The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

It’s big thing to say change you can change peoples lives. Surgeons can say it, the people at lottery HQ can say it and maybe Apple can say it! But why can a Hypnotherapist say it?!

It’s unlikely that everyone makes it through life without encountering some sort of issue. Issues like:

Stress which can be work related, relationship related or simply life related and untreated stress can lead to depression

 

Anxiety which can manifest in many ways including post traumatic stress disorder, social phobia and panic attacks
 
Grief related to someone passing away or the loss of something important to you

 

Poor sleep which can really disrupt everything in your life

 

Depression which can affect anyone and create a cloud in your life. There is a useful factsheet here about depression

 

Uncertainty about life direction which can really make you feel lost

 

Emotional pain which can lurk for years but refuse to go away until it’s dealt with

 

Phobias which are sometimes irrational but life affecting

 

Weight gain which affects your confidence or self esteem 

 

Overcoming issues

 

So how do people overcome these issues? The most popular adage is that time is a great healer. I would argue here that in many cases the unconcious mind buries the issue and it often appears later in an unwanted behaviour or emotion.

If time healed everything I wouldn’t see so many clients that were affected by issues and traumas that occured years ago or even  in childhood. This pain is often disguised by the person telling themselves that they dealt with everything and their depression, anxiety or weight gain have happened because of another reason.

You could ride the issue out of course. This can take 1, 10,20,30 years! You can find all sorts of workarounds to avoid exposing the issue and live a life with exceptions because of the issue. You won’t know how long the issue will last and the longer you carry it, the more ingrained it becomes as a habit which might make you feel frustrated and upset. But it might go. One day.

You could go for counceling, CBT or other therapies and these work for many people but often the number of sessions is high which can be a big time and cost investment. I have a blog post about the difference between Counselling and Hypnotherapy here.

Sometimes people find that these kind of therapies don’t help and my view on this is that this may be down to when we talk about our issues, we relive them.  This gives the brain another experience of the issue to use as evidence that we have an issue. (Stick with me here). You also get another experience to remind you how the issue make you feel rather than the opportunity to experience a different feeling about the issue, which is how Hypnotherapy works. The brain carries a negative bias (meaning it finds it easier to think negatively than positively) so if you remind it of a negative experience or feeling it will focus on that. If you give your brain positive feelings and thoughts it will be pulled in that direction instead.

Interupted sleep

You could ignore the issue. An issue will pop up in the most unexpected of ways until you deal with it. The good news is that when an issue won’t go away until you resolve it, it will keep reminding you until you do. Notice these signs if you can so that anxiety doesn’t turn to depression or that food doesn’t become your solace etc.

So how does Hypnotherapy change lives?

 

When I started offering Hypnotherapy I underestimated it. People would come, I would make them feel better and they would be happy, get rid of their phobia, feel less depressed, overcome their anxiety, give up smoking whatever. But over the years as I have developed my Hypnotherapy skills, introduced Harley Street techniques and continued to use NLP at Master level I have seen many lives ‘change’.

Becoming a non-smoker

Take a smoker. Many smokers have tried to give up smoking a fair few times and feel frustrated and desperate to kick the habit but just can’t do it by themselves. They do some research and the idea of Hypnotherapy comes to them. They have their treatment and stop smoking easily. They are healthier, wealthier and free of the habit. It’s the easiest way to give up.

Losing weight

For some people losing weight changes their lives. They find that once they lose weight they have more energy and maybe start exercising. Maybe they find the confidence to do new things, go to new places, get a partner or a new job. Losing weight with Hypnotherapy can change people’s lives in many ways. And when I help you lose weight with Hypnotherapy, I build in healthy eating habits, portion control and confidence. And if necessary we fully explore the reasons for your weight gain or overeating and make that a thing of the past.

Being free of depression

freedom from depression

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you suffer from depression you may feel like you are living under a dark cloud; like you can’t get motivated to do anything or really enjoy your life. Can you imagine how your life would change if you didn’t feel depressed? What would be different for you? Maybe your social life would be different or you would achieve more of the things that you really want to do. Or maybe your relationships would be better or you would just be much happier. Living without depression is definitely life changing.

