If you have ever wondered what the secrets of slim people are, your questions might be answered tonight in a show called ‘The truth about slim people’
The truth about slim people
We will get to see how two people; Anne-Marie and Yemi, manage to stay slim despite it seems eating whatever they like, whenever they like.
It is a true case of nothing being as it seems as I read the article about it.
Anne-Marie is a 42 year old mother of two who was trained as a dancer but now runs a dance classes for kids. She is 9 stone a size 8. Every aspect of her life was filmed for 5 days.
Yemi is a 37 year old father of 2, has a 32 inch waist and weighs 12 stone. His childhood nickname was ‘Dustbin’ because of his large appetite. He did a lot of sport in his younger days.
Neither of them eat ‘healthy’ food and they both at what they like in the quantity they desire. Or so it seems.
As part of the programme they both have medical test and it is found that neither of them have ‘magic metabolisms’.
The findings tell this story (see if you can spot the key ones that I, as a Hypnotherapist, will talk about today):
- They don’t snack in the day
- They fully satisfy themselves at mealtimes by eating what they fancy.
- They both eat enough to feel full until the next meal.
- Neither of them are ‘emotional eaters’.
- They don’t drink much alcohol.
- If they eat a lot one day, they eat less the next day
- They unconsciously seem to balance their calorie intake
- Anne-Marie is found to be a ‘fidgeter’. Never sitting still and using up lots of energy just ‘being her’.
- Yemi walks at a very fast pace
- Both sleep well
- Both have good gut bacteria
- Neither of them are ‘hung-up’ on food
- They are both ‘self-regulated’
- The conclusion from the show was that the secret to staying slim is mindset.
From the list above I am going to talk about the emotional eating aspect today.
So what is an emotional eater?
It’s safe to say that an emotional eater will not see food as fuel only. If you are an emotional eater food is more of a friend that you call on when you need to feel better. When you feel negative emotions you will use food as a way to take your mind off them. Because your mind is distracted by the emotion, it means you don’t recognize when you are hungry or full so eat you fulfill an emotional need rather than a physical one.
Emotional eaters use food as a crutch rather than a source of pleasure to be enjoyed for what it is.
So what emotions might trigger an emotional eater to eat? Well any negative emotion really such as:
- Dislike of yourself
- Feeling unloved
Eating numbs the emotion and therefore feels comforting. But the bad news is after you’ve eaten you will probably feel more negative emotions about yourself like hating yourself for having no control, guilt, not liking your body, feeling fat or ugly or shame (especially if you eat in secret).
If you are unhappy being overweight, you may feel you have to wear make up to ‘hide’ yourself or even feel ugly without it and you may feel the need to behave in a way that distracts from your body which only adds to your feelings of internal discomfort. You may not be happy in your own skin.
Before you beat yourself up for what you crave and eat….
Why is it that certain foods seem to feature highly for emotional eaters? Foods like cake, biscuits, ice cream? Well your cravings can be justified for good reason. The blend of carbohydrates, sugar and fat can be delicious. A multi-sensory and temporarily satisfying experience. The feel in your mouth, the smell, the flavours and the taste exciting your senses and providing a distraction from anything else at that moment. And they are so easily available.
These type of food also provide instant gratification.
But did you know that your brain chemistry actually changes when you eat. “Carbohydrates set off a series of chemical reactions that ultimately lead to a boost in brain serotonin,” says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., the former director of the Research Program in Women’s Health at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Clinical Research Center. The higher the levels of serotonin, the more content you feel (at least temporarily).
There have also been studies around fatty foods making people feel less sad because fatty acids can induce a signal from your gut to your brain, which may influence emotions.
So how can an emotional eater change?
Keep an emotional food diary
Keeping a food diary to track what you’ve been eating alongside what how you are feeling at the time can help you identify what triggers emotional eating.
I’ve made a food and emotion diary download for you which you can download here
Knowing what these triggers are can help you break the emotional eating habits and deal with triggers instead of turning to food.
