Do employers care about your mental health?

Do employers care about your mental health?

Your mental health – How much do you honestly think your employer cares about it?

Do you feel that they care more about business results than the mental health of the people they manage?

I was motivated to think about this question and write this post as a result of another blog post I saw. A woman that sent an email to her boss to say she needed to take a mental health sick day got a really cool response. You can read about it here

What do you think your boss would say if you sent an email saying you were having a mental health sick day? Would they respond kindly or would they respond asking for an update on your work! In many cases bosses lack empathy towards employees.

Is mental health in your workplace taken as seriously as physical health?

It might be slightly different of course with an obvious physical illness. You know the sort of thing, leg in cast, swollen eye, streaming cold or sporting injury. Or even an operation where you are actually in hospital and completely unable to work ,so the boss can be satisfied you are no good to them whatsoever for a while.

Most people have sympathy towards physical illness don’t they? ‘Awwww, that looks sore’ or ‘you poor thing, hope you are feeling better soon’. But is there the same level of sympathy towards mental health or is there still a bit of a stigma? Many people are not keen to openly talk about depression although mixed anxiety & depression is the most common mental disorder in Britain, with 7.8% of people meeting criteria for diagnosis and 4-10% of people in England experiencing depression in their lifetime.

Is there still a mental health stigma?

Hard day at the office

Why is there any stigma or lack of support for mental health issues in the workplace? Luckily, high profile people like Price Harry are really helping matters by talking about it. He has openly said how the death of his mother, Princess Diana affected his mental health and wellbeing.

 

You might not think there is a stigma as you may be lucky to be in a workplace that is supportive of mental health issues like Laing O’Rourke. But there clearly is a huge problem 49% of people saying they would be unlikely to tell their boss about problems such as anxiety, depression or bipolar disorder. Only 35% said they’d be happy to tell colleagues.

They say people leave companies because of bad bosses….

Some workplaces are almost archaic in their support of mental health issues. Managers that are so wrapped up in their own careers and living and breathing ‘work’ that they forget the people that work for them are PEOPLE. It makes a real difference when your manager bothers to get to know you as a person. Asks after your family, makes you feel like a human.

And when you have a mental health issue and you manager is supportive, wow! That can really make or break your happiness at work. Maybe they support you be making changes to your hours, or your workload or support appointments for you to get professional help.

Or maybe they simply respect that not every day you are able to put in your most amazing performance or effort.  It doesn’t make you a less committed or able employee. Businesses are obsessed with number of hours worked when actually you can be just as efficient and if not more in less hours if you are happy and supported.

It’s time for employers to wake up and smell the bachs remedy

Mental Health in the UK

It is so shortsighted for employers not to consider the mental health of it’s employees part of its strategy and company ethos.

In business speak, the costs of not doing so are massive with mixed anxiety and depression estimated to cause one fifth of days lost from work in Britain.

 

Things that don’t help mental health at work are:

  • Unsupportive company ethos
  • Bullying
  • Systems and processes that cause stress
  • Regular overworking
  • Lack of ‘Wellbeing at work’ initiatives
  • Lack of support from managers and HR
  • Lack of appropriate training
  • Unrealistic targets and timescales

The things on this list cause stress and anxiety in abundance. Both of which can lead to depression and absence from work.

Some companies are wellbeing aware

Time to change

Luckily 500 smart companies have signed up for the Time to Change Pledge to challenge mental health stigma and discrimination across England.

 

 

In a really great guide from Mentalhealth.org.uk they explain that good mental health practices have to start with managers. They advise looking out for these things in employees:

  • Irritable
  • Sensitive to criticism
  • Loss of confidence or humour
  • Making more mistakes
  • Indecisive
  • Lack of concentration
  • Not taking breaks
  • Becoming introverted or extroverted
  • Displaying stress
  • Looking tired
  • Lack of motivation

 

Prevention will pay dividends

There is also a great deal that can be done at prevention level which starts with having an open approach to mental health. Talking about it in the company and being supportive of people working their contracted hours and not regularly expecting more. Have realistic job descriptions and treat people like people.

Of course people want to do a good job and be successful, it’s good for self-esteem and motivation. But they also want lives and energy to enjoy themselves!

Some companies cottoned onto the benefits of having a workforce who nurture their mental health a while ago. Some of the best are mentioned here

If you know a company that are good at caring about the mental health of their employees, please give them a shout out in the comments of this blog. They deserve it 🙂

There is a very simple sum too which sums up why employers should care about mental health.

