I can share with you How to show up as your authentic self in life and business because I do it! Sometimes we don’t connect the dots between ourselves and our businesses but I think it’s catching on, because I am seeing a lot of business people talking about mindset.
I’ve been following Judith Morgan’s blog fest with interest because I love reading blogs for starters (nearly as much as I love writing them!) but more than that, I love hearing people’s stories. These blogs are really people’s business stories and It all ties in with her new book called Your Biz Your Way which is about doing YOUR business YOUR way. And you can find Judith’s blog here. Now I’m all about living life your way so this sits well with me!
Treat this like this is your life
I remember someone saying to me in my Corporate job ‘Treat this like it was your business’. That excited me so much because even in a big corporation there were people that realised if you give people trust and ownership, they will be more inspired and driven. That little comment made a great big difference to my teams’ results. It was me being my authentic self in that role.
I think that ‘Treat this like this is your business’ could translate more broadly into ‘Treat this like this is your life’ and that is something I certainly live by. So many people wait to be ‘done to’ but often you have to make your life happen on purpose. You have more power as your authentic self.
Got no money; make some. Got no friends; Find some. Hate your job? The list goes on. You can change most things in your life. If you want to. Believing this is the first step. The opportunities are abundant in 2018 and we are truly blessed.
This can be a bit of a mindset shift and in my therapy business I help a lot of people with mindset shifts! But get your head in the game and this really is YOUR LIFE and you will feel like you have more options. More power and therefore more happiness.
My life fundamentals
I have some fundamentals that I live my life as my authentic self and things are not much different in my business. Let me share these with you now:
Use energy wisely
I am fully aware of my energy levels. When they are high I harness them and flourish and when they are low, I replenish. I try to never go overdrawn because when I am depleted I cannot give my best self to life, family, friends and clients
I don’t waste my energy on arguments, gossip, comparison or anything that brings negative energy into my ‘field’.
I replenish mostly in nature, walking and being around tress or the sea.
It is said that children laugh around 300 times a day and adults just 17. I look for laughter at every opportunity because it feels good! And bring laughter into my therapy practice because it’s as excellent way to access the unconscious and change how something feels.
Do things that bring you joy
I know myself well. I could write an exact list right now of things that bring me joy. If I ever feel myself creeping away from joy I act quick and get it back. This is a life skill in my view.
Things that bring you joy don’t have to be big or expensive, they just need to bring you joy.
In my therapy business I get joy from working at a deep level with clients. I help them find themselves and find their own joy too.
When I travel I really go for it. Get involved in the culture, see all there is to see, eat the local food, go where the locals go and find out about their cultures and traditions.
I explore in my business too. Mostly training in new therapies because I seek out the best trainers Worldwide. But in a broader sense trying new things with clients to best help them.
I don’t do gimmicks, I don’t endorse people I don’t trust or believe in and I always bring my true self to the table/day/session. These criteria are true to authentic self. I love values because they form our identity and it’s a big piece of the work I do in my signature package (if you are curious about what that is please do ask me). When we align to our true values people get the best of us and it’s funny how the right things come to us.
I see being my authentic self as a hugely important part of being a therapist. My energy will flow in a way that shows people my intentions are to help them the best I can. Trust and rapport are part of a good Hypnosis session.
If I give my true self, it creates an energetic circuit where my client can be open about what they want to change and achieve the best possible results.
If you are a Facebook friend of mine you will know that I share knowledge freely. I believe if we all share knowledge, the world is a better place because we all know more. It’s also a great chance for discussion.
I share knowledge freely as a therapist. I don’t hold things back for ‘the next session’, if I think it benefits the client, I share it or use it there and then. Best outcomes are my mission!
Focus on your strengths
No one asks Tiger Woods to excel at basketball do they? He is really good at golf so he plays that, wins, feels great, earns good money and thrills his fans. Why on earth would he focus on other sports that he isn’t good at? Unless he wanted to learn new things or he enjoyed doing them of course.
We spend too much time thinking about the things we aren’t good at when I believe we should nurture and grow the things we are good at. I also believe we all have a gift/gifts. You’ve just got to find yours.
Know WHO you are, not WHAT you are
I often ask clients ‘Who are you’? And they answer with things like mum, wife, dad, husband, sister, brother, lawyer, teacher, entrepreneur, fitness addict or whatever. Usually a role, job or hobby.
And then we do what I call ‘work of the self’, where we uncover the parts of them they may have overlooked or forgotten. When we uncover their real ‘who’ it feels exciting. Like a new toy to be played with!
Just so you know, I am an explorer 🙂
Everything flows when you are your authentic self
This was a very easy post to write. It flowed from the heart and isn’t it great how easy things are when we are just our true selves. I believe when we live our truth, we do our best work.
I would love to hear what you think of how finding yourself links to having a better business and if you want to hear more from me, please come and follow me on Facebook and Instagram
What I learnt from Derek Halpern about making online courses because yes, I am making online courses to help people.
