But you will find it hard to be happy without energy. We are energy beings. There are some key things that will drain your energy like poor diet, lack of exercise or emotional turmoil but what about the less obvious ones?
1 – Thinking about the past
If you live to 80 years old you will have 29,200 days of life. How many will you spend thinking about things that happened in the past? Of course it’s not always possible to just stop thinking about the past by yourself so you may need to get professional help. I’m a Hypnotherapist and NLP Master practitioner which means I change the way the past feels for people by making changes in the subconscious. This is a big topic and I have a blog on it here
2 – Thinking of the things you can’t do rather than the things you can
You might wish you were good at something or had certain opportunities but when you look at the things you can’t do you drain your energy from the things you can. So if you don’t have the money to go on a certain trip, create a different trip that you can afford. If you can’t run a 5k, walk one or build up to one. Focusing on the can, rather than the can’t feeds your energy (and confidence).
3 – Disliking your body
How often do you look down at your belly and think you are fat or it is gross? That belly is working hard for you on the inside! The digestive system is amazing! Often referred to as the second brain. Try nourishing it with probiotics and see how great you feel. Some things are functional and don’t look pretty! So your legs are wobbly but aren’t they the same legs that carry you up the stairs to be the tooth fairy and down the stairs to be Santa?
4 – Not discovering new things
Can you imagine a dog that was kept in a dog cage and never went to the park, sniffed trees, met other dogs, ran for a stick, jumped in a lake, followed a scent, ran free in the grass, made doggy friends, chased a cat, ate something he shouldn’t, dug a hole, got made a fuss of by people other than his owner….. life is an exciting adventure. There are 7 billion people on the planet, 195 countries and over a billion websites! Discovering new things enriches and excites us.
5 – Overspending your energy
Energy is not unlimited. You only have a certain amount. Sportspeople understand this and footballers are advised not to have sex before a big match! So do you know how you are spending your energy? Is work draining you? Or a relationship? Or are you spending your energy on worry? Awareness is the first step and then looking at balancing the ‘energy books’ can make huge differences to your life.
6 – Not nourishing your soul
Do you know what makes you happy? Or are the things that used to make you happy not working anymore? We are fluid creatures and whilst you may have a passion that lasts a lifetime, you might evolve and need new hobbies and interests to match your current state. By trying new things and having an open mind you might just find that belly dancing makes your soul feel alive!
7 – Your mindset
Some people find the phrase ‘positive thinking’ cheesy. And it can be; not everything is awesome! I really liked this blog that Michael Neill wrote recently where he talked about choosing our attitude to tasks we don’t enjoy. The purpose of the post was boosting productivity but what I took from it was by choosing our attitude, everything can be better.
If you are in a job you don’t enjoy, people may advise you to leave. But this just isn’t practical in all cases. By changing your mindset, it could feel like a new job!
So you see you may be leaking precious energy without even realising it. But if you aren’t enjoying your life as much as you want to or find it hard to get motivated, start by plugging energy leaks.
Here’s the plan:
Think about your energy levels. Can you identify any leaks?
Use a page in your notebook/journal and split it into seven squares. Label each one with a day of the week and make a note each day of your energy level out of ten and why you think that might be.
Dawn is a Life Coach, Personal Development Teacher, Inspirational Speaker and Hay House Author. She is the Founder of The Harmonizing Coaching Academy, a holistic coaching school which offers a suite of bespoke heart-centred coach training programmes to Coaches, Therapists, NLP Practitioners and Healers.
Here is Dawn’s guest blog for us…..
Coping with uncertainty – wisdom from Mother Nature
Chaos is erupting all over the planet and human beings caught in the cross fire are suffering on a grand scale.
Whether it’s global disharmony or the disharmony in our own personal or business lives, the current climate of instability is impacting everyone. Daily waves of shock and terror rock the foundations of our security, shake our confidence and leave many of us feeling out of control.
Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Human beings love certainty. We crave predictability.
So, what happens if the political leader you despise gets in, the life you secretly crave never transpires, your relationship doesn’t look like it’s going to make it, the business runs out of money or indeed you run out of patience or energy? What if you were to lose your job, lose your pension or, dare I say it, face an incurable illness? How do you feel when you are confronted with the unknown?
