Why National Stress Awareness Day could save your life

Why National Stress Awareness Day could save your life

I know the title ‘Why National Stress Awareness Day’ could save your life sounds dramatic, but it is true.

Stress is called the silent killer

According to the World Health Organisation Of the 56.4 million deaths worldwide in 2015, more than half (54%) were due to the top 10 causes. And the top 2 causes for the past 15 years have been Ischaemic heart disease and stroke. Stress is often a feature of these two causes.

Have you accepted stress as part of your life?

Society has really changed hasn’t it. More families with both parents working, single parent families, caring responsibilities. Expensive houses to pay for, images and expectations to live up to and of course social media to keep up with.

There’s children’s education, clubs, hobbies, social events and physical and emotional needs to attend to.

You might choose to study. Maybe while working, running a home and raising a family at the same time.

Then there is convienience food and spending a lot of time sitting in jobs that require computer work. And a competitive environment for well paid work.

Wow, it’s stressful even writing all that.

Everyone seems to be in such a rush and has accepted that as normal. Have you?

Hence the popularity of retreats!

What impact is this stress having on your life?

You know the drill. Work as hard as possible do everything as listed above. But you are not too worried because yes! You have a holiday to look forward to. Maybe even all inclusive. Everything done for you. You can really enjoy this time to relax and unwind and just ‘be’. You arrive on the holiday and spend the first few days in a vegetated state. Or even worse… ill! You can’t believe it. Where is your energy? And your joy? They seemed to have gone on a different holiday!

This is so common for people who are living in a stressed state most of the time. The body gets a glimpse of ‘stopping’ and it makes the most of it.

Things you may not have noticed as signs of stress

Thing is, when stress creeps up gradually, you don’t always notice it. You take on more and more. Do more and more. And you are so busy you don’t notice some of the symptoms of stress are upon you like:

  • Headaches
  • Muscular pain in our neck, shoulders or back
  • Fatigue and low energy levels
  • Raised blood pressure
  • Palpitations
  • Increased pain thresholds
  • Poor sleep patterns
  • Poor breathing
  • Suppressed immune system  and increased susceptibility to infections
  • Increases in blood sugar and cholesterol levels

 

Don’t ignore the signs

burnout

Left ignored these symptoms can build into bigger problems like burnout, depression and anxiety. It is your body and mind’s way of rebelling against the pressure it’s under.

Once you suffer from these they may affect:
  • Your relationships with family or friends
  • Your hobbies, interests and leisure time
  • Your performance at work, school or college

 

This is the most important point in this blog:

Noticing yourself is the answer to good health. Noticing how you feel. Noticing your energy levels. Your mood. Your interactions with others. How your body feels.

Imagine you had a leaking tap in your bathroom? And you didn’t notice. And it kept dripping and started creating a small flow of water that needed to escape. So it finds a way through a crack in the tiles. And it keeps leaking and leaking. And then there is a funny smell. And you notice but don’t address it. And before you know it you have a damp issue and a big problem to fix. It’s important to notice.

So all I would encourage you to do as a first step is to notice how you feel.

Notice what might cause you stress and then you can work on a plan to reduce the stress in your life. I will be writing a couple of blogs around relaxation which will really help you reduce stress.

 

Take an easy step to reducing stress and relaxing by joining my free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge

It is called a challenge but it’s easy! I promise you will feel less stressed at the end. Sign up now!

 

 

 

What does Hypnosis feel like?

What does Hypnosis feel like?

A question I am asked a lot is what does Hypnosis feel like?  And I answer that it is different for everyone.

How Hypnosis might feel

I remember my first Hypnotic experience during an NLP course some years ago. I closed my eyes and was encouraged to connect with myself inside and I had a light trance. I thought wow, that’s interesting!

I trained as a Hypnotherapist pretty soon after that and as a result had a lot of Hypnosis. Which was great! I noticed that I went into deeper and better trances as I allowed myself to and saw the benefit of it. During the training we had to do 50 hours of practice and I noticed that everyone’s Hypnosis experience was different.

