What I learnt from Derek Halpern about making online courses because yes, I am making online courses to help people.
I’m going through an exciting time in my business developing online courses so I can help people around the world. So I spent some time watching Derek Halpern from Social Triggers on You Tube who is good at all things online. Here are 3 things I’ve learnt from Derek Halpern
1 – How important working with knowledgeable people is to me.
I can’t just launch a course and hope that someone finds it! And that’s why I’ve been following Derek Halpern. He knows a lot about online courses and content. He has been doing daily videos for about a month now and I like his insights.
I’ve worked hard in my therapy career to learn from some of the top people in the business. Paul Mckenna for Hypnosis, Richard Bandler for NLP, Kevin Laye for Psychosensory Techniques and Principles, the list goes on. Not to mention all the books and online courses which are also an excellent way to learn.
So that’s my therapy core learning sorted (although I regularly top up and learn new therapies as many practitioners do). I’ve been helping people with stop smoking, anxiety, stress, sleep, weight loss, confidence, depression and life direction for years now and there is always something new to learn.
Some weeks my appointment book is very busy and so the way for me to help more people is with online courses and downloads. So I’ve created the Change Your Life Academy for that reason. It’s going to be jam packed full of courses to help you and I will give you all my best knowledge there.
2 – How important it is to give people that buy your courses quality content.
An online course shouldn’t be something that when the person that buys it starts using it they don’t get what was promised. I need to provide a service in my courses. Something of value. Especially if you are a therapist because the reason people are buying your course is because they want to make a problem better or they want to grow.
My course needs to be carefully thought out, full of quality content and most of all be of value to the person that buys it. This is the bit I am most looking forward to. I’ve spent years learning and can’t wait to share my theory and practical knowledge with you!
My first course which you can buy right now is Crush Your Sugar Cravings. This course was created by me to help you give up or reduce sugar in your diet. Take a look here
3 – How you need to be true to yourself in all that you do
It’s been really interesting watching Derek for a month. I feel like I know him better now! He has shared a lot of great advice over the weeks and taken us out onto the streets of New York which was cool. His style is quite direct and he wears black t-shirts and track suit bottoms most days because this is what he likes. I like that he is true to himself in this way.
I’ve always believed in being true to myself. Which means being true to others too because they are getting the real me. And I always intend to be this way in my business too. If someone comes to me as a client and we are going to work together to change their life for the better, they deserve the real me and my very self to facilitate their changes.
The other day I heard some children talking about peoples’ reactions when they played their game of sweet and sour.
Apparently sweet and sour game is where you sit in the back of a Volvo and wave at strangers in others cars. If they wave back they are sweet and if they don’t they are sour! I heard about how one man had showed them a doughnut and another man did a salute. They thought this was great. Children find lots of ways to have fun for free.
Adults can have fun for free too. You might get some funny looks if you play sweet and sour but here are some ideas of things you can do for free.
Yesterday you met your own mind COP by imagining what you mind COP looked like, sounds like, wears…
Maybe one of these?
Today we are going to look at how your mind COP will catch those criminal negative thoughts and keep your mind safe. For the past week you have been keeping a note of your negative mind chatter in your notebook. Now is the time to have a good look at what you have written and start working on making some changes to how that chatter might make you feel bad.
Let’s see mind COP in action.
Catch them: You’ve been catching mind chatter for nearly a week. You should have a pretty good idea of what yours is saying to you and who your criminals are.
Own them: These are your thoughts. You created them. You can acknowledge them. Consider them and choose whether to discard them or whether to arrest them.
Protect yourself: You protect yourself by arresting the negative thoughts, examining the evidence and deciding whether to charge them or give them a warning.
Here’s an example based on the losing your job example negative thoughts we looked at yesterday. Read each thought from left to right to see how Mind COP works.
‘I should have worked harder’
I did work hard though
Maybe they didn’t really appreciate me?
‘Why didn’t I take that course to learn more’
I did a lot of development in that role
This is a chance to learn something new
‘I’m no good’
Is everything I’ve ever done no good?