How can you deal with emotional triggers?
So if you’ve done your food diary and spotted some emotional triggers for you, you need to know how to do something other than eat when they occur.
Although there are many ways that you could find something other than eat to do, it is a good idea if you try and find something that satisfies your reward centre. What I mean by that is the place in your mind that needs to feel good and satisfied (known as a reward centre). If you don’t do this, you are merely distracting yourself from the thought of wanting to eat (this strategy can work well for some people too).
If you think about how your emotions are soothed and the deep connection they have with food for a minute.
Ice cream at the seaside – this often starts in childhood. There you are having a great time with your family and your treat is an ice cream. Not only is the ice cream delicious in itself, but it anchors those happy feelings of your time at the beach probably with people you like to be with.
Popcorn at the cinema – going to the cinema is a sensory experience. you are going to watch a story that you can be absorbed in undisturbed for a couple of hours. You will see things that might be amazing and open your unconscious mind and emotions right up (think Disney or Hollywood). You then eat some sweet popcorn which anchors the experience.
Candy floss at the funfair – you are surrounded by fun and people laughing. you may have been spun round and round or been taken on a ride up in the air. Everyone there is happy and laughing. There are bright lights and your adrenaline, serotonin and oxytocin which make you excited and happy will all be in full force. The candy floss anchors the experience.
These experiences are bonding tastes and food with experiences. Your brain will want the same feeling if you don’t give it the food it thinks it wants.
So you need to get creative to think of things you can do which may make you feel good. Maybe excited or like you’ve accomplished something. Get thinking about what they might be now. What are you craving and how can you get it another way than eating?
If you need help
If you need help with your emotional eating or weight loss then I can help you by seeing you as a one to one client for 4 sessions. It is 4 sessions because we work on any emotional healing that needs to take place to allow you to move on. We work with the inner voice that damages your self-esteem and I help you to love your body (yes in its current form) so you want to care for it and nourish it. We also work on making better food choices, sugar cravings and confidence. The whole works.
If you want to be part of a group and spend 47 days working on your relationship with food, your relationship with yourself, sharing recipes, participating in challenges and listening to Hypnosis audios to help you, then you can join my next Project 47 group which starts on January 9th 2018. Please email me and I will put you on the waiting list.
Sending you some positive emotions today
I know the title ‘Why National Stress Awareness Day’ could save your life sounds dramatic, but it is true.
Stress is called the silent killer
According to the World Health Organisation Of the 56.4 million deaths worldwide in 2015, more than half (54%) were due to the top 10 causes. And the top 2 causes for the past 15 years have been Ischaemic heart disease and stroke. Stress is often a feature of these two causes.
Have you accepted stress as part of your life?
Society has really changed hasn’t it. More families with both parents working, single parent families, caring responsibilities. Expensive houses to pay for, images and expectations to live up to and of course social media to keep up with.
There’s children’s education, clubs, hobbies, social events and physical and emotional needs to attend to.
You might choose to study. Maybe while working, running a home and raising a family at the same time.
Then there is convienience food and spending a lot of time sitting in jobs that require computer work. And a competitive environment for well paid work.
Wow, it’s stressful even writing all that.
Everyone seems to be in such a rush and has accepted that as normal. Have you?
Hence the popularity of retreats!
What impact is this stress having on your life?
You know the drill. Work as hard as possible do everything as listed above. But you are not too worried because yes! You have a holiday to look forward to. Maybe even all inclusive. Everything done for you. You can really enjoy this time to relax and unwind and just ‘be’. You arrive on the holiday and spend the first few days in a vegetated state. Or even worse… ill! You can’t believe it. Where is your energy? And your joy? They seemed to have gone on a different holiday!
This is so common for people who are living in a stressed state most of the time. The body gets a glimpse of ‘stopping’ and it makes the most of it.