Each of us deals with fear and uncertainty in our own unique way
Some of us appear to manage the blows of bad news, whilst others attempt to ignore their deepest fears, numbing their true feelings and burying their heads in the sand. They cling on for dear life, mentally trying to hold back the unfolding tide of reality. Human beings like to know what’s happening and when we can expect an outcome – our careers, our businesses our relationships and our financial security, all appear to depend on certainty – but do they really?
Living a full life means living with uncertainty
Being human and participating in a full life is risky business. We are actually living in a constant state of ever evolving flux and change. Whether we acknowledge it or not, our lives are messy and unpredictable. Driving a car, being in a job or a relationship, being a parent, buying into a pension scheme, going on a date or getting pregnant, even being born; all involve risk. Things don’t always turn out as we plan, fortunately most of us survive it.
The tightness with which we hold on to our fixed ideas of how we would like life to be, determines how easily we transition through change.
Human beings are incredibly resilient. You are actually much more resilient and adaptable than you could ever imagine.
When we begin to let go of the ideas of how we think our life or world should be and we begin to accept the reality of how things really are, our suffering will begin to lessen. Acceptance of change will set us free as we step back into the flow of our evolving future.
There are huge upsides to instability and change.
Change can potentially grow us; it evolves our perspective. It has a lasting emotional, physical and spiritual impact on us, both as individuals and as the human collective. In my experience, the people who have undergone loss, pain and tragedy in their lives have gained vast amounts of empathy and wisdom. Change is a birthplace of creativity and new beginnings. It can offer us freedom from the chains of stagnation, pain and powerlessness. Change can be our friend.
Mother Nature can help us to adapt more easily to change.
Mother Nature is a master at adapting to chaos and change. Plants have survived through ever changing weather patterns. Droughts, storms, floods, frost and snow happen yet life goes on. Nature is in a constant state of flux, yet she always remains present and receptive, ready for her next stage of growth. Unlike humans, who question their capacity to adapt or survive in adverse situations, Nature trusts and adapts to her circumstances with essential ease. This is grace.
How does Nature flow with uncertainty and change?
She does notresist or fightthe storms; she stays soft and allows them to pass through
She does notfearwhat’s coming next; she stays rooted in herself, trusting in grace.
She does notattachto an outcome; she remains prepared to let go, in order to grow.
She does notcontrolher unfolding; she trusts in the guidance of the life forces and her ability to adapt.
Being a human means you are constantly growing. Growth means change. In your own life so far you have experienced many changes already, some which were easy and some which were difficult. One thing is for sure, when you are open to change you have the power to guide the evolving direction of your life. If you are closed, you will stagnate.
The next time you feel fearful about a change remind yourself…
I CANadapt. I am much more resilient than I believe.
I CANre-form my life and create a new vision at any time.
I CANlet go my damaging attachments to people, experiences or stuff. This alleviates my suffering.
I CANlet go with ease and allow my life open up to a new chapter.
I CANlet go resistance to my truth. I can face change and new beginnings.
I CANlet go stagnation as I courageously embrace this ending.
I CANlet go into a resting and re-forming period of my life.
I CANtrust I know what I need to keep and what I need to let go.
You can also watch Dawn Breslin’s story of growth through burn out and recovery here.
Continuing our theme of special guest bloggers talking about increasing physical, emotional and spiritual energy for happiness, please welcome guest blogger Susan Ellis-Saller.
Susan is an energy worker, a tarot and angel card reader, an angel practitioner, and a life coach. She has worked with crystals and aromatherapy for more than 20 years and loves to help people find more happiness and positive feelings in their lives.
Here is Susan’s blog about some simple tactics and easy to find tools that can help you improve the vibe in your home and life.
7 Alternative Ways to Help Bring More Happiness to Your Life
Are you looking for some new ways to increase the happiness in your life? Have you ever thought of using crystals, minerals, and energy healing methods to bring more happiness into your home and environment?
