Sweet and sour
The other day I heard some children talking about peoples’ reactions when they played their game of sweet and sour.
Apparently sweet and sour game is where you sit in the back of a Volvo and wave at strangers in others cars. If they wave back they are sweet and if they don’t they are sour! I heard about how one man had showed them a doughnut and another man did a salute. They thought this was great. Children find lots of ways to have fun for free.
Adults can have fun for free too. You might get some funny looks if you play sweet and sour but here are some ideas of things you can do for free.
- Go to the sea
- Take a course, there are free courses available at future learn
- Cook something or invent a new dish
- Cloud watch…….. Oh sorry I’m back. I just got distracted by some clouds!
- Put some of your favourite photos in a collage
- Read. Even if you hate reading there must be a book that you would enjoy. There are sites that find books you might like. Try whatshouldireadnext
- Music changes your mood in 3 seconds. Choose a belter and sing your heart out. These girls are funny!
- Be a tourist in your own city. I did this recently in Brighton and had a lot of fun
- Make your Family tree. Free at most libraries
- Walk in nature
- Go window shopping to see what you don’t need to buy!
- Create something. A scarf, pen pot, book, shed
- Find a group near you on Meet Up. If you can think of it, there’s a group for it!
- Watch inspiring Ted talks
- Look at some art to inspire you or make you wonder what it is!
- Explore. On foot. On a bike. In the car
- Try creative writing or even a blog
- Create a new outfit out of your existing clothes
- Watch animals
- Learn a new skill
- Try some adult colouring
- Create a mission for yourself – maybe see all the Royal Parks or local parks in your area? Visit all the libraries? Find the local markets?
- Help someone else – Radio 1 have a great thing at the moment where you can give an hour to help others
- Grow something
You will notice that most of these you can do alone. This is because if you make your own fun and happiness first, you become self-sufficient in your happiness and rarely bored and lonely.
I would love to hear your ideas of free things to do. Please add them to the comments and share them!
Here’s the plan:
- Read your gratitude list often
- Make sure Mind COP is on patrol
- Pick one list from the list, do it and see how you feel
- Feel free to share this post on facebook or twitter!
- Like me on facebook
Happy hug 🙂
Is this your Mind COP?
Yesterday you met your own mind COP by imagining what you mind COP looked like, sounds like, wears…
Maybe one of these?
Today we are going to look at how your mind COP will catch those criminal negative thoughts and keep your mind safe. For the past week you have been keeping a note of your negative mind chatter in your notebook. Now is the time to have a good look at what you have written and start working on making some changes to how that chatter might make you feel bad.
Let’s see mind COP in action.
Catch them: You’ve been catching mind chatter for nearly a week. You should have a pretty good idea of what yours is saying to you and who your criminals are.
Own them: These are your thoughts. You created them. You can acknowledge them. Consider them and choose whether to discard them or whether to arrest them.
Protect yourself: You protect yourself by arresting the negative thoughts, examining the evidence and deciding whether to charge them or give them a warning.
Here’s an example based on the losing your job example negative thoughts we looked at yesterday. Read each thought from left to right to see how Mind COP works.
|‘I should have worked harder’
||I did work hard though
||Maybe they didn’t really appreciate me?
|‘Why didn’t I take that course to learn more’
||I did a lot of development in that role
||This is a chance to learn something new
|‘I’m no good’
||Is everything I’ve ever done no good?
||I’ve achieved a lot
||With those that love me?
||I matter to the people that matter to me
||I was one of 10
||I will find a better fit
|‘I’m not clever’
||I was the problem solver
||I need a new challenge
|‘I’ll never get another job’
||Have you tried?
||I wonder what job I will love?
You can see how Mind COP is examining each thought and looking at it in a different way. One thought does not make a truth. One thought may seek evidence from the subconscious to support it, but Mind COP doesn’t fall for this.
Mind COP is objective and realizes that thoughts tell stories but their alibi is weak when questioned. Mind COP wants to hear from the witnesses and sort out those criminal negative thoughts.
You tell fibs
You see when you tell think a negative thought it’s probably not true and your Mind Cop might make this face!
So the next time those pesky criminal negative thoughts are doing a ‘wrong un’ in your mind, just see them scarper when Mind COP comes along and bangs them to rights.
Your time is precious, don’t waste it
How much of your precious life are you going to spend thinking negatively?
Think about it, how much time are you going to think about negative situations, obsess about the things that went wrong it your life, worry about things that happen or might never happen? Two hours a day? Which is 14 hours a week. Which is 60 hours a month. Which is 730 hours a year. Which is 30 DAYS A YEAR of feeling bad. What could you do in 30 days? A lot! In our example of losing the job, that is 30 days of enjoying the freedom of not working and exploring options for a new career whilst feeling happier.
Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs and change. By learning to manage your thoughts you will be more resilient in the tough times and happier on the whole. You are not your past, your current situation or what people say about you. You are so much more than that and you can shine.
- Write your own table of negative mind chatter in the same format as above and set your mind COP to work
- Read your gratitude list often
- See you tomorrow
Happy hug 🙂
People who have stopped with me know that Hypnotherapy is the easy way to stop smoking. There is a special offer for you at the bottom of this blog. Please pass it on or share this blog to help other people stop smoking and take advantage of this special offer.
Is it time for you to give up smoking?
Giving up smoking is one of the best things you can do to dramatically improve your health and life expectancy. On average, non-smokers live around a decade longer than smokers.
As well as improving your own health and wellbeing, you’ll also give your family peace of mind in the knowledge you’re doing everything you can to be with them for as long as possible.
The benefits of giving up smoking are endless, from better breathing to saving on average £2,920 per year. You can work out your cost savings here.
If you’ve ever suffered a heart attack, quitting smoking can reduce your chances of having another one by up to 50%.
E-Cigarettes Aren’t Always the Answer
Vapour devices aren’t always the best solution as the nicotine and the smoking habit still exists. It’s not until you eliminate the habit that you become a non-smoker.
How is Hypnotherapy Effective for Giving up Smoking?
There are dozens of methods to stop smoking, including patches, gum or prescribed drugs. The effectiveness of these methods is varied, but many people struggle as they don’t help you at an unconscious level.
Hypnotherapy works with the greater part of your mind, the subconscious mind, which is responsible for behaviour. By working with the subconscious, your desire to smoke is removed and the determination to stay a non-smoker is enhanced.
I use Harley Street techniques
It costs £1000 to give up smoking with a Hypnotherapist in Harley Street. I’m offering the same treatment here in West Sussex for far less. And you don’t have to get on the Tube!
It’s taken me a few years to perfect my stop smoking treatment. Even though Hypnotherapy alone is enough, I want to cover all bases and make sure my client stops for good and is confident that this has happened.
I now blend Hypnotherapy, NLP and tapping to deliver a stop smoking session which address any emotional reasons for smoking, the habit itself and the belief that you are now a non smoker.
I build in strategies for not putting on weight, feeling like you are missing out and seeking comfort in smoking. These are issues I have found that people are concerned about when giving up.
You will be able to cope with situations where you may have previously wanted to smoke.
You will fully understand the reasons why you personally have given up smoking and buy into them at a deep unconscious level.
What is the Process with Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy?
The stop smoking treatment is a one session treatment, where we’ll discuss your own reasons for giving up and wanting a healthier life. You walk in a smoker and out a non-smoker. Job done.
You will also be given recordings to use at home, ensuring you retain the state of mind which tells you that you don’t need to smoke.
Special offer for my blog readers
If you mention this blog when you call to book your stop smoking session I will give you £50 off the full price of my treatment so you stop smoking forever. Contact me now and book in.
You can stop smoking in just 2 hours of Hypnotherapy with me.
I’ve developed a really effective treatment to help you stop smoking in just 2 hours.
You don’t need to struggle or feel like a failure for not being able to give up smoking on your own. It can be difficult without help and support. You’ve probably been thinking about giving up or been trying to give up for some time, haven’t you? You’ve thought about all kinds of ways you might deal with it and maybe tried a few of them, haven’t you?
Well you really can be free of cigarettes, free of nicotine and free of a habit that controls you. And feel how good it feels to take nice deep breaths which will give you far more satisfaction than smoking ever could.
I work with you to stop you smoking in 2 hours.
Do you feel like smoking helps you manage stress?
You might feel like smoking helps you deal with stress. In fact the opposite is true. The chemicals in cigarettes are in no way helpful to your body!
There are over two thousand chemical compounds in cigarette smoke. Around thirty of those chemicals are known carcinogens and many are lethal poisons. Once inhaled, smoke condenses and about 70 per cent of the tar in the smoke is deposited in the smoker’s lungs.
We are all aware of the most common chemicals, nicotine and tar, but what are the others? Arsenic is present in tobacco smoke, as is cynanide. Arsenic and cyanide! Both of these substances are instantly recognisable and extremely poisonous to humans.
Nicotine is a recognised vaso-constrictor, it causes the arteries to contract. The heart has to work harder to pump the blood around the body. If you smokes 20 cigarettes a day, then your heart will beat an extra ten thousand beats in 24 hours.
Here’s a list of just some of the deadly poisons in cigarettes:
Benzene (petrol additive) – A colourless cyclic hydrocarbon obtained from coal and petroleum, used as a solvent in fuel and in chemical manufacture – and contained in cigarette smoke. It is a known carcinogen.
