Is your anxiety causing panic attacks?

Is your anxiety causing panic attacks?

Have you ever had a panic attack?

It’s surprising how hidden you can keep anxiety and panic attacks. You could be suffering terribly and yet people wouldn’t know. This is usually because you will have developed a strategy to avoid panic attacks or hide your anxiety. Quite often suffering in silence leads to depression. And this happens to 1 in 4 people.

You might have gradually stopped going places ‘just in case’ you have a panic attack. You might avoid seeing certain people because they don’t know about your anxiety. You might feel isolated because you’re ‘not normal’. And before you know it you are a prisoner to your anxiety and your life is on hold. And the likelihood is that it won’t go away on it’s own.

Or you might have a job that means you have to give presentations and each time it fills you with dread and affects your sleep in the time running up to it and on the day you just hope to god that you don’t have a panic attack.

Or you might actually be on sick leave from work due to your anxiety…..

A panic attack is your unconscious trying to protect you from perceived risk

bearPanic attacks happen when the brain thinks a situation is of risk to you and it triggers adrenaline in your body which makes your heart beast faster and your muscles tense. You gasp for more breath and your body makes extra energy and diverts blood to your muscles. This means you might go pale, light headed or shake.

The reason all this happens is built in from caveman days where your body sees a risk , such as a bear (!) and goes into ‘fight’ or ‘flight’ mode. You can either stay and fight the bear or run! The brain doesn’t know the difference between a real risk and what it feels is a risk, so it could just as easily be a work presentation as a bear.

The reason you have anxiety or panic attacks is because at some time your brain has perceived a situation as a risk and taken a ‘picture’ of that and stored it. When a similar situation occurs (or what the brain perceives to be similar) it recalls the picture and creates the same anxiety.

During the heightened anxious state, your digestive system shuts down (because you wouldn’t be eating if you were fighting or flighting) so you might feel sick or have a dry mouth. Your senses go into overdrive so everything seems louder and more frightening which makes it difficult to think straight.

The physical symptoms of a panic attack

With all this going on it’s no wonder you might feel any number of these physical symptoms:

  • Confusion
  • Rapid breathing or breathlessness
  • Chest pains
  • Dizziness
  • Numbness
  • Hot or cold flushes
  • Nauseous
  • Scared
  • Upset
  • Claustrophobic
  • Sweaty

Panic attacks are highly unpleasant and you might live in the fear of one happening to you at any time. Your first one can be a real shock. Quite often after a panic attack you will feel exhausted.

There can be feelings of guilt and shame for anxiety sufferers because you may feel like you are a concern to those around you. It can be hard to admit you have panic attacks and you might often find yourself saying no to social events. This isn’t your fault because fear is keeping you trapped.

Because a panic attack can happen at any time in any place, it’s surprising how many people avoid going out very much at all. The thought of being trapped during a panic attack can be terrifying. You might  worry about the embarrassment of having a panic attack in public.

So what CAN you do if you suffer from panic attacks?

Practising breathing techniques can really help your anxiety. During a panic attack you will breath high and fast. The more you practice breathing techniques, the more used to breathing in a calm way your body will be.

Understand that anxiety is not a way of life for you. There are techniques you can use to ease and control it such as this very simple one I share in this video 

You can see your doctor and you might be given some counceling or CBT. Now this may well work for some people but what counceling and CBT do is get you to talk about panic attacks repeatedly. What that does is help your brain use that neural pathway (like rewatching a movie or advert time and time again) so you are reminding it how to do a panic attack! Read my blog about the difference between counceling and Hypnotherapy here.

Hypnotherapy is the easiest, simplest way to stop having panic attacks. It should take  no more than 2 sessions to change your life. Get back your freedom, your confidence and your social life!

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See you soon

Honey

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

It’s easy to think other people are ‘lucky’. But lucky is often mixed with our own judgements and based on the things we think we want.  Our view of lucky is often also based on seeing just one aspect of something.

