The other day I heard some children talking about peoples’ reactions when they played their game of sweet and sour.
Apparently sweet and sour game is where you sit in the back of a Volvo and wave at strangers in others cars. If they wave back they are sweet and if they don’t they are sour! I heard about how one man had showed them a doughnut and another man did a salute. They thought this was great. Children find lots of ways to have fun for free.
Adults can have fun for free too. You might get some funny looks if you play sweet and sour but here are some ideas of things you can do for free.
Yesterday you met your own mind COP by imagining what you mind COP looked like, sounds like, wears…
Maybe one of these?
Today we are going to look at how your mind COP will catch those criminal negative thoughts and keep your mind safe. For the past week you have been keeping a note of your negative mind chatter in your notebook. Now is the time to have a good look at what you have written and start working on making some changes to how that chatter might make you feel bad.
Let’s see mind COP in action.
Catch them: You’ve been catching mind chatter for nearly a week. You should have a pretty good idea of what yours is saying to you and who your criminals are.
Own them: These are your thoughts. You created them. You can acknowledge them. Consider them and choose whether to discard them or whether to arrest them.
Protect yourself: You protect yourself by arresting the negative thoughts, examining the evidence and deciding whether to charge them or give them a warning.
Here’s an example based on the losing your job example negative thoughts we looked at yesterday. Read each thought from left to right to see how Mind COP works.
‘I should have worked harder’
I did work hard though
Maybe they didn’t really appreciate me?
‘Why didn’t I take that course to learn more’
I did a lot of development in that role
This is a chance to learn something new
‘I’m no good’
Is everything I’ve ever done no good?
I’ve achieved a lot
With those that love me?
I matter to the people that matter to me
I was one of 10
I will find a better fit
‘I’m not clever’
I was the problem solver
I need a new challenge
‘I’ll never get another job’
Have you tried?
I wonder what job I will love?
You can see how Mind COP is examining each thought and looking at it in a different way. One thought does not make a truth. One thought may seek evidence from the subconscious to support it, but Mind COP doesn’t fall for this.
Mind COP is objective and realizes that thoughts tell stories but their alibi is weak when questioned. Mind COP wants to hear from the witnesses and sort out those criminal negative thoughts.
You tell fibs
You see when you tell think a negative thought it’s probably not true and your Mind Cop might make this face!
So the next time those pesky criminal negative thoughts are doing a ‘wrong un’ in your mind, just see them scarper when Mind COP comes along and bangs them to rights.
Your time is precious, don’t waste it
How much of your precious life are you going to spend thinking negatively?
Think about it, how much time are you going to think about negative situations, obsess about the things that went wrong it your life, worry about things that happen or might never happen? Two hours a day? Which is 14 hours a week. Which is 60 hours a month. Which is 730 hours a year. Which is 30 DAYS A YEAR of feeling bad. What could you do in 30 days? A lot! In our example of losing the job, that is 30 days of enjoying the freedom of not working and exploring options for a new career whilst feeling happier.
Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs and change. By learning to manage your thoughts you will be more resilient in the tough times and happier on the whole. You are not your past, your current situation or what people say about you. You are so much more than that and you can shine.
Write your own table of negative mind chatter in the same format as above and set your mind COP to work
Continuing our theme of special guest bloggers talking about increasing physical, emotional and spiritual energy for happiness, please welcome guest blogger Susan Ellis-Saller.
Susan is an energy worker, a tarot and angel card reader, an angel practitioner, and a life coach. She has worked with crystals and aromatherapy for more than 20 years and loves to help people find more happiness and positive feelings in their lives.
Here is Susan’s blog about some simple tactics and easy to find tools that can help you improve the vibe in your home and life.
7 Alternative Ways to Help Bring More Happiness to Your Life
Are you looking for some new ways to increase the happiness in your life? Have you ever thought of using crystals, minerals, and energy healing methods to bring more happiness into your home and environment?
1) Clear clutter
I know that might seem like a bummer to do, but the stuff that’s lying around your house can actually be charged with negative energy. Removing it and clearing space can work wonders for your mood and also make space for more positive energy to flow.
2) Use music
There are sound therapists who are actually trained to use their voices to clear the energy of your space – either in your home or office. Their pitches might sound foreign to your ears, but they do wonders for breaking up negative energy and adding a lighter note to your home’s energy! Check out Urte Tragman’s site for more info.
You can also play classical music or use a bell to clear the air in your rooms and homes. Practitioners say the chord of C works well, and you can experiment with other chords and types of music to see what works best for you.
3) Surround yourself with crystals
Certain crystals, like rose quartz and selenium, are associated with bringing positive vibes into a space and are even associated with the angels! You can either carry them on your person or scatter them around your home to increase their effectiveness.
If you want to absorb or deflect negative energy or vibes, keep a black tourmaline on you or put smoky quartz in your home. Both of these crystals are wonderful for absorbing the bad – leaving more room for the good!
4) Use salt!
Salt can help to soak up negative vibes, so you can bathe in a salted bath or use a Himalayan salt lamp in your work/home space. Himalayan salt lamps are said to give off certain ionic particles that help to clear the air and also to absorb electronic rays and particles given off by the many technological devices we use on a daily basis.
5) Scents can help, too!
Citrus scents, like lemon and grapefruit, are mood enhancers. They stimulate different areas in the brain and can also bring on a more “sunny” disposition. Bergamot is also associated with improving a person’s mood – especially if he or she is suffering from depression.