I’ve achieved a lot
With those that love me?
I matter to the people that matter to me
I was one of 10
I will find a better fit
‘I’m not clever’
I was the problem solver
I need a new challenge
‘I’ll never get another job’
Have you tried?
I wonder what job I will love?
You can see how Mind COP is examining each thought and looking at it in a different way. One thought does not make a truth. One thought may seek evidence from the subconscious to support it, but Mind COP doesn’t fall for this.
Mind COP is objective and realizes that thoughts tell stories but their alibi is weak when questioned. Mind COP wants to hear from the witnesses and sort out those criminal negative thoughts.
You tell fibs
You see when you tell think a negative thought it’s probably not true and your Mind Cop might make this face!
So the next time those pesky criminal negative thoughts are doing a ‘wrong un’ in your mind, just see them scarper when Mind COP comes along and bangs them to rights.
Your time is precious, don’t waste it
How much of your precious life are you going to spend thinking negatively?
Think about it, how much time are you going to think about negative situations, obsess about the things that went wrong it your life, worry about things that happen or might never happen? Two hours a day? Which is 14 hours a week. Which is 60 hours a month. Which is 730 hours a year. Which is 30 DAYS A YEAR of feeling bad. What could you do in 30 days? A lot! In our example of losing the job, that is 30 days of enjoying the freedom of not working and exploring options for a new career whilst feeling happier.
Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs and change. By learning to manage your thoughts you will be more resilient in the tough times and happier on the whole. You are not your past, your current situation or what people say about you. You are so much more than that and you can shine.
Write your own table of negative mind chatter in the same format as above and set your mind COP to work
Or Aviator Amelia Earhart before becoming the first woman to fly an aircraft across the Atlantic Ocean in 1928.
Or how about Rosa Parks, a 42-year-old African-American seamstress refused to give up her seat in 1955 to a white passenger on the Montgomery City bus.
And of course suffragette Emmeline Pankhurst who shaped an idea of women for our time and shook society into a new pattern from which there could be no going back In 1903. She staged hunger strikes and withstood violence and abuse to enable all women the right to vote.
And Malala Yousafzai who was shot 3 times in the head on a school bus in Pakistan because she had spoken out about education. She is now said to be one of ‘The 100 Most Influential People in the World’ and co-received the Novel Peace Prize in 2014, aged 17 years old.
So what makes a bold woman?
What all the women above have in common is a purpose. An inner calling to do what it is that they believe in. To be true to themselves.. These women are great women to remember this International Women’s Day. They were fully aware of their values and fully aligned to their purpose. That gave them the energy and the confidence to pursue their very different dreams and beliefs.
Now we won’t all have a purpose maybe as big as theirs but EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. has:
And the ability to be bold
I see it all the time in my Hypnotherapy practice. People who have let life get in the way and they’ve forgotten these bits of themselves. Then we start doing some ‘work of the self’ and there they are. Eyes brighter and sparkling, remembering those parts of themselves that they’d forgotten. Their fire ignited and that inner strength alive.
What will your bold thing be?
Being bold can be anything! It doesn’t have to change the world, it just needs to feel brave to you. How about:
If you are dealing with a phobia or anxiety it might be:
Putting a spider out by yourself
Driving on a motorway
Flying without fear
Giving a presentation
If you are depressed it might be:
Telling someone how you are feeling
Leaving the house
Making new friends
Seeking some help
If you want to lose weight it might be:
Commiting to a date to start healthy eating
Joining a gym
Getting a bike
Telling people you want to change
Admitting to yourself you aren’t really happy as you are
If you lack confidence it might be:
Stop being a people pleaser
Saying ‘no’ to people who scare you
Saying what you really think
Starting a new hobby
Speaking to new people
Show the world your bold!
Being a bold woman is being who you really are. Showing the world who you are. Not being afraid to be different. Not being afraid to speak up or speak out. You can be bold in your own time and on your terms.
You can have a great job, run a business, bring up children, travel, be single or in relationship. Your life can be whatever you want it to be. You might just need to be bold to make it so.