Overcoming anxiety

Anxiety sufferers can be the most enthusiastic about their life changes! What’s not to like about a life without panic attacks, sweats, shortness of breath or routines you have to run because you feel controlled by your anxiety. I use a blend of techniques to help my anxiety clients and sometimes it can take as little as one session to remove anxiety they have carried for years (although I don’t guarantee one session because there should not be that expectation and every case in individual). I also provide all my anxiety clients with a maintenance plan so they have the confidence to know that they are in total control, whatever comes their way.

Live longer by dealing with stress

Now I don’t want to use scare tactics here but they do actually say that stress is the ‘silent killer. It is unbelievable how many people are living with stress to different degrees. You don’t need to be a stressful job or a turbulent relationship to suffer from stress (although these probably aren’t helpful to anyone). The definition of stress is how you cope in any given situation. So you could be stressed by normal life, family, work or even boredom. Hypnotherapy is deeply relaxing. It takes you to a calm place you may not have connected with before and just like going to the gym to exercise your body muscles, the more you exercise your mind ‘calm’ muscle, the stronger it gets. This means that you find it easier to remain calm and harder to be stressed. Hypnotherapy treatment for stress is more than just feeling relaxed, I help my clients look at their stress triggers and alternative ways to cope with those triggers. When you have less stress in your life this can be life changing if you sleep better, lower your blood pressure, have less anger and better relationships. You can also think more clearly and you are likely to be more creative as creativity is located in the unconscious mind which is present where you are relaxed.

So Hypnotherapists really do change lives. It’s a very rewarding job and every client’s success means that I never tire of this work and training and developing further.

How can I help you change your life?

  • Your starting point might be to try my free relaxing download by signing up to my newsletter
  • You might be fed up of living with your issue and want to take action NOW. So send me an email and I will give you a call to have a chat and make an appointment

I can wait to see what your new life looks like 🙂

Sending you magical vibes.

Honey

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Nothing changes if nothing changes

Nothing changes if nothing changes

Nothing changes if nothing changes might sound obvious, but it really is as simple as that.

Let’s look at the most common things that people want to change:

The way you feel

It amazes me how people get trapped in a spiral of negative thinking of sadness and miss out on so much in their life because they simple don’t know that things can be different. The first thing to note here is that your brain has a negative bias. This means for most people they need to put effort into feeling positive and happy. But the benefits are worth it because you get a nice dose of Dopamine which controls your brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Dopamine  also regulates emotional responses and motivates us to take action towards things that make us feel rewarded. What this means is once you’ve felt good, you will want to do it more and more.

If you have Hypnotherapy for depression (which affects 1 in 3 people at any one time and most people at some point in their lives) you will feel a numbers of benefits:

  • Release issues from the past
  • Feel more energised
  • Break the pattern of negative thinking
  • Obtain techniques for nipping negative feelings in the bud and seeking out more pleasurable feelings
  • Break the cycle

 

The way you look

This can be as simple as wanting a new colour hair or a different hairstyle to something like wanting cosmetic surgery. If you really hate something about the way you look then sometimes it’s not the way you look at all but your thoughts. I’ve actually had quite a few clients in my Hypnotherapy practice who don’t like the way they look and we’ve done what I call ‘work of the self’ to increase self-confidence and self-esteem. After this change work, the way they look is less of an issue. The trouble seems to be that the easiest way to judge someone is how they look and society supports this and people can wind up feeling inferior for absolutely no reason.

The biggest issue for people not liking the way they look seems to be if they feel they are overweight. But losing weight is hard for many and they need support. Hypnotherapy for weight loss really is the easiest way because it doesn’t mean another ‘diet’.  Hypnotherapy for weight loss means you make healthier choices automatically and reasons you might comfort eat for emotional reasons are addressed. you also have the added benefit of motivation and increased confidence being built in.