 

How people say Hypnosis feels

Hypnotic experiences can vary greatly from a light trance where someone relaxes for the first time in ages, to a very deep experience. It’s a different feeling to describe but I will use some of the things that my clients have told me to try and explain it to you.

Hypnosis is becoming more and more widely used. More people are recognising that’s it’s a safe way to improve their life. The most common uses of Hypnosis are to help with anxiety, phobias and weight loss. I’ve been using it to treat depression for a number of years.

Something important for people who feel depressed or anxious is to feel something different. And Hypnosis certainly achieves that. When you have felt something different to how you may have felt for a long time, it feels great!

 

Feelings of Hypnosis

Hypnosis is not sleep. Even though the word ‘sleep’ is commonly used, you are not asleep. You are in a trance but your subconscious mind is actually very alert.

You will feel relaxation in your body and your mind. But relaxation is not the goal of Hypnosis; change is.

You already go into Hypnosis yourself many times a day. You know when you arrive somewhere in the car and think, how did I get here? During running you can go into a trance, when listening to music, watching TV (you know that because you can talk to your kids while they are watching TV and they don’t hear you!).These all examples of trance.

 

Other feelings of Hypnosis are:

  • Being ‘in the zone’ is a form of Hypnosis.
  • Daydreaming is Hypnosis.
  • The feeling before you go to sleep and you have thoughts and ideas that you might not be able to put into words is Hypnosis.
  • Being intently focused is Hypnosis. Especially if your eyes go a bit ‘foggy’ or glazed.
  • Hypnosis is your natural ‘reboot’ and a good healthy thing to have and do.
  • Whilst in Hypnosis, you will hear what’s going on around you but it won’t bother or disturb you in anyway. You are focussed on your own ‘inside’, not what’s going on ‘outside’.
  • It feels nice!
  • It feels natural.
  • You are in control. You won’t say or do anything that you don’t want to.
  • Some people see colours.
  • Some people have wonderful memories.
  • Some people feel connect with their ‘higher self’ or ‘inner self’.

 

After Hypnosis

 

As much as I love Hypnosis, I think the best bit is afterwards. You will feel lighter and brighter. You will have let go of things that were troubling you and be ready for better things. Some people clear up or accept issues and pain that have been around for years. You may be able to forgive others and yourself and let go of guilt or shame.

You might still feel relaxed afterwards, not to the point where you can’t function because your Hypnotist will have brought you back to full consciousness. But you might have let some issues or emotional baggage go and that can mean to feel a bit tired.

Or you might feel super energised and ready for action! After a recent deep Hypnosis session I spent a week decluttering and organising. So not only did I feel great internally but had loads of focus and drive to get things done. Hoorah!

 

So you want to know more or book an appointment?

If you want to chat about Hypnosis or you are ready to make an appointment, please do get in touch. Best way is on my mobile 07530 890089

 

 

 

Hypnotherapy is the easy way to stop smoking

Hypnotherapy is the easy way to stop smoking

People who have stopped with me know that Hypnotherapy is the easy way to stop smoking. There is a special offer for you at the bottom of this blog.  Please pass it on or share this blog to help other people stop smoking and take advantage of this special offer.

 

Is it time for you to give up smoking?

Giving up smoking is one of the best things you can do to dramatically improve your health and life expectancy. On average, non-smokers live around a decade longer than smokers.

As well as improving your own health and wellbeing, you’ll also give your family peace of mind in the knowledge you’re doing everything you can to be with them for as long as possible.

The benefits of giving up smoking are endless, from better breathing to saving on average £2,920 per year. You can work out your cost savings here.

If you’ve ever suffered a heart attack, quitting smoking can reduce your chances of having another one by up to 50%.

 

E-Cigarettes Aren’t Always the Answer

stop vaping

 

Vapour devices aren’t always the best solution as the nicotine and the smoking habit still exists. It’s not until you eliminate the habit that you become a non-smoker.