Things you may not have noticed as signs of stress
Thing is, when stress creeps up gradually, you don’t always notice it. You take on more and more. Do more and more. And you are so busy you don’t notice some of the symptoms of stress are upon you like:
- Muscular pain in our neck, shoulders or back
- Fatigue and low energy levels
- Raised blood pressure
- Increased pain thresholds
- Poor sleep patterns
- Poor breathing
- Suppressed immune system and increased susceptibility to infections
- Increases in blood sugar and cholesterol levels
Don’t ignore the signs
Left ignored these symptoms can build into bigger problems like burnout, depression and anxiety. It is your body and mind’s way of rebelling against the pressure it’s under.
Once you suffer from these they may affect:
- Your relationships with family or friends
- Your hobbies, interests and leisure time
- Your performance at work, school or college
This is the most important point in this blog:
Noticing yourself is the answer to good health. Noticing how you feel. Noticing your energy levels. Your mood. Your interactions with others. How your body feels.
Imagine you had a leaking tap in your bathroom? And you didn’t notice. And it kept dripping and started creating a small flow of water that needed to escape. So it finds a way through a crack in the tiles. And it keeps leaking and leaking. And then there is a funny smell. And you notice but don’t address it. And before you know it you have a damp issue and a big problem to fix. It’s important to notice.
So all I would encourage you to do as a first step is to notice how you feel.
Notice what might cause you stress and then you can work on a plan to reduce the stress in your life. I will be writing a couple of blogs around relaxation which will really help you reduce stress.
Take an easy step to reducing stress and relaxing by joining my free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge
It is called a challenge but it’s easy! I promise you will feel less stressed at the end. Sign up now!
A question I am asked a lot is what does Hypnosis feel like? And I answer that it is different for everyone.
How Hypnosis might feel
I remember my first Hypnotic experience during an NLP course some years ago. I closed my eyes and was encouraged to connect with myself inside and I had a light trance. I thought wow, that’s interesting!
I trained as a Hypnotherapist pretty soon after that and as a result had a lot of Hypnosis. Which was great! I noticed that I went into deeper and better trances as I allowed myself to and saw the benefit of it. During the training we had to do 50 hours of practice and I noticed that everyone’s Hypnosis experience was different.
How people say Hypnosis feels
Hypnotic experiences can vary greatly from a light trance where someone relaxes for the first time in ages, to a very deep experience. It’s a different feeling to describe but I will use some of the things that my clients have told me to try and explain it to you.
Hypnosis is becoming more and more widely used. More people are recognising that’s it’s a safe way to improve their life. The most common uses of Hypnosis are to help with anxiety, phobias and weight loss. I’ve been using it to treat depression for a number of years.
Something important for people who feel depressed or anxious is to feel something different. And Hypnosis certainly achieves that. When you have felt something different to how you may have felt for a long time, it feels great!
Feelings of Hypnosis
Hypnosis is not sleep. Even though the word ‘sleep’ is commonly used, you are not asleep. You are in a trance but your subconscious mind is actually very alert.
You will feel relaxation in your body and your mind. But relaxation is not the goal of Hypnosis; change is.
You already go into Hypnosis yourself many times a day. You know when you arrive somewhere in the car and think, how did I get here? During running you can go into a trance, when listening to music, watching TV (you know that because you can talk to your kids while they are watching TV and they don’t hear you!).These all examples of trance.
Other feelings of Hypnosis are:
- Being ‘in the zone’ is a form of Hypnosis.
- Daydreaming is Hypnosis.
- The feeling before you go to sleep and you have thoughts and ideas that you might not be able to put into words is Hypnosis.
- Being intently focused is Hypnosis. Especially if your eyes go a bit ‘foggy’ or glazed.
- Hypnosis is your natural ‘reboot’ and a good healthy thing to have and do.
- Whilst in Hypnosis, you will hear what’s going on around you but it won’t bother or disturb you in anyway. You are focussed on your own ‘inside’, not what’s going on ‘outside’.
- It feels nice!