Happy staff = staff that want to make customers happy = happy business = attracts high quality employees that want to work there = happy business etc

In short, caring about your brain is a no brainer 🙂

A quick word for the self employed

As you are your own boss, you are responsible for your own mental health. Self employed people can be so enthusiastic about their businesses that they let their self-care slip. Don’t let this be you! If you are in business you will know that you need to play both the short game and the long game and this applies to your physical and mental health too.

Schedule days off and holidays. Make sure your customers and clients know your working hours so your ‘free time’ does not become ‘work time’.

So many people leave Corporate life to enjoy the benefits of being self employed and actually ending working harder and longer. Nothing wrong with passion for your business, but if you burn out you won’t be able to do very much at all.

You have personal responsilbity for your own mental health too

Of course, work is not the only cause of mental health issues. Problems can arise after a life changing event, illness or for no reason at all unfortunately. There is loads you can do to take care of your own wellbeing and keep mental health issues at bay. Then you can enjoy your work and the rest of your life to the best of your ability.

Sign up for the free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge

I’ve seen enough ‘frazzled’ clients to understand that prevention is always better than cure when it comes to mental health.

You might want to sign up for my free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge which is an easy to follow plan for busy people. Just sign up via the pop up here on my website.

Did you get a fit-bit for Christmas?

Did you get a fit-bit for Christmas?

Did you get a fit-bit for Christmas?

‘They’ say we should be doing 10,000 a steps a day to be healthy. If you got a fit-bit for Christmas, it will count your steps each day and you might be looking for ways to increase your activity. Maybe you’ve joined a gym or bought an exercise DVD to do at home. Maybe you haven’t really got into anything yet and are finding it hard to motivate yourself.

A ridiculously high percentage of people that join the gym each year in January stop going by February. This might be because they didn’t find something they loved doing. If you find something you love to do you won’t want to stop doing it!

You might need to try a few different things before you find the right exercise for you. Some people enjoy a bit of Zumba and others are not so keen but love to swim or run. You’ve just got to find your thing (or things).

 

Here are some ideas of things you could try!

 

trainers

 

1.     Max HIIT workout: HIIT is very high-intensity interval training. It burns major calories in less time. This seven-minute HIIT workout is the perfect circuit to raise your heart rate while working your entire body.

2.     Spinning which is basically cycling indoors: See it here

3.    Tabata workout: Tabata is a type of HIIT workout that involves 20 seconds of max training followed by 10-second rests, for a total of four minutes. This 10-minute Tabata workout video includes two intense circuits along with a quick warm up and cool down.

4.   CrossFit workout: CrossFit is for serious athletes. You can see what it is like here

5. Pilates is great for your core, see what it is like here.

6 – Circuits is a mixture of everything; weights, running,  squats and lots of other things. See it here.

7. Kickboxing is just as it says! See it here.

So do any of those take your fancy? would love to hear about what sort of exercise you have tried and what your experience was.

It is often said that when you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit. Howeve, if you are doing something you like aswell as it feeling like more of a natural thing to do, the fact that you enjoying it will be enough to pull you back time and time again.

 

If you need help embarking on a healthier lifestyle….

If you want to stop smoking to help you in you quest for a healthier lifestyle the easiest way to stop really is with Hypnotherapy. I offer a 2 session stop smoking treatment to get you stopped for good. I do mine in 2 sessions as I have found the results with 2 sessions to be excellent.

Other ways Hypnotherapy can help with fitness is by focusing the mind on sports targets for running and strengthening motivation for all sporting events. The mind is just as important as the body for exercise!

 

This blog is one in a 30 day series about self-development and practical lists we will be making to enhance our lives. I’m using these blogs to provide coaching and advice in my capacity as a qualified coach and Hypnotherapist working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of things that were special about you to put on your CV. Did you manage to weave those into a personal statement?

Your ninth list:

For your ninth list I would like you to consider writing 2 lists. The first list is a list of all the reasons you think you should or reasons you want to exercise.

The second is exercise you could try and how you will fit it into your life (it can be difficult to imagine how you can fit it into your already jam packed life at all but that’s the reason you wrote the first list).

If the reasons on your first list are strong enough, you will find a way to fit your exercise in.

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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Why your CV is like a dating profile

Why your CV is like a dating profile

When you walk down the street and pass people you don’t know, you cannot possibly tell what ‘sort of person’ they are. When a potential employer picks up the pile of CVs from people applying for a post they advertised, they don’t know anything about them either. They are relying on an A4 double sided CV to give them a ‘feel’ for the sort of people who are applying.

Each employer or company will have its own flavour. A set of unspoken or spoken values and beliefs that mean that the right sort of people will fit in and flourish in this company. And when employers are seeking people to work in their business, they know what they are looking for even if they can’t put it into words. So you need to put it into words for them.