How is Hypnotherapy Effective for Giving up Smoking?

 

There are dozens of methods to stop smoking, including patches, gum or prescribed drugs. The effectiveness of these methods is varied, but many people struggle as they don’t help you at an unconscious level.

Hypnotherapy works with the greater part of your mind, the subconscious mind, which is responsible for behaviour.  By working with the subconscious, your desire to smoke is removed and the determination to stay a non-smoker is enhanced.

 

I use Harley Street techniques

 

It costs £1000 to give up smoking with a Hypnotherapist in Harley Street. I’m offering the same treatment here in West Sussex for far less. And you don’t have to get on the Tube!

It’s taken me a few years to perfect my stop smoking treatment. Even though Hypnotherapy alone is enough, I want to cover all bases and make sure my client stops for good and is confident that this has happened.

I now blend Hypnotherapy, NLP and tapping to deliver a stop smoking session which address any emotional reasons for smoking, the habit itself and the belief that you are now a non smoker.

I build in strategies for not putting on weight, feeling like you are missing out and seeking comfort in smoking. These are issues I have found that people are concerned about when giving up.

You will be able to cope with situations where you may have previously wanted to smoke.

You will fully understand the reasons why you personally have given up smoking and buy into them at a deep unconscious level.

What is the Process with Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy? 

 

The stop smoking treatment is a one session treatment, where we’ll discuss your own reasons for giving up and wanting a healthier life. You walk in a smoker and out a non-smoker. Job done.

You will also be given recordings to use at home, ensuring you retain the state of mind which tells you that you don’t need to smoke.

 

Special offer for my blog readers

If you mention this blog when you call to book your stop smoking session I will give you £50 off the full price of my treatment so you stop smoking forever. Contact me now and book in.

 

Why self-care is more than a Spa Day

Why self-care is more than a Spa Day

Self-care is a hot topic and the Spa is a booming industry but I want to  explain why self-care is more than a Spa Day. Don’t get me wrong, I love a Spa and once spent a week at Champneys!

But the point I want to make in this blog is that twofold. Firstly, self-care is different things to everyone and secondly, small regular self-care is more beneficial for your mental health and more practical to incorporate into your busy life than a Spa Day..

 

What my friends said self-care is

I asked my Facebook friends of ways they self-care and here is what they said.

Jill GardnerRecognising the negative voice in your head isn’t you. And disowning it so you can be the real you ❤️

Samantha Heywood-Cox Take time to relax each day and say thank you to your hard working body
Anita Davenport Always eat nutritious food and sleep.
Esther Nagle Realising that what is one person’s ideal self care routine isn’t necessarily yours. Deep, slow breaths make most stressful situations and sleepless nights less stressful and exhausting. Forgive yourself for mistakes you may or may not have made. Realise that the critical voice in your head isn’t telling you the truth. A good night’s sleep is a great physical, mental and emotional reboot. Yoga and walking in nature are powerful ways to connect to everything that is important as well as being good for physical and mental health
Carolyn Arnold Doing anything for pleasure and not out of duty.
Clare Farthing Quarterly Spa Days at Chewton Glen Hotel & Spa. A girl can dream!!
Julie Shepherd Setting time aside for me and also saying ‘no’ to things I really don’t want to do.
Nicola Huelin Here’s a blog I wrote with ideas of 92 things you can do for self-care that take less than 10 mins and are totally free
Belinda-Jane Hunt Meditate. Be kind. Forgive.…Listen to your body.
Leslee Serdar A W. A. A. M. List (What’s amazing about me) list  Keeps the self esteem up!!

Self-care can be preventing stress

I once read that one of the biggest causes of stress is things that are broken or don’t work around the home. I agree! I’ve had a wobbly kitchen door for a long time and kept screwing it back in but it was never properly fixed and became irritating. Anyway it eventually fell off! So then I had a door-less cupboard which looked a bit strange. I had it fixed and for a couple of days kept admiring it. Who would have thought that a door could bring happiness?

