The secrets of slim people

The secrets of slim people

If you have ever wondered what the secrets of slim people are, your questions might be answered tonight in a show called ‘The truth about slim people’

The truth about slim people

We will get to see how two people; Anne-Marie and Yemi, manage to stay slim despite it seems eating whatever they like, whenever they like.

It is a true case of nothing being as it seems as I read the article about it.

Anne-Marie is a 42 year old mother of two who was trained as a dancer but now runs a dance classes for kids. She is 9 stone a size 8. Every aspect of her life was filmed for 5 days.

Yemi is a 37 year old father of 2, has a 32 inch waist and weighs 12 stone. His childhood nickname was ‘Dustbin’ because of his large appetite. He did a lot of sport in his younger days.

Neither of them eat ‘healthy’ food and they both at what they like in the quantity they desire. Or so it seems.

As part of the programme they both have medical test and it is found that neither of them have ‘magic metabolisms’.

The findings tell this story (see if you can spot the key ones that I, as a Hypnotherapist, will talk about today):

  • They don’t snack in the day
  • They fully satisfy themselves at mealtimes by eating what they fancy.
  • They both eat enough to feel full until the next meal.
  • Neither of them are ‘emotional eaters’.
  • They don’t drink much alcohol.
  • If they eat a lot one day, they eat less the next day
  • They unconsciously seem to balance their calorie intake
  • Anne-Marie is found to be a ‘fidgeter’. Never sitting still and using up lots of energy just ‘being her’.
  • Yemi walks at a very fast pace
  • Both sleep well
  • Both have good gut bacteria
  • Neither of them are ‘hung-up’ on food
  • They are both ‘self-regulated’
  • The conclusion from the show was that the secret to staying slim is mindset.

From the list above I am going to talk about the emotional eating aspect today.

So what is an emotional eater?

Emotional eating

It’s safe to say that an emotional eater will not see food as fuel only. If you are an emotional eater food is more of a friend that you call on when you need to feel better. When you feel negative emotions you will use food as a way to take your mind off them. Because your mind is distracted by the emotion, it means you don’t recognize when you are hungry or full so eat you fulfill an emotional need rather than a physical one.

Emotional eaters use food as a crutch rather than a source of pleasure to be enjoyed for what it is.

So what emotions might trigger an emotional eater to eat? Well any negative emotion really such as:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Fear
  • Sadness
  • Depressed
  • Unhappy
  • Shame
  • Tiredness
  • Dislike of yourself
  • Feeling unloved
  • Worry
  • Tiredness

 

Eating numbs the emotion and therefore feels comforting. But the bad news is after you’ve eaten you will probably feel more negative emotions about yourself like hating yourself for having no control, guilt, not liking your body, feeling fat or ugly or shame (especially if you eat in secret).

If you are unhappy being overweight, you may feel you have to wear make up to ‘hide’ yourself or even feel ugly without it and you may feel the need to behave in a way that distracts from your body which only adds to your feelings of internal discomfort. You may not be happy in your own skin.

Before you beat yourself up for what you crave and eat….

Why is it that certain foods seem to feature highly for emotional eaters? Foods like cake, biscuits, ice cream? Well your cravings can be justified for good reason. The blend of carbohydrates, sugar and fat can be delicious. A multi-sensory and temporarily satisfying experience. The feel in your mouth, the smell, the flavours and the taste exciting your senses and providing a distraction from anything else at that moment. And they are so easily available.

These type of food also provide instant gratification.

But did you know that your brain chemistry actually changes when you eat. “Carbohydrates set off a series of chemical reactions that ultimately lead to a boost in brain serotonin,” says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., the former director of the Research Program in Women’s Health at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Clinical Research Center. The higher the levels of serotonin, the more content you feel (at least temporarily).

There have also been studies around fatty foods making people feel less sad because fatty acids can induce a signal from your gut to your brain, which may influence emotions.

So how can an emotional eater change?

Keep an emotional food diary

Keeping a food diary to track what you’ve been eating alongside what how you are feeling at the time can help you identify what triggers emotional eating.

I’ve made a food and emotion diary download for you which you can download here

Knowing what these triggers are can help you break the emotional eating habits and deal with triggers instead of turning to food.

 

How can you deal with emotional triggers?

So if you’ve done your food diary and spotted some emotional triggers for you, you need to know how to do something other than eat when they occur.

Although there are many ways that you could find something other than eat to do, it is a good idea if you try and find something that satisfies your reward centre. What I mean by that is the place in your mind that needs to feel good and satisfied (known as a reward centre). If you don’t do this, you are merely distracting yourself from the thought of wanting to eat (this strategy can work well for some people too).