Here are some common things we might think people are lucky for being:

  • Wealthy
  • Slim
  • Healthy
  • Fit
  • In a relationship
  • Popular
  • Talented
  • Good looking

 

When you say ‘aren’t they lucky’ about the people above. Are you really saying ‘I wish I had that’?  Looking at the list above all of these things are in your control to have. The only thing that stands between you and the things on this list is you.

I realise at this point you might be questioning is how you become good looking! But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might not look the way you want to but in 2017 you can pretty much improve how you look in every way. But more importantly, if you like what you already have, add a smile and some inner beauty, the world will see your beauty. Don’t you worry about that.

The truth behind lucky

Lucky is a state of mind. Lucky is being grateful for the things you have and not comparing yourself to others. Lucky is making your own luck. Lucky is not placing your happiness in the dangerous position thinking of what you don’t have, but taking real stock of the things you do.  Understanding what gives you pleasure and how you can feed you soul.

Let’s look at some of the possible truths behind some of the lucky people on the list above.

  • Sharon is wealthy. She has a lovely house and a nice Audi. Her husband has his own business and works all the hours god sends. He has had an affair in the past and expects Sharon to ‘get over this’. Sharon is very lonely and wants to leave the marriage but doesn’t have the confidence. Is Sharon lucky?
  • Lucy is slim. She has a nice figure and can wear pretty much whatever she likes without worrying about bulges. But Lucy suffers from anxiety. Sometimes she has panic attacks and it is a big deal for Lucy to go tot he shops on her own. Quite often she will become anxious in the shop and always has to know the quickest route to the exit in case she needs to leave in a hurry. She is unable to hold down a job due to her anxiety and has lived with her parents her whole life. She often worries about what the future holds for her. Is Lucy lucky?
  • Tim is popular. He has lots of friends who like socialising and going to football matches. Some of Tim’s friends are married but Tim is single. To be honest he is starting to find the same old routine of drinking and going to matches a bit boring. He is searching deeper meaning in his life but finds this hard to say to anyone. The truth is he is feeling quite depressed. He knows if he said this to his mates they would take the mickey, so he keeps it all bottled up. Is Tim lucky?

 

Lucky is an illusion

 

So you see, Lucky is almost an illusion. Lucky is living a life where you are true to yourself. Living a life where you are happy with what you have and appreicate much of the world around you.

Let me tell you about Rebecca. She has done some personal work to understand herself. She is open to the world around her. She walks her dog in the morning and notices the early morning dew on the grass and the first sight of an orange sunrise. Her dog makes her laugh. Rebecca is a personal trainer. She left her corporate job where she was well paid but unhappy and stressed and pursued her passion of personal training. She loves helping people get fit, change their bodies and achieve the goals they have set themselves.  She gets lots of thank you cards!

Rebecca is a stocky build but healthy. She is thankful that she doesn’t have any addictions and she values time spent with friends (she has carefully selected people that feed her positive energy). Rebecca loves learning new exercises and healthy eating knowledge. It’s a win-win as she gets healthier and so do her clients. She is growing her business but taking her time because although she likes the nice things in life, she values her work/life balance too. Rebecca is comfortable in her own skin. Is Rebecca lucky?

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of ways you could nurture yourself. How did you find writing that list and when do you plan to have your first nurture session?

 

Your seventh list:

The seventh list you are going to write is your lucky list. It’s a bit like a gratitude list which you can read about in one of my previous blogs here Make a list of all the reasons you are lucky. and keep a copy somewhere you can look at it every time you need a boost.   Someone, somewhere probably thinks you are very lucky.

 

See you tomorrow.

Honey

x

Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

The nurture list for busy women

The nurture list for busy women

The nurture list for busy women

We hear it a lot us busy women. Learn to relax. Take care of you first so you can care for others. Have a nice bubble bath with candles and you will feel brand new.

Now I am not saying that bubble baths aren’t lovely. They can be. But I consider them to be quite lightweight in the true sense of self-nurturing.

Self-nurturing is doing things that feed your body well, interest or relax your mind or connect you socially. Or disconnect you socially! True self-nurturing is doing things that make your eyes light up or ignite or care for your spirit. Also relaxing and seeing worries drift away.

