My limiting belief about parking tickets

My limiting belief about parking tickets

How I got my limiting belief about parking tickets

A few years ago someone told me that if you don’t fit your whole car in a car park space (including the tow bar) that a traffic warden could give you a parking ticket. So for years I have sought big enough parking spaces to make sure I could fit my whole car in them. It only occurred to me today that I had lived by this ‘rule’ without even checking if it’s true!

The point of telling you this is that quite often we make ‘rules’ for ourselves which we then then strictly live by. And most of the time they are complete nonsense but stop us doing so many things that we could or would do. These ‘limiting beliefs’ can seriously alter the course of your life, stop you taking opportunities and stop you fulfilling your potential.

Can you imagine how much time and petrol I have spent finding spaces when I could have parked in the first one I saw. Limiting beliefs do this. They stop us getting things we want or need. They ‘block’ us.

Limiting beliefs are those which constrain us in some way. Just by believing them, we make them true for ourselves.

Here are some common limiting beliefs that you may have

Confidence

The first limiting belief that stops you being confident is ‘I’m not confident’. So I ask you? Were you a confident child? Are you not confident in all situations? If you are not confident in social situations but you are confident in your profession or parenting, then maybe it is not true that you are ‘not confident’. Once you overcome your limiting beliefs about not being confident you will be amazed how much confidence you have!

Weight loss

Two common limiting beliefs I hear people say when they come for Hypnotherapy for weight loss are ‘I have a big appetite’ and ‘I can’t lose weight’. Well if you believe these things your body will believe them too. Especially as your brain and stomach are in constant communication (with the stomach being called the second brain). So all the time you believe these beliefs you are unlikely to lose the weight you want to lose. Your brain also likes negativity! So you need to ditch negative limiting beliefs to achieve your weight loss goals.

Depression

Of course depression feels very real and it would be hard to think that you have beliefs around depression. But as this is a subject I specialise in as a therapist, I can say with confidence that you may have beliefs along the lines of ‘I can’t enjoy my life’ or ‘I will never be happy’ or ‘I’m not lucky in life’. These are beliefs that will keep you stuck and they are not always easy to overcome on your own.

Anxiety

When you are put in a situation that clashes with your limiting belief this may make you feel anxious. Imagine your limiting belief is that you can’t talk in front of a group and then you are given a presentation to do at work. This causes a lot of people a lot of anxiety to the extent that many people even have panic attacks. Imagine swapping the belief that you can’t talk in front of people to ‘I can talk about anything to anyone’ What would that be like?

Motivation

If you believe that you can’t be motivated, that will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You may let opportunities pass you by, believing you will lack the motivation to do them. You may see other people moving on, doing things you wanted to do. And the truth is they are no different to you but they just don’t hold the same belief around motivation.

Love

If you have lived then you’ve probably loved and maybe been hurt. Quite often this will give you limiting beliefs like ‘I will get hurt’ or ‘no one will love me like I want to be loved’. These are ingrained by your experiences and the pain you felt. With a bit of work on yourself you can overcome these thoughts and feelings.

Money

The limiting beliefs around money are vast! You may have inherited some like ‘it’s wrong to waste money’ or ‘you have to work really hard to make money’ or even some that make you feel guilty about having money. These will hold you back in your career or your business. You need to believe that making money is ok, that you deserve money and that you don’t need to feel guilty about having it or spending it.

Relaxation

Half the job of relaxation is believing that you can! I hear this a lot in my Hypnotherapy practice, people say ‘I can’t relax’ or ‘I can’t meditate’ and so we do some work and then they are soon deeply relaxed. And once that has happened, that belief is soon out the window! My top tip for anything is believe you can and you are halfway there.

 

Finding your limiting beliefs

find your limiting beliefs

Identifying your limiting beliefs can be a big piece of work and NLP can be very useful for identifying them and overcoming them. You can read about NLP here. Basically, we all create our own ‘map of the world’. Our map is what we believe is the way it is, how it should be and how people are and should be. This ‘map’ is created by our own experiences and beliefs we absorb and inherit from others.

 

If you want to start looking for them then look out for things you think or say that begin with:
  • I can’t
  • I must/mustn’t
  • I am/am not

We can unknowingly hide behind our limiting beliefs and subconsciously use them as excuses not to push ourselves into uncomfortable situations (which is where we grow the most). We can also use them to protect ourselves from fearful situations. i.e. if your belief is that you don’t ‘fit in’ you will most likely avoid situations where you socialise and therefore avoid your fear of ‘not fitting in’.