Formaldehyde (embalming fluid) – A colourless liquid, highly poisonous, used to preserve dead bodies – also found in cigarette smoke. Known to cause cancer, respiratory, skin and gastrointestinal problems.
Ammonia (toilet cleaner) – Used as flavouring, frees nicotine from tobacco turning it into a gas, found in dry cleaning fluids.
Nicotine (insecticide/addictive drug) is one of the most addictive substances known to man, a powerful and fast-acting medical and non-medical poison. This is the chemical which causes addiction.
Carbon Monoxide (CO) (car exhaust fumes) -an odourless, tasteless and poisonous gas, rapidly fatal in large amounts – it’s the same gas that comes out of car exhausts and is the main gas in cigarette smoke, formed when the cigarette is lit.
How will it feel when you have given up smoking with Hypnotherapy?
When I help you give up smoking with Hypnotherapy, you will be so in control and so confident and strong, it might actually feel quite easy. I will provide you with recordings to listen to so your resolve is stronger than any craving. And if you were to have a craving, I will give you amazing techniques to use to get rid of that craving in less then a minute.
No doubt one of your greatest and strongest desires is to have good health and renewed vitality. You know that your heart and lungs are the main parts of your body that sustain your health and energy. So as a non-smoker you respect and care for your heart and lungs. As a non-smoker, you are choosing health over sickness, strength over weakness, possibly life over death, and this gives you a tremendous feeling of satisfaction.
Giving up smoking is an accomplishment. Hypnotherapy really is the easiest and most effective way to stop.
What reason are you using for not giving up?
Just take a look at this list and make sure you aren’t clinging on to smoking for these common reasons.
- An excuse for a break at work
- As an end of day ritual
- Part of drinking something eg alcohol or coffee
- To accompany meals
- Part of socialising
- To avoid boredom
If any of these are your reason for smoking, we address this with Hypnotherapy during your stop smoking session. It is important for you to feel like you can cope and live life without the cigarettes when you stop smoking.
And think about why you really want to give up
Which of these is your main reason to stop smoking?
- No stale smell
- Better breathing
- No stained fingers
- Whiter teeth
- Better skin
- Better sleep
- Less nervous tension
- Something else
Understanding your main reason will give you strength. We tap into that strength during Hypnotherapy and maximise it for your success.You will feel proud of yourself, good about stopping smoking and healthier in every way knowing that you never, ever want to smoke again.
Things you can do before your stop smoking Hypnotherapy session to prepare for giving up
It can really help to prepare for something. Like not packing at the last minute for a holiday or doing your shopping in preparation for a dinner party. Preparation makes you feel in control, organised and ready for the event.
Here are some ideas of how you can prepare to give up smoking.
- Try smoking with your other hand. This will make you think more about your smoking habit and take it less for granted.
- Try smoking in a different place to your usual place
- Tell everyone you are giving up once you’ve booked your Hypnotherapy appointment. Get support from people and make it official
- Try doing something you associate with smoking without smoking. Get used to life without the habit.
- Try saying out loud ‘I am a non-smoker’. Get used to it ans start believing it!
- Visualise how your life will be better as a non-smoker
- Make a note of all the places you can go and things you can do without worrying about having to smoke
Make your appointment to stop smoking today
If you have made the decision to be a non-smoker and you want to feel that immense satisfaction of beating the habit, get in touch to book your appointment right now. The treatment is just as effective on Skype so it doesn’t matter where in the world you are. Just phone or text 07530 890089 or email me
Today’s guest blogger is nutritionist: Hannah Bailey of Wise Choice Nutrition in Sheffield. Hannah shares a day in her ‘food life’ and some of her tips and advice.
We are getting fatter
Hi! I’m Hannah. Owner of Wise Choice Nutrition and masters student studying Personalised Nutrition to become a nutritional therapist. I absolutely love what I do and could never imagine doing anything different.
Food is such a complicated thing and we are a nation getting fatter and sicker every day. I truly believe it’s because of poor advice and the addiction to junk food fuelled by the fact it’s everywhere!
Change your relationship with food
The misconceptions around food, health, nutrition and exercise are massive so a lot of my time is spent helping people change these and understand what works for them. I’m also passionate about helping people change their relationship with food. It’s something I’ve struggled with and personally know how hard it can be.
Unlike drinking or smoking, food is essential to life so not something you can cut out as easily. It’s also all around us and constantly advertised by the media.
Focus on the good
One of the things that is important to remember is what you have achieved. It’s very easy to focus on all the things you’ve eaten or drunk that you feel you shouldn’t have but shift your focus to what you have done that’s healthy.
I also recommend picking one thing you can do every day with little effort. Mine is always drinking plenty of water. By focusing on what you have done that’s positive, you start to change what your brain focuses on.