I’m going through an exciting time in my business developing online courses so I can help people around the world. So I spent some time watching Derek Halpern from Social Triggers on You Tube who is good at all things online. Here are 3 things I’ve learnt from Derek Halpern
1 – How important working with knowledgeable people is to me.
I can’t just launch a course and hope that someone finds it! And that’s why I’ve been following Derek Halpern. He knows a lot about online courses and content. He has been doing daily videos for about a month now and I like his insights.
I’ve worked hard in my therapy career to learn from some of the top people in the business. Paul Mckenna for Hypnosis, Richard Bandler for NLP, Kevin Laye for Psychosensory Techniques and Principles, the list goes on. Not to mention all the books and online courses which are also an excellent way to learn.
So that’s my therapy core learning sorted (although I regularly top up and learn new therapies as many practitioners do). I’ve been helping people with stop smoking, anxiety, stress, sleep, weight loss, confidence, depression and life direction for years now and there is always something new to learn.
Some weeks my appointment book is very busy and so the way for me to help more people is with online courses and downloads. So I’ve created the Change Your Life Academy for that reason. It’s going to be jam packed full of courses to help you and I will give you all my best knowledge there.
2 – How important it is to give people that buy your courses quality content.
An online course shouldn’t be something that when the person that buys it starts using it they don’t get what was promised. I need to provide a service in my courses. Something of value. Especially if you are a therapist because the reason people are buying your course is because they want to make a problem better or they want to grow.
My course needs to be carefully thought out, full of quality content and most of all be of value to the person that buys it. This is the bit I am most looking forward to. I’ve spent years learning and can’t wait to share my theory and practical knowledge with you!
My first course which you can buy right now is Crush Your Sugar Cravings. This course was created by me to help you give up or reduce sugar in your diet. Take a look here
3 – How you need to be true to yourself in all that you do
It’s been really interesting watching Derek for a month. I feel like I know him better now! He has shared a lot of great advice over the weeks and taken us out onto the streets of New York which was cool. His style is quite direct and he wears black t-shirts and track suit bottoms most days because this is what he likes. I like that he is true to himself in this way.
I’ve always believed in being true to myself. Which means being true to others too because they are getting the real me. And I always intend to be this way in my business too. If someone comes to me as a client and we are going to work together to change their life for the better, they deserve the real me and my very self to facilitate their changes.
How good is your sleep recently? There seems to be an epidemic of bad sleep going round! Many of my clients report poor sleep as an issue.
A lack of sleep can affect:
Your immune system
Your cardiovascular system
Your chances of getting dementia in later life
If you’re someone who doesn’t find getting to sleep at night easy, you’re not alone – insomnia is one of the UK’s biggest googled health worries.
I believe that sleep is one of the cornerstones of health and wellbeing. Even one or two nights of poor sleep can really make you feel low, agitated and sluggish.
So often people focus on what they should be doing and they aim to do it perfectly This can causes stress in itself. So, for this blog I thought I would reverse it and focus on the three main things that you could not do that would make the biggest difference to your sleep.
Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed as it stimulates your brain
Don’t go to bed at random times. Stick to a sleep schedule. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day when possible
Let’s look at them one by one.
1 – Stop shallow breathing
Just take a moment now and notice how you are breathing. Is your breath high in your chest or from low? Are your breathes shallow or deep? Fast or slow? Are you breathing through your nose or your mouth? We mostly take the breath for granted. It is taken care of by our unconscious mind which operates our breathing and all the systems and organs in the body to keep us alive. But you can really relax by breathing in a different way and although there are many techniques and even classes for breathing, diaphragmatic breathing is a good one to master because it really relaxes your and puts you in control. Many of my clients I help with anxiety and stress find it very beneficial and it’s a great one to do in bed to prepare for sleep.
2 – Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed
Now without getting all scientific here about the reward receptors in your brain and how they love a bit of Facebook and Instagram, think about this for a moment. You are looking at a bright screen, your eyes are focused on small items and words and you might be toggling between apps, internet, text and calls. Does that sound like a peaceful bedtime wind down time?! I think not. I actually read yesterday that our brains don’t know the difference between work emails and personal emails, Your brain jumps into ‘work’ mode whenever it sees an email and this creates cortisol (a stress hormone) in your body. Not what you want at bedtime. So stay away from the Digital gadgets at bedtime and choose a more soothing and relaxing wind down activity. You will absolutely notice a difference.
3 – Don’t go to bed at random times
We are creatures of habit really. We do well with routines and we have to sleep every night so might as well try and make it a routine that your body will like. We put children to bed at the same time each night mostly but not ourselves? Your body will love a routine for sleep, just as it loves regular mealtimes. It knows what to expect and can manage its energy accordingly.
Because sleep is so important to your health and maybe an issue for you, you might like to try the things on this list and let me know which is your favourite. Or maybe you have a ‘stop doing’ tip of your own that you can share in the comments of this blog? We would love to hear it, you might help someone sleep better tonight.
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So how you can crush your sugar cravings for better health? For a few years now one of my most popular services has been helping people go sugar free or reduce their sugar intake.