If you think about how your emotions are soothed and the deep connection they have with food for a minute.

Ice cream at the seaside – this often starts in childhood. There you are having a great time with your family and your treat is an ice cream. Not only is the ice cream delicious in itself, but it anchors those happy feelings of your time at the beach probably with people you like to be with.

Popcorn at the cinema – going to the cinema is a sensory experience. you are going to watch a story that you can be absorbed in undisturbed for a couple of hours. You will see things that might be amazing and open your unconscious mind and emotions right up (think Disney or Hollywood). You then eat some sweet popcorn which anchors the experience.

Candy floss at the funfair – you are surrounded by fun and people laughing. you may have been spun round and round or been taken on a ride up in the air. Everyone there is happy and laughing. There are bright lights and your adrenaline, serotonin and oxytocin which make you excited and happy will all be in full force. The candy floss anchors the experience.

These experiences are bonding tastes and food with experiences. Your brain will want the same feeling if you don’t give it the food it thinks it wants.

So you need to get creative to think of things you can do which may make you feel good. Maybe excited or like you’ve accomplished something. Get thinking about what they might be now. What are you craving and how can you get it another way than eating?

 

If you need help

Good food choices

If you need help with your emotional eating or weight loss then I can help you by seeing you as a one to one client for 4 sessions. It is 4 sessions because we work on any emotional healing that needs to take place to allow you to move on. We work with the inner voice that damages your self-esteem and I help you to love your body (yes in its current form) so you want to care for it and nourish it. We also work on making better food choices, sugar cravings and confidence. The whole works.

If you want to be part of a group and spend 47 days working on your relationship with food, your relationship with yourself, sharing recipes, participating in challenges and listening to Hypnosis audios to help you, then you can join my next Project 47 group which starts on January 9th 2018. Please email me and I will put you on the waiting list.

Sending you some positive emotions today

Honey x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to reduce your sugar intake in 3 easy steps

How to reduce your sugar intake in 3 easy steps

Before we look at how to reduce your sugar intake, let’s look at how many products have sugar in them.

Sugar is addictive and not particularly good for us and has become a bit of a wolf in sheep’s clothing! I just typed ‘sugar’ into the search box of a well known supermarket online grocery store out of curiosity. What appeared were actual bags of sugar, sugar alternatives, sugar-free products and of course a sugar bowl.

The sugar-free products are interesting as the manufacturers obviously know people are on to them and  have come up with sugar-free versions of their products for people who don’t want to consume masses of sugar.

What’s frustrating is how we are led by supermarkets and manufacturers to buy what they want us to buy. Take this online grocery shopping. It is very useful that we can clearly see how much in money each product is by 100g compared to others. And of course price is important, but what about showing the sugar content per 100g? To enable us to make informed decisions without being investigators during our weekly shop.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed but most sugary products come in brightly coloured packages. This is another sneaky trick that companies use to play on our minds as colour appeals and distracts. There is an incredible amount of psychology in colours and marketing!

Come out come out, wherever you are

I recently asked on Facebook  what products people thought had a high amount of hidden sugar in them and the replies were well educated. Here are some of them:

  • Ready meals
  • Fruit juice
  • Children’s yoghurt and fromage frais
  • Tomato ketchup
  • Stir fry sauces
  • Cereals
  • Smoothies
  • Breakfast bars
  • Low fat products
  • Coke
  • Soup
  • Pizza

Next time you are thinking of buying something just sneak a look at the sugar content, you might be surprised!

Go sugar-free with Hypnosis

So you probably know that sugar is bad for you and want to cut down your sugar intake or maybe even want to go sugar-free I’m going to give you some insights on how you might do this.

A few years ago, with my Hypnotherapist hat on, it occurred to me that sugar was a lot like other addictions of smoking, food, shopping and gambling. There was the thought process of wanting it and the physical process of craving something addictive. As I treat both these aspects when I help clients give up smoking or lose weight, I applied similar processes and developed a unique ‘go sugar-free’ programme.

I tested this programme myself first and didn’t eat processed sugar for a year. I felt amazing. My energy levels were stable, my sports performance was tip-top and I felt so good. Since then many clients have been through that programme with me face to face in Sussex and on Skype. They have reduced or stopped their sugar intake.

If you just want to reduce your sugar intake yourself, here’s my three top pieces of advice.

1 – Don’t have sugar with sugar with sugar

When you crave sugar you want the sweet taste, the energy rush or maybe a brief escape. So you really don’t need to overdo it. If you are having a chocolate bar, or some sweets, you don’t need a sugary drink with it. Let the one ‘sugar fix’ settle in and see how you feel.