- It feels natural.
- You are in control. You won’t say or do anything that you don’t want to.
- Some people see colours.
- Some people have wonderful memories.
- Some people feel connect with their ‘higher self’ or ‘inner self’.
As much as I love Hypnosis, I think the best bit is afterwards. You will feel lighter and brighter. You will have let go of things that were troubling you and be ready for better things. Some people clear up or accept issues and pain that have been around for years. You may be able to forgive others and yourself and let go of guilt or shame.
You might still feel relaxed afterwards, not to the point where you can’t function because your Hypnotist will have brought you back to full consciousness. But you might have let some issues or emotional baggage go and that can mean to feel a bit tired.
Or you might feel super energised and ready for action! After a recent deep Hypnosis session I spent a week decluttering and organising. So not only did I feel great internally but had loads of focus and drive to get things done. Hoorah!
So you want to know more or book an appointment?
If you want to chat about Hypnosis or you are ready to make an appointment, please do get in touch. Best way is on my mobile 07530 890089
People who have stopped with me know that Hypnotherapy is the easy way to stop smoking. There is a special offer for you at the bottom of this blog. Please pass it on or share this blog to help other people stop smoking and take advantage of this special offer.
Is it time for you to give up smoking?
Giving up smoking is one of the best things you can do to dramatically improve your health and life expectancy. On average, non-smokers live around a decade longer than smokers.
As well as improving your own health and wellbeing, you’ll also give your family peace of mind in the knowledge you’re doing everything you can to be with them for as long as possible.
The benefits of giving up smoking are endless, from better breathing to saving on average £2,920 per year. You can work out your cost savings here.
If you’ve ever suffered a heart attack, quitting smoking can reduce your chances of having another one by up to 50%.
E-Cigarettes Aren’t Always the Answer
Vapour devices aren’t always the best solution as the nicotine and the smoking habit still exists. It’s not until you eliminate the habit that you become a non-smoker.
How is Hypnotherapy Effective for Giving up Smoking?
There are dozens of methods to stop smoking, including patches, gum or prescribed drugs. The effectiveness of these methods is varied, but many people struggle as they don’t help you at an unconscious level.
Hypnotherapy works with the greater part of your mind, the subconscious mind, which is responsible for behaviour. By working with the subconscious, your desire to smoke is removed and the determination to stay a non-smoker is enhanced.
I use Harley Street techniques
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It’s taken me a few years to perfect my stop smoking treatment. Even though Hypnotherapy alone is enough, I want to cover all bases and make sure my client stops for good and is confident that this has happened.
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I build in strategies for not putting on weight, feeling like you are missing out and seeking comfort in smoking. These are issues I have found that people are concerned about when giving up.
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You will fully understand the reasons why you personally have given up smoking and buy into them at a deep unconscious level.
What is the Process with Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy?
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You will also be given recordings to use at home, ensuring you retain the state of mind which tells you that you don’t need to smoke.
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I loved reading this book and so am doing a book review for Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
Even the title ‘Rest’ helped me relax
Talk about Hypnotic suggestion. Every time I picked up the book, I knew I was reading ‘rest’ and I felt ‘rested’ as a result!
Alex opens the book by explaining how we see rest as the absence of work and not something in its own right. I think this is the case for many people. How about you?
He goes on to say that if you put so much of yourself into you work then when you cease to work, you cease to exist. This is a strong statement! We have all heard stories of people retiring and passing away shortly afterwards and this being put down to them ‘missing work’ and being without purpose’. But without the evidence, this statement lacks truth for me.
He does say that work can be as emotionally fulfilling as being in love. Can you relate to that?
However the book is focused on the principle that many extraordinary leaders, scientists, philosophers and creatives valued the importance of rest and worked better as a result of the way they practiced rest.
The right rest restores the mysterious part of the mind and we underestimate how much good as serious rest can do us. I call this ‘mysterious’ part of the mind the subconscious 🙂
He gives us confidence to allow ourselves to rest by explaining that we need to allow ourselves to rest and remove the guilt for doing it. ‘You have to take rest and protect it from a world that is intent on taking it’.