 

There are things you want to move away from….

Addictions such as smoking

It’s quite unusual to meet a smoker who likes smoking and how it makes them feel and who wouldn’t give up if they felt it would be easy. Giving up smoking with Hypnotherapy is much easier than going it alone. In the stop smoking technique that I use I combine three techniques so it is very effective.

Anxiety

If you suffer from anxiety it can rule your life. Anxiety can vary from being nervous about driving, leaving the house, going to be particular places or being in certain situations. Anxiety can be triggered by not much more than a thought or smell. The most common cause of anxiety is stress. Stress can lead to anxiety symptoms, and anxiety can make stress worse. This can be a bit of a shock to someone who has never suffered from either before and finds themselves suffering from headache, dry mouth, dizziness, and sweating. These symptoms can come on at any time even when most unexpected and even result in panic attacks. People offer suffer in silence but could benefit quickly and easily from the right treatment.

And there are things you want to move towards…..

Do you say or think you want change but not do anything about it? Do you see others around you making changes and feel envious but if you looked at it objectively you could see that they changed because they put the effort, energy and financial investment in to make that change happen? for example if you live in a flat and this makes you unhappy because you would rather have a house are you prepared to get a new job or change your lifestyle to take on the extra responsibility and make that happen?

A better lifestyle

If you really want more money you might need to get a new job or relocate or retrain to find a new job. This means you will need to invest in yourself. Sometimes people are held back by fear and benefit from a confidence boost Hypnotherapy session to help them make changes, take exams or brave an interview.

Dreams

ballroom dancing

Fear and lack of clear direction and goal setting hold a lot of people back from reaching their true potential. What’s amazing about the unconcious mind is that it knows what you really want (even you don’t!). Some of the things that become apparent during Hypnotherapy and coaching can be life changing for people. They realise they are not living the life they really want to or not doing the hobby they would really love. Bring on the ballroom dancing!

Happiness

Happiness is so different for every single person. Some people need to be around people and others needs to be around books! some people will have materialistic aspirations other don’t care about that. Some people will get joy from their dog and others from making up a new recipe. The point is… a lot of people don’t understand themselves well enough to know what makes them intrinsically happy. ‘Work of the self’, that is exploring inner feelings and drivers, knowing your values and identity is the key to the door to your happiness.

 

Make that change now

make that change now

Quite often I will have a free 20 minute consultation with a client and they will go away and think about it. In that time they might try to sort the ‘thing’ out themselves. I hope that for some people this brings a happy ending, I really do. But on many occasions that same person will come back some time later for the thing we spoke about and they will book in. What they always say when we finish working together is that they wish they had come sooner! So if you want change, do it now and reap the benefits ASAP 🙂

 

This blog is one in a series about self-development and ways to help you manage your mental health. I’m providing techniques and advice a  Hypnotherapist and coach working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

Your ‘what I want to change’ list.

For today’s list please make a list of things in your life that you would want to change and pick the most important. Then get in touch for your free 20 minute consultation by calling 07530 890089 or at hello@honeylansdowne.co.uk

Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

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Don’t let anyone put you on the scrapheap

Don’t let anyone put you on the scrapheap

Do you know what Faberge eggs are? They are jeweled creations made by Carl Faberge between 1885 and 1917. Each year one was made as an Easter gift for the Russian Tsars Alexander the third and Nicolas the second.

The eggs are all completely different and individual and made of the finest most precious metals and jewels. About 43 still exist today and can be found mostly in the Kremlin Armoury in Moscow and the Faberge museum in St Petersburg. Faberge’s work was mostly inspired by nature  particularly birds and flowers.

Each egg opens up to reveal a special surprise, let’s look at a couple of examples…

The Coronation Egg Faberge 1897

Made from lattice gold with the date visible under a large diamond and styled on the empress’s outfits. The surprise of the egg was a 7cm carriage inside which even had tiny curtains engraved on the windows and an opening door with a handle the size of a grain of rice.