Savour the thing you are having, eat it in small bites or nibbles and take your time. Your taste buds are looking for it, they want it to taste, but this doesn’t mean having 2 or 3.

You can have the pleasure without the need to overdo it, getting high on sugar and beating your insulin up.

2 – Discover the sweetness of nature

punnet of berries

Once to start to have less sugar, you will be amazed how sweet everything is! Nature really did give us enough sweetness in fruit. Now word of caution here as any form of natural sugar including maple syrup, honey, agave syrup, or fruit will impact our blood sugar levels. But when compared to sweets full of E numbers or chocolate and biscuits which also have lots of fat and preservatives, fruit is a better choice.

Rediscover your fruity side with exotic fruit salads, juicy berries and crunch  apples. Pineapple is so delicious too and anti-inflammatory.

If you are really serious and have gone sugar-free and you have a serious craving, a nice dried date can really sort that out!

3 – Keep a sugar diary

Remember earlier I mentioned the thought process of wanting it and the physical process of craving something addictive? Well, many sugar cravings are driven by an emotional need.

What will often trigger eating a sugary snack is something that stirs you emotionally like a stressful situation which you ‘eat your way out of’ as a distraction. Or maybe an unpleasant encounter with someone. A really common one is tiredness. If you keep a diary for one week, noting what you want to eat or do eat and HOW YOU FELT when you ate it (or nearly ate it) you will definitely see some themes! Try to think of strategies to avoid those triggers.

Get Your Free Sugar Diary Worksheet Here:

If you have any questions or comments please do get in touch in the blog comments or on Facebook.

If you want to go sugar-free, it only takes 4 sessions of Hypnotherapy so get in touch for your appointment in person in Sussex or Worldwide on Skype.

Healthy eating day 21 – What type of eater are you?

child eating chocolate

What type of eater are you?

Just as we have different personalities, we are different types of eaters. Here I have taken a look at just a few, but it would be great to hear about others you think of.

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The waste eater

coffee-creams

‘Don’t worry about the leftovers, John will clear those up.’ Are YOU John? Does your appetite know no bounds and you just cannot leave any leftovers. Kids don’t finish their tea… no  problem you are there to finish it! Macmillan cake morning, you finish ALL the leftover cake? Or maybe you actually eat the coffee creams that are left in a box of chocolates?

The emotional eater

Bad day at work and you reach for some ‘comfort food’? Or maybe you are feeling the stress and munch through biscuit after biscuit. Or you are feeling lonely and food becomes your new best friend. Food is a much used emotional reliever but unfortunately we can get to use it a bit too much and gain weight as a result. Which then causes more emotions about feeling bad about our bodies. A vicious circle!

The plate loader

eat as much as you like plate of food

Maybe you love ‘eat as much as you like’ restaurants? How exciting being able to load your plate with a wide variety of foods and as high as you like! You merrily eat your way through one plate and then go for seconds even though you are not at all hungry. After the second plate you hold your stomach and moan that you are over full! But you just have to have a go at that chocolate fountain don’t you? After all, how often do you get to use a chocolate fountain? And it’s free!

The sugar addict

Coco pops for breakfast or chocolate spread on toast, that gives you that early morning sugar kick that you need. By mid morning a chocolate biscuit seems like a good idea, but one or two are never enough and that ends up at 5! Few cups of tea with sugar throughout the day and a nice sandwich and creamy chilled desert for lunch. Now what’s for tea? Maybe a sweet & sour sauce on something but definitely ice cream for pudding. And there’s that nice big family bar of chocolate waiting in the fridge for later….. And in a sweet shop you are well, like a kid in a sweet shop!

The sniffer dog

Your partner is out. You know there must be some goodies in the house somewhere and you are going to find them! Wow those cupboards are dusty up there but nope, not there. Surely there must be a stash somewhere? So you put your best hunting skills to use and eventually find something. You want it but you don’t want them to know you’ve had it. This dilemma plays on your mind for a while but in the end you think you will replace it tomorrow and scoff it anyway.  You cannot be trusted around Easter and Christmas with all those Easter eggs and selection boxes around!

 

These are just a few light hearted types of eaters that maybe you can relate to. Just like our personalities, self awareness is key and often the first step to making changes if you want to.

Over the past week we’ve heard from 6 different guest bloggers.