Let’s get bold together
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So, today is the last day of my 30 days to a happier you blog program. It’s been amazing writing these blogs for you and sharing some of what I know about how to feel happier.
And today I have a very special gift for you. Happy goggles. To claim your free pair just send me an email and tell me which was your favourite blog and why and if you would like the men’s or ladie’s happy goggles. If you would like to read the blogs again, I’ve listed them all below for you with a summary of each.
No but seriously, I won’t be sending happy goggles obviously but as a therapist I would love to hear from you!
And you don’t need me to send you those goggles because you already have them. When you feel the need, just pop them on and see things differently. Thoughts are just thoughts which create feelings. Thoughts can only be real if the thing you are thinking is happening right there and then. Otherwise you are just thinking about something that happened or might happen and that might make you feel bad. So change your thinking and change your feelings.
Money back guarantee
30 days to a happier you – If this is the first time you’ve come across this blog or you haven’t read them all, no problem! Here they all are! The full program. Do them all and I promise you will feel different. I even offer a money back guarantee 🙂
You just need a notebook and pen, to read the blogs each day and dedicate a small amount of time each day to do the exercises. This is not meant to be another thing on your ‘to do list’. It is meant to make a difference to how happy you feel. For free!
Day 1 – you gave yourself a current happiness score out of 10 to see how happy you currently are.
Day 2 – you started to catch negative mind chatter going on in your head and made a note of it in your notebook.
Day 4 – you became a mind COP by realising how much time you spend thinking negatively. You are now focused on catching those negative thoughts as they come in, owning the thought and protect yourself by realising it might not be true.
Day 5 – you did the shake N vac and started to freshen your mind with gratitude.
Day 6 – you wrote a really good gratitude list that means something to you.
Day 8 You looked at your negative mind chatter and met your Mind COP
Day 9 Mind COP came to your rescue and helped you catch those negative thoughts, own them and protect yourself
Day 10 I gave you a huge list of things to do for free to add to your happiness and no doubt you came up with lots of your own
Day 11 You thought about your USPS and made a list of your special and unique qualities
Day 12 You recognized your strengths and how playing to them will make you more you and compare yourself to others less
Day 13 I shared a list of people that inspire me and why and you had a think about who inspires you and why
Day 15 Life really is like a box of chocolates because you never know what you are gonna get. You wrote a postcard to your younger self to share some of your life lessons.
Day 16 We looked at how if you ignore a mind problem it can become a bigger problem like a tooth absess
Day 17 We looked at how feeling like a misfit is actually an advantage and you made a list people that value your uniqueness
Day 18 I gave you a video with EFT tapping to make you feel more confident in 2 minutes
Day 19 We looked at how judging others affects our own wellbeing and you have some things to do to change how you respond to others
Day 20 I gave you a free relaxing download so you can declutter your mind
Day 22 We looked at energy and you did an exercise about what feeds or drains your energy physically, emotionally and spiritually
Day 27 guest blogger Dawn Breslin talked about coping with uncertainty to protect happiness
Day 28 We looked at 7 things that might be draining your energy and you started to monitor possible energy leaks over 7 days
Day 29 I spoke about how you might have a thing that you need help with like depression, lack of confidence, anxiety, stress, sleep, trauma, smoking, weight, something from the past so you can move forward and be happier
You are not alone
If you are finding this difficult to do on your own, no problem, because I can help you. I work with adults and children age 5+ in person in West Sussex or on Skype round the world! My clients have significiant insights and shifts. Most clients say they wish they had come sooner.
Here’s the plan:
Please do let me know what you thought of the program You are the reason I did it and I would love to hear your feedback. You can do that in the comments on my blogs or on my facebook page
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Dawn is a Life Coach, Personal Development Teacher, Inspirational Speaker and Hay House Author. She is the Founder of The Harmonizing Coaching Academy, a holistic coaching school which offers a suite of bespoke heart-centred coach training programmes to Coaches, Therapists, NLP Practitioners and Healers.