If you are looking for stress relief, go with a lavender or chamomile scent. Both are mild and both are helpful in tackling stress. Just watch out, with scents. Make sure that you use a little bit in the beginning to make sure that you are not allergic or sensitive to what you are using.
Also, people who are prone to seizures or who are pregnant should check with a licensed aromatherapist before using any oils – topically or in the air.
6) Bring in some flowers
Studies show that flowers help to elevate EVERYONE’s mood (or the vast majority of the population, anyway)! If there is a kind of flower you love, then even putting a picture of that flower in your home or workspace can help to improve the mood.
Plants, too, have been found to increase the flow of positive energy in a home or office. There are different plants associated with different areas of life, like love or prosperity.
7) Uplift with color!
The mood or tone of your home can be enhanced by the color(s) of the accessories you choose. If you’d like to lift the mood in your home up, then think about bright, vibrant accents like yellow and orange (sunny, happy colors) or even calming colors, like pastels and “water colors” like turquoise, blue, and lavender.
Many times, colors and scents associated with those colors have similar effects on the mind and body. So, rose and pink (and rose quartz) will both bring a positive, innocent touch to your atmosphere. Purples and lavender (and amethyst) will have a calming and soothing effect, etc.
Simple things can change your mood
Sometimes, using alternative methods will help you to improve your happiness in ways you hadn’t thought of before. Simple things, like color and scent can have a big impact on your mood, as can energetic clearing methods like listening to music.
It’s important to explore many different ways of improving your environment and your mood – and using crystals, flowers, and scents can have a wonderful effect!
Now when I say I’m a Hypnotherapist and then mention I also do Reiki, the more logical people might start to think I’m a bit ‘woo woo’. But actually, it wasn’t until I started doing Reiki that I thought the opposite. Some of the energetic experiences and shifts I have witnessed have been remarkable. And there really is nothing ‘woo woo’ about it.
You see you have an energy and I have an energy and between us we make a new energy that no one else can make. That’s why sometimes when you are with people they can lift you or drain you. Or when you are having a good day and giving out good vibes more good things seem to happen. and the opposite is also true.
Does your car have more energy than you?
How often do you feel low on energy? And do you notice your high energy states too?
Did you realise that you have different sources of energy? Sort of like a car. The fuel helps it move. The water stops it from having a meltdown. And the oil keeps everything running smoothly.
Fuel = You nourish you body to give it physical energy.
Water = You manage your emotions to stop yourself having a meltdown or getting stressed
Oil = You keep your spirit moving so your joy does not get stuck
Your three energy sources are physical, emotional and spiritual. When you balance the three energies, you will feel at your best; powerful and balanced. It doesn’t have to be hard. The first step is to recognise the three energies and anything that drains or feeds them.
Have you ever been physically tired but so enthusiastic about someone or something that you are still energetic? Or physically well and rested but mentally there is nothing in the tank? Or have you lost your joy and can’t seem to find a way to bring it back?
Know what drains and feeds your energy
Things that drain or feed your energy can be:
Special guest bloggers over the next week
Over the next week we have some very special guest bloggers joining us to talk about increasing physical, emotional and spiritual energy for happiness. It’s so exciting and I can’t wait to introduce you to them and their wonderful work. I’ve chosen these people because they are talented and expert at what they do and also very nice people!
Anthony Punshon – is a really experienced personal trainer and weight loss expert
Katie Hedges – is a passionate foodie, aspiring recipe developer and healthy eating expert
I’m currently reading ‘that’ book about decluttering. It’s called ‘Spark Joy’ by Mary Kondo. she is a tidying and de-cluttering specialist. As a Hypnotherapist, what strikes me when I read it, is how nice making space is. She is helping people have space in their house which is a great feeling.
And she helps people get rid of broken things, things from the past that are not needed anymore. And she also encourages people only to keep things that give them joy.
Do you need to declutter your mind?
There are so many synergies between a tidy home and a tidy mind. If your mind is cluttered, it doesn’t feel nice and you can’t think straight. You might feel confused, dizzy and stressed. It might affect your sleep, temper and decision making. But how do you tidy your mind and create space?
One of the most common phrases I hear from clients is ‘I think too much’. We are a thinking species and very good at it, but what they mean is their mind is so busy that they feel muddled. Their minds do not have space to organize thoughts and sort the useful ones out.
Some of the work we have done so far in this programme has helped with identifying your mind chatter and change the feelings that your negative mind chatter creates. But no doubt there will be other stuff in your mind which you may need to de-clutter to create space.
But why do you hold onto this mind clutter?
Is it a habit and you just don’t know how to be different?
Are you scared deep down of moving on and facing changes? If you let go of your thinking who are you really? And what might you really want? And what will you think and do instead?
People with cluttered minds know they want to feel different and when this feeling gets strong… the feeling of wanting to move away from the bad feelings and move toward something different. That’s usually when they seek help
What would decluttering your mind feel like?
If you had space in your mind you would:
Feel more relaxed
Be more creative
Feel more in control
Have more head space to focus on the really important things
Be able to prioritise more easily
Be easier to be around
Is your mind full of junk?
Could you imagine if you kept all the possessions you had acquired throughout your life? Your home would be bulging! You wouldn’t be able to move or clean. A good de-clutter feels good and the same is true for your mind. Some people like to talk over their thoughts with a coucellor and a lot of people have CBT and I see a lot of clients who have tried these treatments.
What’s different about Hypnotherapy is it actually changes how you feel, without talking about things for hours. It teaches you how to relax and find calm yourself after your sessions have ended. You will find a deeply calm place within in you which once you have connected with, comes automatically into your life. As if you were designed that way.
Here’s the plan:
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