And here are some practical ideas of self-care from me:

  • Back up your computer. It can be a real trauma to lose your photos or work
  • Store your photos in Dropbox or similar. Protect your treasure memories
  • Online shopping – need I say more!
  • Organise your wardrobe. Only have things that fir in your wardrobe so you don’t spend ages finding something to wear and feel bad about things that don’t fit right now
  • Sort out your finances.
  • Dal with letters ASAP
  • Keep a calendar/diary
  • Unsubscribe from emails that don’t add value to your life
  • Subscribe to something that adds value to your life. That’s my FREE 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge
  • Batch cook. Freeze some, eat some. Cost effective too.
  • Declutter your house, create space
  • Declutter your car, enjoy driving
  • Declutter your loft, never panic about finding the Halloween stuff again
  • Declutter your garage, yes you have 4 bicycle locks already
  • Declutter your Facebook friends
  • Declutter your Instagram
  • Get your books on kindle
  • Keep water and snacks in your car so you can always maintain your energy levels

And the best thing about self-care?

 child wonderment

Self-care, like rest, is time for you. You enjoy your time and your life. To feed your joy. So it’s important to know how to do that! My theory is that people with a passion in life are very lucky.
I recently went to my favourite bird of prey centre and the passion the handlers have for their birds is amazing. They look them with love and one keeper said to his bird ‘come to daddy’! How wonderful to have an interest you never tire of and you love to bits. Not quite self-care but you get my drift?
When we understand what gives us joy, what makes up feel rested and happy. We can do it as often as we like 🙂
The list of things that gives us joy and makes us happy could be endless and they could be small things. Easy to do. Cheap or free. You’ve just got to experiment and find them. Children as very good at this. They are usually open minded and experimental. They try different clubs and hobbies to see what they enjoy and what they like the most. Children usually go where the fun (for them) is!

Take a little time for self-care today

What are you going to do to nurture and nourish yourself today? I would love to hear about it in the comments or share this blog with someone you care about so they can self-care before their next Spa Day.

World Mental Health Day 2017 – Help for teenagers

World Mental Health Day 2017 – Help for teenagers

So as a Hypnotherapist working with people’s mental health on a regular basis, I had a real choice of things to write about before I settled on this World Mental Health Day 2017 – Help for teenagers title.

I’m not going to bombard you with stats about Mental Health in this post because you will know if your teenager (or you) needs help and support and that is the purpose of this post.

 

The reason I chose to blog about teenagers for World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day

I love teenagers, I was one once lol. And I remember not liking it much and losing my way. I had wonderful parents but I didn’t go to them for help or talk to them about how I felt. It wasn’t their fault and it wasn’t my fault. It just was that way.

In my Corporate life I mentored teenagers to get into the workplace and now I help teenagers to deal with life 🙂

The biggest rise I have seen in my client base over the past year have been teenage girls. I could say it’s because of the rise of social media; Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Pinterest (not sure the teenagers use that as much?) because there is a lot of research that suggests that social media is damaging for self-esteem. But fighting social media or helping a teenage girl become more comfortable in her own skin? I know which is the easier option.

So let’s look at how I help teenage girls really get more of a sense of themselves and have more confidence and resilience, so they can deal with life better and be happier.

Issues that teenagers are facing:

  • Body image
  • Feeling sad
  • Depressed
  • Hiding from the world
  • Shame
  • Being bullied
  • Pressure of school
  • Academic performance
  • Lack of confidence
  • Relationships with others

 

But most of all:

The relationship that they have with themselves

 

Now I’ve been helping adults on their relationships with themselves for a long time. At the route of most depression is not liking yourself. People live miserable lives for a very long time for 2 main reasons (in my opinion):

  • They don’t understand themselves enough to know what their strengths are and to remember why they are amazing as their unique selves
  • They have lived a life full of events and sometimes traumas and believe the stories in their head.