Going sugar free is like giving up smoking
Sugar is an addictive substance. But I see it a lot like giving up smoking with two elements. There is the physical addiction and then the habit. Removing the sugar from the body can be done quite easily by just not having it for a few days. The habit needs to be addressed by changing your mindset.
This is where my skills as an advanced Hypnotherapist make the difference. I help you use the power of your mind to move towards a life that doesn’t depends on sugar for energy, happiness or satisfaction. You see, that’s just a belief that you have. This is the same process I use to help people stop smoking. Just like smoking, people carry on abusing their body for years because they are trapped. You can be sugar free (quite easily).
The sugar free authors
There are lots of books about going sugar free available, with some very yummy recipes! Here are a few of my favourites:
Whilst I love their books and recipes, what these books are not able to address is the mental and emotional need and desire for sugar. For many people, this is stronger than the physical need. Which is why my sugar free programme is different. It has the Hypnotic recording that you can listen to as often as you want or need to.
What’s the problem with eating sugar anyway?
For the occasional and moderate sugar eater, there might not be a problem. But if you someone that uses it as an emotional crutch or find yourself addicted, it can make you feel bad about yourself, not to mention the damage it does to your body (which I will cover in future blog posts).
I have ridden the sugar roller coaster myself and know I don’t like how it feels when I am eating lots of sugar. I know what my own symptoms of sugar eating are. You might recognise some of these as yours:
Energy dips. So tired at times in the day you feel like you need to have a sleep because you just can’t function
Out of control. An insatiable desire for sugary foods. Looking for the next ‘fix’
Worrying how you will function without it
Using it as a source of pleasure
Spending lots of money on sugary foods.
Falling into a ‘savoury’ then ‘sweet’ trap. This one reminds me of Christmas binging but the problem is it is happening every day
Lack of glow
Small pimples on skin
Worry about eating too much sugar and its effects on your body
Guilt about setting a bad example to your children
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Sugar is addictive and easy to get your hands on. Unfortunately it is also hidden in a lot of the food and drink you consume and you might not even realise it. But it is not good for you. Your body is not designed to cope with large amounts of sugar and whilst most things, sugar is ok in moderation, but maybe sugar is a problem they you would rather be without.
What is the process for Crushing Your Sugar Cravings?
I have been helping crush their sugar cravings face to face and on Skype for years . I have now devised an effective online programme for you to use in your own home. I have my Hypnosis skills and nutritional experience to devise a programme that lets you cleanse your body of sugar naturally and change your mindset towards eating sugar. You can buy the online programme here for £19.99.
You will need a blender to make the recipes, because for 3 days you will be having home made health drinks to cleanse your body of sugar and remove those sugar cravings. You listen to the Hypnotic recording as often as you want to and notice your thoughts and feelings towards sugar and the way you nourish yourself changing. For good!
How will you feel when you Crush Your Sugar Cravings?
The first thing is a sense of freedom! When you are addicted to sugar, it can feel like it is controlling you. Removing those craving and the feeling that you ‘need sugar’ sets you free.
The Crush Your Sugar Cravings programme I have carefully designed have designed will make overcoming your sugar addiction easy. At the same time it will fill your body with nutrients and made you feel amazing. Some of the benefits you can expect by completing these programme are:
It will stop the misery of sugar filled days and guilt around eating too much sugar
It will put you in control of your nutrition
You will feel amazing and find your glow
You will have the satisfaction of overcoming your addiction
You complete the course at a time that suits you and the course is yours to keep
You get access to a likeminded community for unlimited support
You may lose weight
You will be taking steps to improve your health
This is your way to break your sugar addiction and feel fantastic in just 3 days.
The way this programme works is you drink the specially devised ‘health drinks’ for 3 days. That’s right, no solid food, just the drinks. The reason for this is by not having to fully digest food, your body can focus on extracting the nutrients from the ‘health drinks’ you will be having. With these nutrients filling your body you will feel amazing. And when you feel that amazing, believe me, you won’t want to spoil it with sugar.
The body also uses a huge amount of energy digesting food. So by drinking easy to digest drinks for 3 days, you will have increased energy levels which make you feel even more amazing. Maybe you haven’t had good energy for a while and you will absolutely love having some now by following this programme.
If you think that sounds difficult, it won’t be. You have a Hypnotic recording to support you and harness the power of your mind to achieve this and start your new life of energy without addiction.
Don’t delay, start your journey to freedom from sugar today
You can buy the online course right now. Please pass the details on to your friends who have been talking about going sugar free too.
The other day I heard some children talking about peoples’ reactions when they played their game of sweet and sour.
Apparently sweet and sour game is where you sit in the back of a Volvo and wave at strangers in others cars. If they wave back they are sweet and if they don’t they are sour! I heard about how one man had showed them a doughnut and another man did a salute. They thought this was great. Children find lots of ways to have fun for free.
Adults can have fun for free too. You might get some funny looks if you play sweet and sour but here are some ideas of things you can do for free.