 

So what is nurturing yourself?

Nurturing yourself might be:

  • Putting yourself in a cocoon of blankets and hibernating quietly
  • Taking a chunk of time to read
  • Making a delicious known or new recipe
  • Doing some exercise
  • Reading magazines
  • Doing something sensual
  • Exploring a new hobby
  • Taking a walk
  • Getting out in nature
  • Meditating
  • Seeking out a new holistic treatment
  • Looking at holiday destinations
  • Learning something
  • Go to the cinema alone
  • Sleep

 

Some of my Hypnotherapy clients come to be nurtured. They enjoy the relaxing feelings that Hypnotherapy brings. The true sense of inner calm. Almost like a floating escape. The effects of a Hypnotherapy relaxation session can last for days. With 4  sessions you can have the effects for a lifetime as your calm ‘muscle’ will be well and truly flexed, reducing stress and anxiety for good.

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of people who have your six or your desired qualities for your ‘sixer’ to have. Did it surprise you how many people have had or do have your six? Or are you looking forward to getting some sixers in your life?

 

Your sixth list:

The sixth list you are going to write is your ‘ways to nuture myself’ list. Make a list of all the ways that you can nurture yourself, no matter how small or big. This is a list that you can reference back to when you feel you need some self love and care.

 

Share your list!

If you are comfortable to, please share your list in the comments. Think of all the great ways we could self nurture if we shared 🙂

See you tomorrow.

Honey

x

Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

Who has your six?

Who has your six?

Who has your six?

‘In the army they have a phrase ‘who has your six’ which means who has your back. It’s because 12 o’clock is front and 6 o’clock is back. This is important in the army where your job is literally life and death and you need to have complete trust in those around you.

It is so important to seek out people who ‘have your six’ in life. You probably have family that do this automatically, but there are many ways to find and have people that have your back. Some of them may be friends, your partner or your work buddies. People you can trust and turn to when life gets messy or you need a pep talk.

But what humans often forget is that we are all in this together. ‘We’ is far more powerful than ‘I’.  When we combine forces with another person or other people we create a whole new energy, a new force that can achieve more.

Ideas with knobs on

Think about it. You have ideas which when you can  share with trusted people and they add their ideas, you then have ideas with knobs on.

But supporting another person gives you something too. Helping other people is one of the key contributors to making you happy. It give a lasting feeling of contribution and satisfaction. What could be more rewarding than making a positive difference to someone else’s life?

We’ve all heard of:

  • The teacher that spotted the talent in the child
  • The adult that saw that a child was having a tough time and helped them
  • That person who totally changed someone’s life
  • The well connected person that spotted a quiet talent
  • The kind person that saved someone’s life

 

Priceless

I recently saw a facebook post from someone who was having a tough time and put a very raw and personal message out. What happened as a result  was a fundraising campaign to help him to give his kids a good Christmas. He was given thousands of pounds which must have been a great help. But I bet that feeling he had of all the love & support and people that care was PRICELESS.

One excellent way to have someone’s six is mentoring. The Aspire Foundation offers the opportunity to mentor women around the world. I’ve mentored people for about 15 years and love using my coaching skills to help them.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of things you felt stressed about so you could understand what the stress was a symptom of.  How did that work out for you? Any surprises? Don’t forget I can help you with both the root causes and symptoms of stress.

 

Your fifth list:

The fifth list you are going to write is your ‘people who have my six’ list. Make a list of all the people through the course of your life that have had your six.  You will be amazed how many people cared about you, inspired you, helped you or supported you. This is a lovely list to make.

If your list is short or you find it difficult to write, don’t worry. Sometimes we haven’t met the right people yet. You can do this differently. You can write a list of the things you would like help or support with. Or the qualities that your ‘sixer’ would have. This will work in a law of attraction style to help shape the things you think you need.

Lastly, if you don’t have a sixer, be a sixer. Support others and feel how good it feels.

 

I got your six

Oh by the way, if you are one of my clients, I have your six. I will support you in making any changes you need to. That’s a promise 🙂

See you tomorrow.

Honey

x

Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

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