The Orange Tree Egg Faberge 1911

Orange tree Faberge egg

This egg looks like a tree with it’s carefully constructed leaves, branches and flowers. But the surprise is that there is a keyhole and a tiny lever hidden in the leaves which reveals a bird that waves his wings, turns his head, opens his beak and sings.

The Faberge that was nearly put on the scrap heap

In 2014 an anonomus man bought a Faberge egg for £8,000 and intended to sell it for scrap. He didn’t know what it was or understand its history. It was made for Emperor Alexander the third and once identified, sold for £20 million. The collector saw its beauty and understood its worth.

You are precious and unique

The point of this post is that not everyone sees the value or the beauty of the same thing. Someone nearly scrapped a Faberge and someone else paid £20 million for it.

So think about yourself. When have you taken someone’s opinion of you or rejection of you to heart and thought that means you are not beautiful or valuable? Or special. You need the right combination of you and people who really ‘see’ you and value you. People who see your finer detail, your jewels, your sparkle, your priceless qualities.

So don’t let one or two people take that away. Move on and spend time with people who treat you like you are the most amazing Faberge egg they have ever seen. And forget about the ones that don’t.

 

This blog is one in a series about self-development and ways to help you manage your mental health. I’m providing techniques and advice a  Hypnotherapist and coach working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you answered a couple of questions about how you would live your life given less time to do it. how was that for you? Anything that you have realised you want to do?

 

Your ‘Faberge’ list

For today’s list please make a list of what makes you individual and unique and what your special surprise is (like a Faberge egg).

 

Why I treat my clients like Faberge eggs

Sometimes people come to see me in my Hypnotherapy practice and they’ve lost their sparkle. They’ve had their special surprise knocked out of them by life and people. I see them like Faberge eggs. Each person with their own unique qualities, surprises , skills, hopes and dreams. And I see it as my job to help them feel like that about themselves too 🙂

If you would like a free 20 minute consultation, please get in touch on 07530 890089 or at hello@honeylansdowne.co.uk

Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

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Why getting motivated is as easy as changing your outfit

Why getting motivated is as easy as changing your outfit

Why getting motivated is as easy as changing your outfit

You know how it is. You’ve had sleep but you are still tired. You’ve got a to do list as long as your arm and people expecting things from you just don’t feel like doing anything. You need to get motivated! If only you could get some motivation juice and take a gulp! You know you are wasting your talents and you feel frustrated that you don’t seem to be able to get a handle of the situation.

So how can you get motivated?

We are in a state every second of every day. Some states are positive and some negative. It’s easy for us to slip into different states as we are so versatile but the more time we spend in a particular state, the more comfortable it will be for us to be there. and the easier we make it for our brains to access that state. Think about your ‘default’ state. What is it?

If you are prone to feeling depressed, that’s because you might have made it your ‘default’ state. You know how to feel that way and are not making changes to be in a different state. Sometimes making changes can feel uncomfortable or scary. And it might take effort. But the good news is the more you use techniques to changes your state, the easieryou will be able to do it.

Changing your state is as easy as changing your outfit!

Here are 5 ways to get more motivated:

1 – Do not hide. Get dressed, open the curtains, tidy up and make your surroundings ‘open’

2 – Talk to someone. Anyone. Even if you ask a neighbour a question or call a company to query a bill, you are having an interaction which will stimulate your brain.

3 – Watch or listen to something motivational. I wrote about people that inspire me in a previous blog but you will have your own list I’m sure. You only need one to get you going!

4 – Go outside. Even a 5 minute walk will change your state. Notice things you haven’t seen before.

5 – Listen to this 5 minute audio which will help you feel motivated

Change your state

When I work with clients in my Hypnotherapy practice in West Sussex and Skype, I get them to focus on the time they spend not doing the thing they don’t want to be doing or feeling the way they don’t to be feeling.

For example:

A client that come for help with anxiety or panic attacks won’t be in that state all the time. It would be exhausting. So we examine the times when they don’t feel anxious and work with that.

