how can you get it another way than eating?
If you need help
If you need help with your emotional eating or weight loss then I can help you by seeing you as a one to one client for 4 sessions. It is 4 sessions because we work on any emotional healing that needs to take place to allow you to move on. We work with the inner voice that damages your self-esteem and I help you to love your body (yes in its current form) so you want to care for it and nourish it. We also work on making better food choices, sugar cravings and confidence. The whole works.
If you want to be part of a group and spend 47 days working on your relationship with food, your relationship with yourself, sharing recipes, participating in challenges and listening to Hypnosis audios to help you, then you can join my next Project 47 group which starts on January 9th 2018. Please email me and I will put you on the waiting list.
Sending you some positive emotions today
I know the title ‘Why National Stress Awareness Day’ could save your life sounds dramatic, but it is true.
Stress is called the silent killer
According to the World Health Organisation Of the 56.4 million deaths worldwide in 2015, more than half (54%) were due to the top 10 causes. And the top 2 causes for the past 15 years have been Ischaemic heart disease and stroke. Stress is often a feature of these two causes.
Have you accepted stress as part of your life?
Society has really changed hasn’t it. More families with both parents working, single parent families, caring responsibilities. Expensive houses to pay for, images and expectations to live up to and of course social media to keep up with.
There’s children’s education, clubs, hobbies, social events and physical and emotional needs to attend to.
You might choose to study. Maybe while working, running a home and raising a family at the same time.
Then there is convienience food and spending a lot of time sitting in jobs that require computer work. And a competitive environment for well paid work.
Wow, it’s stressful even writing all that.
Everyone seems to be in such a rush and has accepted that as normal. Have you?
Hence the popularity of retreats!
What impact is this stress having on your life?
You know the drill. Work as hard as possible do everything as listed above. But you are not too worried because yes! You have a holiday to look forward to. Maybe even all inclusive. Everything done for you. You can really enjoy this time to relax and unwind and just ‘be’. You arrive on the holiday and spend the first few days in a vegetated state. Or even worse… ill! You can’t believe it. Where is your energy? And your joy? They seemed to have gone on a different holiday!
This is so common for people who are living in a stressed state most of the time. The body gets a glimpse of ‘stopping’ and it makes the most of it.
Things you may not have noticed as signs of stress
Thing is, when stress creeps up gradually, you don’t always notice it. You take on more and more. Do more and more. And you are so busy you don’t notice some of the symptoms of stress are upon you like:
- Muscular pain in our neck, shoulders or back
- Fatigue and low energy levels
- Raised blood pressure
- Increased pain thresholds
- Poor sleep patterns
- Poor breathing
- Suppressed immune system and increased susceptibility to infections
- Increases in blood sugar and cholesterol levels
Don’t ignore the signs
Left ignored these symptoms can build into bigger problems like burnout, depression and anxiety. It is your body and mind’s way of rebelling against the pressure it’s under.
Once you suffer from these they may affect:
- Your relationships with family or friends
- Your hobbies, interests and leisure time
- Your performance at work, school or college
This is the most important point in this blog:
Noticing yourself is the answer to good health. Noticing how you feel. Noticing your energy levels. Your mood. Your interactions with others. How your body feels.
Imagine you had a leaking tap in your bathroom? And you didn’t notice. And it kept dripping and started creating a small flow of water that needed to escape. So it finds a way through a crack in the tiles. And it keeps leaking and leaking. And then there is a funny smell. And you notice but don’t address it. And before you know it you have a damp issue and a big problem to fix. It’s important to notice.
So all I would encourage you to do as a first step is to notice how you feel.
Notice what might cause you stress and then you can work on a plan to reduce the stress in your life. I will be writing a couple of blogs around relaxation which will really help you reduce stress.
Take an easy step to reducing stress and relaxing by joining my free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge
It is called a challenge but it’s easy! I promise you will feel less stressed at the end. Sign up now!