 

Some of the most common limiting beliefs are below. Can you identify with any?
  • I’m too old, too young, too fat, too out of shape, etc.
  • I’m not clever enough
  • I’m not outgoing
  • I can’t do that.
  • I don’t have confidence
  • I don’t have enough skills or talent
  • I am not motivated
  • I’m terrible at managing my time, money, etc.
  • I make too many mistakes
  • Successful people have more drive than me
  • I’m a failure
  • I’m a slow learner
  • I don’t fit in
  • I’m unloveable
  • I procrastinate too much
  • I don’t have time
  • I’m too old to try that
  • I have too many responsibilities

 

And of course, the big one that can make or break a life is ‘I’m not good enough’. I just want to tell you now that YOU ARE.

 

I can help you break through your limiting beliefs and living the life you really want

im possibleIf you want to explore your limiting beliefs or indeed yourself, please do drop me a text or email and let’s have a chat about introducing you to you 🙂

 

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Honey

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Healthy eating – Day 15. Jill Howie tells us how she changed her diet and changed her life

Healthy eating – Day 15. Jill Howie tells us how she changed her diet and changed her life

How I changed my diet and changed my life

Jill Howie from Portchester, Fareham changed her diet and changed her life. Here she shares her story.

This is Jill Howie

Hi this is me in mid April at the beginning of my journey and 18 weeks later some 3 stone 4lbs lighter and feeling on top of the world indeed (some way to go but I ll never go back to the old me ).

My life is now full and fantastic

To show you how I changed my life around I’ll show you a fairly typical day (although I must say life is so full and fantastic right now that “typical” changes daily).

exercise bike

So normally I will wake around 6 am and drink a large glass of water (I love water now and drink at least 3 litres a day. A must for everyone ) and be ready to either do a small workout (I find many online and do a quite simple legs bums and tums or arms one) but today was a cycle whilst catching up on recorded programme.

That done it’s time for brekkie which this morning was a snicker (only joking it was a smoothie made with chocolate, hazlenut milk and cashew butter). Delicious yet healthy and completely natural.

This morning I have a few notes to write up and some info to send to some prospective clients (I run my own business helping others get fab fit and healthy too. Just a dream come true truly).

Snack time

humous and celery snack strawberry crunch nakd bar

To keep me going until lunch I will have a snack today is houmous and celery but lots of other lovelies available fruit , nuts , nakd bars for example.

Lunch

tuna salad lunch

After a busy morning I’m ready for a light lunch and as its so hot out I opt for a lovely delicious tuna salad.

Healthier treats

You know following this healthy eating had changed my life and why I ever did these fad diets before is beyond me.  Clean eating has literally changed my life. Now to share it with a friend who is coming to visit as she has just started with me and so I’m making a few healthier cakes and biscuits we can have guilt free.

healthy cakes and biscuits

Chocolate cakes made from a very simple gluten wheat and dairy free recipe as are the lemon biscuits (both were quite delicious ) So much so said friend left with the left overs and recipe in hand which is always a good sign.

My confidence is growing

I really sometimes have to pinch myself when I think how much my life has changed. With poor health and little confidence my life seemed to revolve around my home quite often alone and sleeping.  Now I am out and about helping others as well as attending as many events as I possibly can.

My confidence is growing even to the point where I allow the odd photo.  This was always a no no hence the shortage of before photos. Crazy isn’t it!!

Dinner

So to dinner what do we have for dinner tonight chicken tikka masala won again all fresh clean ingredients no take aways or processed for us anymore. This is so much tastier and so easy. Tasted divine I can tell you.

healthy food
Here are a few of the meals we’ve eaten recently there really is no need to go hungry to lose weight and get healthy.

This evening is so lovely we spent it in the garden and I decided to use one of my cheats ( these are good to have keeps you focused and nothing is off limits if you really want it although I find mostly my body craves goodness even when we eat out its the fish and fresh vegetables that have me drooling not he stodge anymore).

So whilst hubby and I talk about our dream holiday which may now be in our reach since the change in my health and our finances, I treat myself to vodka and soda and possibly a few healthy nibbles.

Life is a dream right now. I hope you ve found some inspiration from my words if you d like to talk to me and find out more about how I’ve changed my life please  email me

A note from Honey

Thank you Jill for sharing your clean eating journey with us and well done.

 

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Honey

 

 

 

 

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