A client that comes for weight loss can’t be eating all the time. So we look at the times when they are not eating.

A client that comes for stop smoking will not always be smoking. So we look at the times they are not smoking.

A client who feels depressed, will have times when they do not feel depressed or as depressed so we extend those times to make it easier for the brain to know how not to be depressed.

A client who comes for help with stress may feel stressed a lot of the time, so we need to introduce a feeling of not being stressed and extend the time spent in that state.

Once you learn that you can choose you state it’s just like choosing what outfit to wear 🙂

 

This blog is one in a 30 day series about self-development and practical lists we will be making to enhance our lives. I’m using these blogs to provide coaching and advice in my capacity as a qualified coach and Hypnotherapist working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of negative thoughts you might feel. Were you surprised at how many of how few there were?

 

Your get motivated list

Today list is to write a list of ways and times you would like to feel more motivated and then choose your state to get more motivated.

See you tomorrow.

Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

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Why every thought is a choice

Why every thought is a choice

Why every thought is a choice

It’s 2017 and our lives are full of choice. Have you ever thought about how many choices you make in a day? Let’s take a look!

  • Whether to get up or have another five minutes in bed
  • What to wear
  • What to have for breakfast
  • Which route to take to school run/work
  • Which piece of work to tackle first
  • Which emails to reply to first

And so it goes on…

Then you’ve got choices of what to eat, what to buy, what to watch, what to read, who to be friends with, who to talk to, what to read, where to work, work holiday to take… the choices are endless. And let’s not talk about how you want your coffee 🙂

Choose how you feel by changing how you think

But do you ever take time to choose how you think which in turn creates how you feel? This isn’t about turning your emotions off. We need emotions as humans. It’s about understanding that a thought creates a feeling. So if you get caught up in feeling bad, low or depressed and you know that your thoughts are creating these feelings, this gives you the choice.

The choice whether to continue thinking them and feel bad or the choice to have different thoughts and feel different. 

 

Change your story

change your story

Aren’t thoughts amazing anyway? A thought is an invisible thing that can be an idea, an anxiety, hold anger or make you feel completely rubbish. A thought can be  from the past, present or in the future! Thoughts change worlds and create inventions. Thoughts are humans most powerful asset!

When you have a thought that makes you feel bad it will be because it is attaching itself to a story. A story that you hold in your unconcious mind and connects itself to the thing you feel bad about. When you have the thought, you recall the story unknowingly and your unconcious will also search for other evidence to back it up. Even the silliest little thing that your brain has somehow connected to that story.

For example:

If you are feeling like things don’t go right for you and feeling down about it, you will recall all the times where you think things don’t go right for you and look other times things didn’t go right (or how your brain thinks they didn’t go right if it has aligned that belief to a situation).

It will also look for all the times people said that you didn’t do something right, because your very clever brain is looking for evidence and your unconcious mind has a record of everything that has ever happened in your life. No matter how bad you think your memory is, your unconcious knows! This is how people are able to recall things in Hypnosis when their unconcious mind is fully present.

The choice is yours

So the choice you can make is when you feel yourself slipping into negative thoughts to catch yourself. Stop yourself from falling back into that story which isn’t true and choose a different thought instead.

You can change how you feel about being trapped by emotional pain and not liking yourself if you change your story. Now this might sound impossible and if you need help breaking free from the stories that keep you trapped, then I can help you.

Now here we have looked at how our minds can be naughty and focus on negative stories, but we didn’t cover how our amazing minds can be so powerful when they are being positive! So how about creating some new stories where you are happy and vibrant and looking forward to your day/week/year/life!

 

This blog is one in a 30 day series about self-development and practical lists we will be making to enhance our lives. I’m using these blogs to provide coaching and advice in my capacity as a qualified coach and Hypnotherapist working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of some smoothies you might want to try. Have you got the ingredients yet?

Your thought choices list

Today list is to try and catch negative thoughts as they arise and write them down. You might be surprised how different they feel when you write them down.

 

See you tomorrow.

Honey ( Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

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