I base my meals on protein
I base my meals on protein as much as I can, I always try to have a healthy breakfast usually egg based to start the day well. A healthy, high protein breakfast keeps me going until lunch where I often have leftovers, salad or soup depending on the time of year and where I’m working from.
I try to avoid sandwiches and the popular meal days in shops because sandwiches, crisps and chocolate is not a filling heathy lunch.
If you get a mid afternoon slump, try changing your lunch to something high protein. Taking my own lunch to work also saves a fortune and means you know exactly what’s gone in to it.
I try not to snack between lunch and dinner but if I’m working late then I need something! On a good day it might be nuts, avocado, veg sticks and houmous, oatcakes, piece of fruit etc.
Dinner is normally a low carb meal but some days the carbs get the better of me! I go to martial arts so nights I’m training definitely need to be healthy if I’m eating before I train otherwise I notice a big difference in energy.
If I have carbs I try to make it a little bit of brown rice or sweet potato rather than pasta, white potato or chips etc.
Stop beating yourself up!
My biggest piece of advice is to stop beating yourself up! If you don’t know where to start in changing your lifestyle, pick one thing that feels manageable and do it for a week before adding in something else. YYou don’t need to change everything all at once for there to be health benefits. Just drinking more water, less caffeine and eating more veg can have a noticeable impact on how you feel. Set your goals and then take action each day towards them.
If you would like to know more, you can visit my website at or call Hannah on 07912 556470 to find out more.
A note from Honey….
Thank you Hannah for sharing your food day and top tips.
What’s in this blog for you:
- You will get a blog a day for 30 days from a variety of people including experts to give you ideas and top tips for healthy
- Free advice and inspiration
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See you tomorrow.
Healthy hug 🙂
Most people have a thing
As a Hypnotherapist I attract conversations with people about their ‘thing’ or the thing of a friend or family member. And the range of ‘things’ can be varied.
The most common things that people want to talk about are Hypnotherapy for weight loss and giving up smoking. This might be because they are more socially obvious and health risks.
Most people I speak to say they are stressed or would like to be calmer and there really is no better calm than in hypnosis. If you want to try hypnosis for free, you can sign up to my newsletter and receive a free download. I always say if mums who have had hypnosis can be calm when they have the baby then that’s worth everyone having!
Anxiety is a big problem for a lot of people
Next come anxiety, phobias, OCD and panic attacks. These things can sometimes be visible to others but quite often the person with this ‘thing’ will have found strategies to deal with the issue in private. Managing the problem can cause stress itself as it may involve cutting off from people or situations to avoid being seen with the problem. So people with these kind of issues really suffer because they have the issue itself and the issue of managing the issue.
It is estimated that 67% of people in UK have a sleep problem and sleeping is so very important to our wellbeing. If we don’t get enough good sleep we can be grumpy, lack motivation and find it hard to concentrate. It can also cause weight gain as we reach for the sugar for an energy boost. It can also actually mean that you lose years off your life. When we sleep we repair and restore. There are also a couple of theories bouncing around that when we sleep we offload our minds, sort of like a defrag of the brain. So if you are not getting good sleep, under this theory you are carrying more in your mind than you need to.
1 in 3 people suffer from depression at some time in their lives to varying degrees. Often people know something is wrong but they will use a lot of effort hiding it from people and pretending everything is ok. And they might mask the problem with drink, shopping, drugs or whatever but it is still there. A lot of people don’t realise that Hypnotherapy is very effective for treating depression.
Habits can last decades
Many people have a habit such as nail biting, cheek biting, picking, itching, hair pulling, thumb sucking.
And if asked many people would say they would like more confidence in general but at particular times they will want it more than others. For example for an interview or presentation.
Other ‘things’ that people want help with:
- Fear of spiders, wasps, birds, dogs, insects
- Fussy eating
- Bed wetting
- Driving tests
- Social anxiety
- Studying focus
- Fear of flying
- Exam nerves
- Focus for sports
And other other ‘things’ that people ask for Hypnotherapy for help with….
Mobile phone addiction
Remembering where things are hidden
Past life regression
You can get rid of your ‘thing’ quite easily
Some people will continue to put up with their ‘thing’ throughout their lives. Finding work arounds, waiting for it to go away, pretending it doesn’t exist.
Other people will try a number of self-help techniques and this may work.
A lot of people will try several therapies and might find it works for a while or help or maybe even for good. But as most therapies take place in the conscious mind, often they don’t stick and the problem comes back or presents itself in a different way.
And the lucky ones. Well. They realise that life can be more comfortable and enjoyable without the ‘thing’ and many will find that Hypnotherapy is an easy way to get rid of it.
So if you have a ‘thing’ that you think it’s time to get rid of. Please do get in touch and we can have a chat about it and make a plan to set you free 🙂