1) Clear clutter
I know that might seem like a bummer to do, but the stuff that’s lying around your house can actually be charged with negative energy. Removing it and clearing space can work wonders for your mood and also make space for more positive energy to flow.
2) Use music
There are sound therapists who are actually trained to use their voices to clear the energy of your space – either in your home or office. Their pitches might sound foreign to your ears, but they do wonders for breaking up negative energy and adding a lighter note to your home’s energy! Check out Urte Tragman’s site for more info.
You can also play classical music or use a bell to clear the air in your rooms and homes. Practitioners say the chord of C works well, and you can experiment with other chords and types of music to see what works best for you.
3) Surround yourself with crystals
Certain crystals, like rose quartz and selenium, are associated with bringing positive vibes into a space and are even associated with the angels! You can either carry them on your person or scatter them around your home to increase their effectiveness.
If you want to absorb or deflect negative energy or vibes, keep a black tourmaline on you or put smoky quartz in your home. Both of these crystals are wonderful for absorbing the bad – leaving more room for the good!
4) Use salt!
Salt can help to soak up negative vibes, so you can bathe in a salted bath or use a Himalayan salt lamp in your work/home space. Himalayan salt lamps are said to give off certain ionic particles that help to clear the air and also to absorb electronic rays and particles given off by the many technological devices we use on a daily basis.
5) Scents can help, too!
Citrus scents, like lemon and grapefruit, are mood enhancers. They stimulate different areas in the brain and can also bring on a more “sunny” disposition. Bergamot is also associated with improving a person’s mood – especially if he or she is suffering from depression.
If you are looking for stress relief, go with a lavender or chamomile scent. Both are mild and both are helpful in tackling stress. Just watch out, with scents. Make sure that you use a little bit in the beginning to make sure that you are not allergic or sensitive to what you are using.
Also, people who are prone to seizures or who are pregnant should check with a licensed aromatherapist before using any oils – topically or in the air.
6) Bring in some flowers
Studies show that flowers help to elevate EVERYONE’s mood (or the vast majority of the population, anyway)! If there is a kind of flower you love, then even putting a picture of that flower in your home or workspace can help to improve the mood.
Plants, too, have been found to increase the flow of positive energy in a home or office. There are different plants associated with different areas of life, like love or prosperity.
7) Uplift with color!
The mood or tone of your home can be enhanced by the color(s) of the accessories you choose. If you’d like to lift the mood in your home up, then think about bright, vibrant accents like yellow and orange (sunny, happy colors) or even calming colors, like pastels and “water colors” like turquoise, blue, and lavender.
Many times, colors and scents associated with those colors have similar effects on the mind and body. So, rose and pink (and rose quartz) will both bring a positive, innocent touch to your atmosphere. Purples and lavender (and amethyst) will have a calming and soothing effect, etc.
Simple things can change your mood
Sometimes, using alternative methods will help you to improve your happiness in ways you hadn’t thought of before. Simple things, like color and scent can have a big impact on your mood, as can energetic clearing methods like listening to music.
It’s important to explore many different ways of improving your environment and your mood – and using crystals, flowers, and scents can have a wonderful effect!
Meet guest blogger: The Real Food Coach – Katie Hedges
Katie is a passionate foodie, aspiring recipe developer and healthy eating expert. Known as The Real Food coach and founder of Thrive & Shine, your way to wellness – health coaching. She created The Real Food Revolution to help men and women escape the diet-trap and experience food freedom to live a vibrant life of wellness! When she’s not holding bespoke coaching sessions, she can be found getting creative in the kitchen, nibbling raw chocolate, taking energetic dance-breaks or walking her little dog Tillybean along the beach on the sunny south coast.
Here is Katie’s guest blog about how food contributes to happiness and yummy Happy Hippy Bowl recipe….
6 Super Foods to send your Happiness Levels Soaring!
Woohoo, I’m so excited to be a part of the 30 day happiness fest! I hope you’re enjoying all these juicy tips and tools as much as I am.
As I always say, happiness is an inside job and excellent nutrition and mindful eating are the first steps to a happier, more vibrant you!
