The top 3 enemies of healthy eating
1 – Friends & family
It’s nice to be loved. It makes the world go round. But sometimes those that love us can scarper our healthy eating plans. Imagine the scene, you are at your family’s house announcing your plans to eat right and lose weight. You are motivated and ready. You want to share it with them because you are excited and want their support. The conversation goes something like this….
You – ‘I’m starting a healthy eating plan’
Them – ‘What another diet?’
You – ‘Less sugar, processed foods and fried foods’
Them ‘but you are fine as you are’
You – ‘I just want more energy and to lose some weight’
Them ‘ that sounds ok but will you still be round for Sunday dinners and are you still coming for that big cream tea next week?’
You ‘yes but I won’t be eating as much’
Them ‘oh, that’s no fun! You’re fine as you are!’
This time you feel like you really really mean it. But don’t forget they’ve beee through all this before! And every time there you are spoiling their fun and advising them on how they could make healthier choices when they are tucking into their favourite things!
These people love you for you. Not your dress size. They don’t want to see you miserable and hungry (which is why it’s important to get your diet plan right because ones that make you miserable and hungry don’t tend to last).
We like to feed those we love
Often we feed those we love. This makes complete sense because the main job of looking after a baby is to feed it so that food/love connection is very deep and strong. Some people take great pleasure and pride in preparing food for their loved ones. It is symbolic of their love for you. So for that to be rejected in any way can be hurtful. Even if that glorious Victoria sponge is full of love, you have chosen not to eat it because it’s sugar and fat content is not on your eating agenda.
If you are out with friends and they are all indulging, it can make you feel the odd one out not to join in. You might get comments like ‘oh come on we don’t see you very often’ or ‘you only live once’. You could also subconsciously irritate others by remaining committed to your healthy choices when they want to indulge. My personal view here is that we should respect the choices and views of everyone as there will always be some things that we support and some things that we don’t understand about others.
2 – Emotions
One study by a team of researchers from New Zealand that looked at why people wanted to lose weight found that half wanted to improve their health, a third wanted to improve their appearance and the rest wanted to feel happier about themselves. They concluded that the best reasons to lose weight were health and appearance. What was suggested is that losing weight may not help with managing emotions. The answer is to learn how to manage your emotions before or during tackling weight loss.
If your self-esteem is low and you look to weight loss only to improve it this is a risky long term strategy. You are more than a body. You are mind, body and spirit and you will be more resilient if you work on all aspects on yourself.
It’ not just overweight people that are unhappy
It is a myth that only overweight people are unhappy. In my Hypnotherapy practice I see plenty of slim people who need help with anxiety, confidence, depression, sleep and stress. Some of my clients have lost weight in all manner of ways and are surprised that they still are not happy at the end of it. This is where we do work on the inside to increase self-esteem and confidence.
As an NLP Master Practitioner I help you understand yourself more giving them you a real sense of who you are. You are able to move forward in your life feeling better about being you, feeling more confident and able to communicate in ways that don’t leave you feeling cheated. It really feels good to be you and your outlook to life will be different.
Here are some of the things people have said after working with me:
- ‘I feel like I can clearly see what was holding me back’
- ‘I came in not expecting much and I feel like I’ve changed my life’
- ‘I now have control of my life’
- ‘I feel ’empowered’ I feel so much better in myself’
3 – Victim mentality
A victim mentality means not accepting responsibility for what you eat. It means taking ownership of what enters your mouth and being accountable. No one is saying that you have to eat healthy or lose weight. You make that choice. But it is not congruent to say you are unhappy about something and that you are working on changing it and then continue to make excuses.
But if you are constantly preoccupied with your health or weight and unhappy about it, there will always be a reason why you can’t do it. Everyone has at least one. It’s not always easy! It doesn’t always fit in with life and it takes long term commitment to sustain but the sooner you own it like Beyonce owns it, the sooner you will see changes and feel more in control. If that is what you want.
Here are some reasons people give for not achieving the weight loss they say they want.
- I don’t have time
- I’ve had kids
- I work away
- I have a sweet tooth
- I’m stressed
- I can’t afford it
You don’t have to go it alone
Not everyone finds it easy to do it alone. There is just so much information about food, eating and weight loss it can be overwhelming and make you not want to bother!
Some people get great results by having some support and I can help you with that. I won’t give you food plans (although I could if that is what you want as I have Nutrition qualifications) but I will motivate you, help you overcome your demons and get you making healthy food choices much more easily.
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See you tomorrow