You need to understand and covey the very you of you, so they get it straight away. The likelyhood is that most people who apply for the same job will have the right skills and qualifications. What is of equal importance is your ‘flavour’. Your approach, your ethics, your outlook, your tenacity and things like that.

So why is a CV like a dating profile?

If you’ve ever been on a dating site you will know there are a lot of profiles. Now unless it’s Tinder where the connection is made by saying you like the look of someone, you will read the blurb they put about themselves to see if they are your ‘sort of person’. Lots will say ‘good sense of humour’ but what does that actually mean! There are lots of different comedians but we won’t all find the same ones funny.

Likes and interests are interesting but do they really help us understand who that person is? In a non-professional football team you will have lots of different personalities, doing different jobs and having different drivers, emotions and ambitions. We want to know if they are the sort of person who likes to be the last one at a party or the one at home in comfies. Or if they care about getting a black friday deal and if they give to charity. If they would be happy with one coat of paint or would have to make sure it is perfect.

CV examples

Here are some examples from CVs. Take a look and think about what you really know about this person from their opening statement:

Person 1 – Highly-skilled and meticulous communications professional with experience and extensive understanding of implementing and delivering engagement methodologies and communications activity plans.

Person 2 – As an experienced sales manager, my tenacious and proactive approach resulted in numerous important contract wins. My excellent networking skills have provided my team with vital client leads, and my ability to develop client relationships has resulted in an 18% increase in business renewals for my current organisation. After eight years in sales, currently seeking a new challenge which will utilise my meticulous attention to detail, and friendly, professional manner.

Person 3 – Driven Retail Manager with over ten years’ experience in the fashion industry. Proven track record of success, including managing the top performing store in the region, and having the lowest staff turnover rate of all UK outlets.

What do we actually know about any of these people?

You are not like the other peas in the pod

pea in a pod

Give them a flavour of the sort of person you are. Let them know how your flavour will compliment theirs to make the perfect dish. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you be clear about what to write:

  • How do you cope under pressure?
  • When are you at your best?
  • How do you deal with problems?
  • Are you a curious person?
  • Do you like unfinished business?
  • Do you have to win?
  • Do you like variety or routine?
  • Are you better working alone or in teams?
  • How do you deal with setbacks?
  • When are you at your best?
  • What are your goals?
  • Are you resourceful?
  • What makes you different?
  • What is your energy level like?

So once you have the answers to these questions you should be in good shape to write your personal profile for the top of your CV. Something that gives them a feel for ‘the sort of person’ you are.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of things that make you lucky. Lucky you! Don’t forget to add to that one often as it’s an important one.

 

Your eighth list:

The eighth list you have written in the exercise above is your ‘I’m the sort of person’ list. The last part of this exercise is for you ask other people what sort of person they think you are. It’s also a good idea to actually get feedback from others as it will give you new insights about yourself. Add the bits that they say that fit well into your list.

If you want someone to proof read your CV and give you honest feedback on your personal profile I am happy to do that for you for free if you mention this blog post. I am specialised in values work which is what makes us who we are and help lots of people get to know themselves better and feel more comfortable in their own skin. Some people say that self awareness is the most important development that you can do.

 

Once you get an interview

I often see clients before job interviews or presentations to help them control their nerves and give them a confidence boost. Once you’ve secured an interview give me a call 07530 890089 and let’s get you wooing your employer in the interview and securing your dream job.

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

It’s easy to think other people are ‘lucky’. But lucky is often mixed with our own judgements and based on the things we think we want.  Our view of lucky is often also based on seeing just one aspect of something.

Here are some common things we might think people are lucky for being:

  • Wealthy
  • Slim
  • Healthy
  • Fit
  • In a relationship
  • Popular
  • Talented
  • Good looking

 

When you say ‘aren’t they lucky’ about the people above. Are you really saying ‘I wish I had that’?  Looking at the list above all of these things are in your control to have. The only thing that stands between you and the things on this list is you.

I realise at this point you might be questioning is how you become good looking! But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might not look the way you want to but in 2017 you can pretty much improve how you look in every way. But more importantly, if you like what you already have, add a smile and some inner beauty, the world will see your beauty. Don’t you worry about that.

The truth behind lucky

Lucky is a state of mind. Lucky is being grateful for the things you have and not comparing yourself to others. Lucky is making your own luck. Lucky is not placing your happiness in the dangerous position thinking of what you don’t have, but taking real stock of the things you do.  Understanding what gives you pleasure and how you can feed you soul.