Let’s dive straight in to my 6 super foods to send your happiness levels soaring!
1. You are going to love this one – chocolate!
Yes, you read that right. I’m a health coach who fully advocates eating mood-boosting chocolate in abundance. Swap your sugar laden snickers bar or milk chocolate for the rawer, purer variety to really feel the benefit!
Raw cacao (chocolate in its rawest form) contains the highest antioxidant level of any other food. A synergy of polyphenols and epicatechins, it has more antioxidants than acai, goji berries, blueberries and pomegranate combined! These protect us from disease causing free radicals and provide an amazing youth boost to our cells. Cacao is packed full of minerals, including magnesium, zinc and immune boosting vitamin C. Plus naturally occurring feel good chemicals, including PEA the chemical produced when we fall in love, and Tryptophan which produces the happy hormone, Serotonin. You can enjoy raw chocolate in smoothies, stirred into porridge oats or make your own raw chocolate bars and snacks to eat yourself happy.
2. Happy fats!
More studies are emerging about how omega-3 essential fats may offer powerful protection against depression. These essential fats are necessary for proper growth, development and function of brain tissue, and even help to improve cognition! By giving your body high levels of nutritious fats, you are literally feeding your brain, which is made up of about 60% fat.
One of my favorite sources are chia seeds, which you can soak in nut milk to swell into a scrumptious, nourishing pudding and top with your choice of equally brain nourishing nuts and seeds. Chia seeds are also a wonderful protein rich addition to healthy smoothies that I make for my clients. Other good sources of these essential fats are walnuts, flaxseeds and oily fish, such as salmon.
Avocado is just as wonderful for a happy, healthy brain and supports effective nutrient absorption which is key for healthy cells and a happy body from the inside out. I love to eat half an avocado mashed with a little seasoning or cayenne pepper, which offers an additional metabolism boost!
3. Mood enhancing complex carbs
Such as quinoa boost the brain chemical, serotonin. Try my delicious Happy Hippy Bowl recipe with quinoa, crispy kale and walnuts with cumin + caraway spiced beetroot hummus! Don’t be tempted to shun all carbs, just the processed ones – white bread, rice, pasta and potatoes, which only make us sluggish. Stick to healthy grains including wholegrain rice and veggies such as sweet potatoes and squash. Rolled Oats are also a fantastic mood enhancer, rich in energizing B vitamins, fibre and folic acid to lift and maintain your mood!
4. Happiness begins in the gut!
Our gut is our “second brain” or the communication highway between the the GI tract and the brain. In a recent Dutch study people who received a probiotic (friendly bacteria) supplement showed significantly reduced reactivity to sad mood. To increase your intake of mood enhancing friendly bacteria, stock up on gut loving, probiotic rich fermented foods, including sauerkraut, kimchi, kefir and kombucha or take a probiotic supplement to give you a boost.
5. Fun with fungi!
Mushrooms are an underrated superfood that are rich in selenium and the only natural plant source of vitamin D, a key nutrient many of us aren’t getting enough of. Vitamin D has been linked to healthy bone health, heart health and enhanced mental wellbeing. In a study on people with seasonal affective disorder, those who increased intake of vitamin D experienced enhanced mood. Lightly pan-fried mushrooms are delicious on avocado toast (avocado will help with the absorption of vitamin D.) but you could also add mushrooms to homemade tomato-based pasta sauces, omelettes and frittatas. You can find free recipes that you’ll love on my page ww.facebok.com/thriveshine.
6. Mood boosting Berries!
These super fruits are packed full of anthocyanins (antioxidants that give berries their vibrant hues) which help to reduce aging in the brain that can lead to slower thought processes while boosting overall energy to keep us feeling lifted and fully vital. As each berry has own mix of phytochemicals go for a varied mixture. I recommend buying frozen berries to add to fresh smoothies.