Ok then. We will 🙂
Rest is important for creativity
If you work at 110% all the time, how much will you give when extra is required? Or will you lack the energy to give it more? By balancing your energy levels you will have the fuel in the tank that you need to put the pedal to the metal!
But it’s more than that. When you rest, you access a different part of your brain even though you are resting, your brain is almost as active as when you are working hard on a problem. When you become active again, that ‘different’ part of your brain turns off again.
So what does that ‘different’ part of your brain do? It:
- Consolidates memories
- Makes sense of the past
- Searches for solutions to problems that your occupying your thoughts in your waking hours
I would call this part of the brain the subconscious mind. Alex explains how walks, art and music can wake ideas that are ‘slumbering’ there. Because when he talks about ‘rest’. He doesn’t mean lying down doing nothing, although that’s a pretty good way to rest!
He talks about rest being things that
- Relax you
- Detach you from work
- Let you spend your time in ways you enjoy
Take a break
No this isn’t a kit-kat advert. In his book, Alex mentions many tests to prove how breaks improve performance at work. He says ‘part of your mind is writing the next sentence, and the next paragraph, considering and discarding a thousand plot twists without you ever being aware of them’. For me this totally sums up the awesomeness that is our subconscious mind. It works away doing all kind of amazing things for us which we are never even aware of!
Alex talks about the importance of learning to monitor your attention and energy as this is a life skill that will serve you well.
Cats have the right idea about naps
Churchill took naps. Kennedy and Einstein too. But why? In case you didn’t know, a 20 minute nap can restore depleted energy and a nap of more than an hour takes you into REM state sleep and will help you remember more.
What you need to know if the ‘work’ is more important to you than that the ‘rest’
Cambridge mathematician John Littlewood said even for people whose mind naturally gravitate towards work, having clear boundaries between periods of work and rest allows them to get more from each. ‘It is too easy when tired to fritter a whole day but never getting properly down to it. You get nothing done and get no rest or relaxation’. Is that ringing any bells for you?
Walk the talk
I didn’t expect walking to be in a book about rest but it totally makes sense. Danish Philosopher Soven Kierkegaard said ‘I have walked my way into my best thoughts’. Have you ever had that experience?
Some companies have walking meetings now which are said to be good for solving problems, discussing, bouncing ideas and eliminating distractions. Steve Jobs did it. There is evidence that your mind becomes calmer when walking through parks and green spaces. In tests 81% of students did better in tests when walking.
Plus walking in autumn is absolutely glorious, So let’s get out there!
Let your subconscious mind do its work, so that you can do yours
I’ve long had a view that the Corporate work place is outdated. Many organisations are proud of themselves for offering flexible working. But the whole concept of work needs to be rethought out if we want to continue to evolve as a forward thinking society. By understanding how our minds work at their best and how to exploit our energy to be our very best selves, productivity and mental health will be much healthier.
No wonder so many corporate workers are so stressed. The way that they are working is not allowing them to rest or flourish. ‘Workers with little control feel more stress because controlling your time is liberating and restorative’.
But businesses are missing a trick because employees that ‘rest’ well are:
- Better employees
- Better at dealing with challenges
- Better colleagues
- More able to focus intensively on work tasks
And let’s not forget the 2 million entrepreneurs that are beavering away and want to succeed and so don’t take rest seriously for fear of missing an opportunity. Many entrepreneurs that I know are so passionate about their business they love working!
How good at resting are you?
As someone who has suffered from fatigue in the past, I rate energy very high in my list of priorities and try to manage it wisely. I really enjoyed this book as it had the right balance of brain talk, stats and common sense for my liking.
I would love to hear your thoughts or tips on how you achieve good rest in the comments if you have time. Do you rest or are you pushing yourself too hard?
Sending you restful vibes.