Let’s look at some of the possible truths behind some of the lucky people on the list above.

  • Sharon is wealthy. She has a lovely house and a nice Audi. Her husband has his own business and works all the hours god sends. He has had an affair in the past and expects Sharon to ‘get over this’. Sharon is very lonely and wants to leave the marriage but doesn’t have the confidence. Is Sharon lucky?
  • Lucy is slim. She has a nice figure and can wear pretty much whatever she likes without worrying about bulges. But Lucy suffers from anxiety. Sometimes she has panic attacks and it is a big deal for Lucy to go tot he shops on her own. Quite often she will become anxious in the shop and always has to know the quickest route to the exit in case she needs to leave in a hurry. She is unable to hold down a job due to her anxiety and has lived with her parents her whole life. She often worries about what the future holds for her. Is Lucy lucky?
  • Tim is popular. He has lots of friends who like socialising and going to football matches. Some of Tim’s friends are married but Tim is single. To be honest he is starting to find the same old routine of drinking and going to matches a bit boring. He is searching deeper meaning in his life but finds this hard to say to anyone. The truth is he is feeling quite depressed. He knows if he said this to his mates they would take the mickey, so he keeps it all bottled up. Is Tim lucky?

 

Lucky is an illusion

 

So you see, Lucky is almost an illusion. Lucky is living a life where you are true to yourself. Living a life where you are happy with what you have and appreicate much of the world around you.

Let me tell you about Rebecca. She has done some personal work to understand herself. She is open to the world around her. She walks her dog in the morning and notices the early morning dew on the grass and the first sight of an orange sunrise. Her dog makes her laugh. Rebecca is a personal trainer. She left her corporate job where she was well paid but unhappy and stressed and pursued her passion of personal training. She loves helping people get fit, change their bodies and achieve the goals they have set themselves.  She gets lots of thank you cards!

Rebecca is a stocky build but healthy. She is thankful that she doesn’t have any addictions and she values time spent with friends (she has carefully selected people that feed her positive energy). Rebecca loves learning new exercises and healthy eating knowledge. It’s a win-win as she gets healthier and so do her clients. She is growing her business but taking her time because although she likes the nice things in life, she values her work/life balance too. Rebecca is comfortable in her own skin. Is Rebecca lucky?

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of ways you could nurture yourself. How did you find writing that list and when do you plan to have your first nurture session?

 

Your seventh list:

The seventh list you are going to write is your lucky list. It’s a bit like a gratitude list which you can read about in one of my previous blogs here Make a list of all the reasons you are lucky. and keep a copy somewhere you can look at it every time you need a boost.   Someone, somewhere probably thinks you are very lucky.

 

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

The nurture list for busy women

The nurture list for busy women

The nurture list for busy women

We hear it a lot us busy women. Learn to relax. Take care of you first so you can care for others. Have a nice bubble bath with candles and you will feel brand new.

Now I am not saying that bubble baths aren’t lovely. They can be. But I consider them to be quite lightweight in the true sense of self-nurturing.

Self-nurturing is doing things that feed your body well, interest or relax your mind or connect you socially. Or disconnect you socially! True self-nurturing is doing things that make your eyes light up or ignite or care for your spirit. Also relaxing and seeing worries drift away.

 

So what is nurturing yourself?

Nurturing yourself might be:

  • Putting yourself in a cocoon of blankets and hibernating quietly
  • Taking a chunk of time to read
  • Making a delicious known or new recipe
  • Doing some exercise
  • Reading magazines
  • Doing something sensual
  • Exploring a new hobby
  • Taking a walk
  • Getting out in nature
  • Meditating
  • Seeking out a new holistic treatment
  • Looking at holiday destinations
  • Learning something
  • Go to the cinema alone
  • Sleep

 

Some of my Hypnotherapy clients come to be nurtured. They enjoy the relaxing feelings that Hypnotherapy brings. The true sense of inner calm. Almost like a floating escape. The effects of a Hypnotherapy relaxation session can last for days. With 4  sessions you can have the effects for a lifetime as your calm ‘muscle’ will be well and truly flexed, reducing stress and anxiety for good.

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of people who have your six or your desired qualities for your ‘sixer’ to have. Did it surprise you how many people have had or do have your six? Or are you looking forward to getting some sixers in your life?

 

Your sixth list:

The sixth list you are going to write is your ‘ways to nuture myself’ list. Make a list of all the ways that you can nurture yourself, no matter how small or big. This is a list that you can reference back to when you feel you need some self love and care.

 

Share your list!

If you are comfortable to, please share your list in the comments. Think of all the great ways we could self nurture if we shared 🙂

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

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