Healthy Lifestyle = Happier Life:
While eating a nutritious diet will certainly benefit your health and wellbeing, no one super food will boost your happiness alone. You’ve got to cultivate healthy habits to sustain your happiness for the long term which is something wellness and wellbeing experts like myself and Honey are here to help you with! Enjoy a rich, varied diet of fresh, natural, vitamin-rich produce (in a variety of colours) while cutting back on stimulants, sugar and processed foods to find your happy, healthy balance! xx
Happy Hippy Bowl Recipe
Happy Hippie Bowl
2 tsp. Coconut oil
1 large clove of Garlic, sliced or minced
150g Quinoa (cooked)
½ a can or jar of Chickpeas drained, rinsed
1 large handful of kale, stalks removed
3 tsp. Paprika
1 small avocado
For the Caraway Cumin Beetroot Hummus
1-2 small cooked beetroot 2 small cloves of garlic
½ a can or tin of chickpeas, drained and rinsed
3 tsp. ground cumin
1 tsp. caraway seeds
1 tbs. extra virgin olive oil
Pink salt, black pepper.
Small handful walnuts to scatter (optional)
Add all hummus ingredients to a food processor (or a bowl and use a handheld blender) and whizz into a smooth paste. Serve in a dipping bowl and keep in the fridge (keeps well for 2-4 days.) Meanwhile, slice the avocado and set to one side. Heat coconut oil in a pan and add the garlic to cook on a medium heat for 1 minute. Add the cooked quinoa to the pan, along with the chickpeas and kale. Sprinkle over the paprika and cook for 10-12 minutes or until chickpeas are heated through and the kale is cooked. Serve the quinoa, chickpea kale mix on a plate, along with a generous serving on the beetroot hummus, walnuts and sliced avocado. Squeeze over some lemon juice and season with pink salt and cracked black pepper to taste.
The Dalai Lama has said: ‘The very purpose of life is to seek happiness’.
The dictionary defines happiness in several ways including ‘enjoying or expressing pleasure and contentment’ but also ‘well adapted’. I find the ‘well adapted’ particularly interesting as for a lot of people, maintaining happiness or preventing unhappiness will be a job for life.
Are you an ‘away from’ or a ‘towards’?
People are driven by ‘away from’ and ‘towards’. Some people will find a situation so undesirable (job, relationship, home) that they will actively seek to change it. These people are driven by ‘away from’. The opposite is towards which means people that aspire towards things like a job they would like, a place they would like to live or a type of home or other things they might want in their life. There is no right or wrong, they are simply different drivers in people. It is useful to understand yours.
So when we talk about happiness, you may be an ‘away from’ trying to keep the wolf from the door and stopping yourself being unhappy. Or you may be a ‘towards’ which means you are looking to be happier. Considering that most people would answer ‘yes’ when asked if they want to be happy and 1 in 3 people suffer from depression. I think we can safety say that we need to address both.
Does your mind need a spring clean?
Imagine your mind is like a room that you spend a lot of time in. Do you want it to be dirty, dark, and untidy and have rotting plates of food hanging around? Out of control? Or do you want it to be clean and fresh and nicely decorated. A place of calm and control? If the answer is the latter, let’s look at some ways to give your mind a bit of a spring clean.
We are already monitoring our mind chatter. That’s the pair of muddy boots trying to come into your room!
You don’t want them in your room because they will leave dirt everywhere. So you see them coming in but either leave them outside the door or clean them up! Keep catching that mind chatter, that’s the voice inside your head that may tell you:
‘I’m not good enough’
‘I can’t do this’
‘Nobody likes me’
‘It won’t work’
You need to become a mind COP. Ne naw ne naw.
CATCH IT – OWN IT – PROTECT YOURSELF
You are catching those negative thoughts, owning them as your thoughts and protecting yourself against feeling bad or sinking into a spiral of negative thinking. Remember that spiral of negative thinking happens when we attach other negative thoughts or memories to the original negative thought.
We will be looking at drivers of happiness in later blogs but for now we are focusing on that wolf at the door because we don’t want to let him in and make our heads a mess.
Here’s the plan:
Continue to catch your negative mind chatter – are you noticing a key theme or time it occurs yet?
Monitor the amount of time you think negatively
Start to acknowledge that when a thought comes in, it may not be true 🙂
Become a mind COP. Catch it, own it, protect yourself.