Here is Dawn’s guest blog for us…..
Coping with uncertainty – wisdom from Mother Nature
Chaos is erupting all over the planet and human beings caught in the cross fire are suffering on a grand scale.
Whether it’s global disharmony or the disharmony in our own personal or business lives, the current climate of instability is impacting everyone. Daily waves of shock and terror rock the foundations of our security, shake our confidence and leave many of us feeling out of control.
Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Human beings love certainty. We crave predictability.
So, what happens if the political leader you despise gets in, the life you secretly crave never transpires, your relationship doesn’t look like it’s going to make it, the business runs out of money or indeed you run out of patience or energy? What if you were to lose your job, lose your pension or, dare I say it, face an incurable illness? How do you feel when you are confronted with the unknown?
Each of us deals with fear and uncertainty in our own unique way
Some of us appear to manage the blows of bad news, whilst others attempt to ignore their deepest fears, numbing their true feelings and burying their heads in the sand. They cling on for dear life, mentally trying to hold back the unfolding tide of reality. Human beings like to know what’s happening and when we can expect an outcome – our careers, our businesses our relationships and our financial security, all appear to depend on certainty – but do they really?
Living a full life means living with uncertainty
Being human and participating in a full life is risky business. We are actually living in a constant state of ever evolving flux and change. Whether we acknowledge it or not, our lives are messy and unpredictable. Driving a car, being in a job or a relationship, being a parent, buying into a pension scheme, going on a date or getting pregnant, even being born; all involve risk. Things don’t always turn out as we plan, fortunately most of us survive it.
The tightness with which we hold on to our fixed ideas of how we would like life to be, determines how easily we transition through change.
Human beings are incredibly resilient. You are actually much more resilient and adaptable than you could ever imagine.
When we begin to let go of the ideas of how we think our life or world should be and we begin to accept the reality of how things really are, our suffering will begin to lessen. Acceptance of change will set us free as we step back into the flow of our evolving future.
There are huge upsides to instability and change.
Change can potentially grow us; it evolves our perspective. It has a lasting emotional, physical and spiritual impact on us, both as individuals and as the human collective. In my experience, the people who have undergone loss, pain and tragedy in their lives have gained vast amounts of empathy and wisdom. Change is a birthplace of creativity and new beginnings. It can offer us freedom from the chains of stagnation, pain and powerlessness. Change can be our friend.
Mother Nature can help us to adapt more easily to change.
Mother Nature is a master at adapting to chaos and change. Plants have survived through ever changing weather patterns. Droughts, storms, floods, frost and snow happen yet life goes on. Nature is in a constant state of flux, yet she always remains present and receptive, ready for her next stage of growth. Unlike humans, who question their capacity to adapt or survive in adverse situations, Nature trusts and adapts to her circumstances with essential ease. This is grace.
How does Nature flow with uncertainty and change?
She does notresist or fightthe storms; she stays soft and allows them to pass through
She does notfearwhat’s coming next; she stays rooted in herself, trusting in grace.
She does notattachto an outcome; she remains prepared to let go, in order to grow.
She does notcontrolher unfolding; she trusts in the guidance of the life forces and her ability to adapt.
Being a human means you are constantly growing. Growth means change. In your own life so far you have experienced many changes already, some which were easy and some which were difficult. One thing is for sure, when you are open to change you have the power to guide the evolving direction of your life. If you are closed, you will stagnate.
The next time you feel fearful about a change remind yourself…
I CANadapt. I am much more resilient than I believe.
I CANre-form my life and create a new vision at any time.
I CANlet go my damaging attachments to people, experiences or stuff. This alleviates my suffering.
I CANlet go with ease and allow my life open up to a new chapter.
I CANlet go resistance to my truth. I can face change and new beginnings.
I CANlet go stagnation as I courageously embrace this ending.
I CANlet go into a resting and re-forming period of my life.
I CANtrust I know what I need to keep and what I need to let go.
You can also watch Dawn Breslin’s story of growth through burn out and recovery here.