 

What I mean by a story is when things have happened in your life and they give you a particular belief. Let’s take a relationship breakup. You might think that you are not loveable and that is a story that starts to become true for you. When you meet a potential partner or love interest, you (in your head) are living and believing your own story that you are not loveable. This may leak into your body language and the way you communicate and affect this potential relationship. So that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; the relationship is not a success and that backs up your belief that you are not loveable.

 

The life of a teenager

 

crab

A teenager has a childhood behind them but during their teenage years they are exploring and discovering life and themselves. So any little chink in their armour, comments, arguments, negative comments or implications (we all know that so much can be implied  by just a look) all sink into them. We all pick up tiny subtle movements from each other because we are similar to animals in that way and communicate continuously through body language.

All the while, teenagers are receiving chinks in their armour. Reminds me of one of those soft crabs that needs time for its shell to harden so the birds can’t hurt it. They are finding their way and every chink in their armour hurts them and stops them being as tough as they need to be to face this world of ours. And we all know how tough life can be. Not always, but it has its moments.

All you want for your kid is for them to be able to handle it, be happy and for them to succeed at the things that are important to them. That’s all you want isn’t it.

And so when your kid comes to you (or maybe doesn’t) and tells you that they are not happy and life isn’t going well or maybe even that they hate themselves, that is really heart breaking 🙁

 

Help available for teenagers

 

Most teenagers that I see in my Hypnortherapy practice in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype, have never been taught about positive thinking. Or techniques on how to protect and nurture their mental health. Many (and their parents) won’t like the term mental health, so I am very cautious of the language that I use with teenagers.

Some schools are becoming more aware of the need to educate their students on how to look after mental health and physical health. Things that today’s society are feeling the ill effects of. But schools have ciricculums to stick to and targets to meet, so the time and resources allocated to these matters are limited.

As parents we are often not proficient in the art of managing mental health ourselves. So many adults have stress, anxiety and depression themselves. They are just trying to scrape through life and doing the best they can for their children.

Many families have a working mum and dad and then there are single parent families and there are just so many demands on people’s time and energy. But more so, people just don’t have the skills and techniques to bring these teenagers through it and show them how things can be different.

And often the last person a teenager wants to hear from is their parents or teacher! So there is this huge gap to fill.

 

How I help teenagers

 

What I do with teenagers is to focus on the positives. Build them up strong. A teenager has plenty of time to understand their areas of development and flaws. The last thing they need to be brought tot their attention is to focus on their flaws. They need to be rebuilt and taught resilience.

So we focus on the positive and we do lots of positive work. We focus on how to change their state. State is the way we choose to feel at any given time. There is a great big range of emotion from sad to elated and everything inbetween and believe me, teenagers can feel those full range of emotions on what seems like an hourly basis.

The first thing that I teach teenagers are easy techniques so they can discretley manager their own state. From the first session they go out the door knowing that they have tools for life. and these tools are cool! Only 250 practitioners Worldwide are using these skills (separate blog post another day) and they are amazing. Teenagers love them.

I give them skills and tools for life to help them manage how they feel and get out of sticky emotional situations and shift those blue days where everything feels terrible.

I give them a maintenance plan to take with them, so they don’t have to worry about remembering things and it doesn’t feel like homework!

The next sessions I do work are what I call ‘work of the self’. Looking inside at what’s good about them and what’s important to them. And why they need to protect that to make them strong against the storms.

I use Hypnosis too which is perfectly safe on children age 5+. Hypnosis on a teenager is practically the same as an adult but you use language that appeals to a teenager. I use that to introduce a huge feeling of calm into their lives because they are usually so tense and anxious and worried and stressed with all that’s going on. They can just escape all that and float away to relax and find that calm place inside themselves. They can reconnect to that calm place whenever they need to with a recording that I give them.

Another skill for life. How to unwind your mind and take yourself away from the things that are bothering you and come back feeling relaxed and refreshed and ready to roll.

 

And what about mum and dad?

Supporting teenagers can be testing, tiring and thankless! So if you need help unwinding, keeping your cool or getting creative on strategies to cope. Make your appointment 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

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