Here they are if you want to catch up:

Jill Howie from Porchester told us how she changed her diet and changed her life. Read it here  

Carol Hunter from Worthing shared her bread making secrets with us. Read it here

Maggie Albrecht from London told us how she put positive thoughts into her vegetarian food. Read that one here

Rebecca Boulton a nutritionist from Yorkshared a day in her food life. Read it here

Healthnutgirl Rachel Kieffer from New York City gave us some easy healthy eating tips here

Ayurvedic practitioner, Julie Rawnsley from Ditching, near Brighton shared her Ayurvedic day with us here

It’s been wonderful hearing from so many different people about their healthy eating andover the next 9 days we will hear from even more.

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Healthy hug 🙂

Honey

 

 

 

Healthy eating day 20 – What does an Ayurvedic practitioner eat? Find out here…

Julie Rawnsley is an Ayurvedic Practitioner from Ditchling, Near Brighton, East Sussex. Shes runs an Ayurvedic practice called Simply Ayurvedic. Here Julie tells us about her typical day.

A Day in the life of….

  Japanese Green Tea

What gets me out of bed in the morning is a cup of Japanese green tea. Of course it’s full of immunity-boosting anti-oxidants, but what’s really important is that I love the taste.

According to Ayurveda, when we are more or less in balance we will have healthy cravings; so by listening to our bodies we can stay on track. The tea is my early morning ritual and time for myself. To make a perfect cup of green tea, use a loose leaf tea and water at 80° rather than boiling as this allows the flavours to develop fully.

No ‘one size fits all’

Sourdough spelt bread

In Ayurveda there is no one-size-fits-all diet. There are three constitutional types: Vata, Pitta and Kapha: each comprised of different elements and each with differing dietary needs.

As I am predominantly Vata (air and ether elements), I need more earthy, grounding food to balance: Carbs! I make my own sourdough spelt or rye bread which I love. These grains are much easier to digest than wheat and the sourdough process makes it even better.

This morning I had one with tahini and another with homemade blackberry jelly: Heaven! But if I’ve eaten late and I need a lighter breakfast I might have an Ayurvedic Green Smoothie instead.

Mung on the move

Mung soup

When I’m working in London I take a thermos of mung soup. This is filling but very easy to digest. A protein-based meal helps to stimulate the neurotransmitters which make you more alert, so it’s ideal for a working lunch.

As I’m often seeing clients back to back in London with breaks at odd moments I will generally need an energy bar as a snack. When I’m at home I have a larger lunch and prefer not to snack in between as it can weaken digestion.

Mung Soup Recipe

I love my thermos!

thermos

Warm drinks support good digestion: Mine’s a roibos-based herbal tea.

“But why does our digestion need so much support?” I hear you asking.

Answer: Without good digestion, you can’t have good health.

I remember my first Ayurvedic Consultation:

“How’s your digestion?”

“Fine.”

 In fact it was anything but fine, but because I was so out of touch with my body I really had no idea. I would eat constantly, grazing, eating from boredom rather than hunger. No wonder I felt tired and out of sorts!

My evening meal

stir-fry-png

If I’m at home I’ll have my evening meal as early as 5.30 or 6.30pm as we eat with the kids. When you eat can be just as important as what you eat, and eating earlier allows your body plenty of time to digest before bed.

Carbs are definitely on the menu as they stimulate serotonin release, which helps you sleep well. We always eat together and I’ve never had problems with picky eaters. The kids love stir fry with basmati rice and eggy strips. Colourful, healthy and easy to cook: What more could anyone want?

Homemade biscuits

homemade biscuits

My ten year old had great fun making these biscuits. Making your own deserts means you can eliminate white sugar, which is more or less banned in this house.

Having said that, I don’t have any blanket bans as such, because I find rigid rules can be in themselves quite unhealthy and we tend to desire the things we forbid!

The emotions aroused by food can be quite intense. However, the Ayurvedic approach can help you to become more balanced, so that you actually prefer to eat foods that are good for you. Then eating a healthy diet becomes effortless and joyful.

 

A note from Honey

Thank you Julie for that insight into the wonderful Ayurvedic way of life.

What’s in this blog for you:

  • 30 days of blogs from a variety of people including experts to give you ideas and top tips for healthy eating
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See you tomorrow

Healthy hug 🙂

Honey

 

 

Healthy eating – Day 18 – What food does Rebecca Boulton eat? Find out here…..

Rebecca Boulton is a Nutritional Therapist from Yorkshire and runs Simple & Clean nutrition. She provides Nutritional Coaching for busy women struggling with hormonal imbalances who want to transform their bodies, health and lives with simple diet changes. So what food does Rebecca eat? Here she tells us.

The Day In a Life of a Nutritional Therapist 

My day always starts with a large glass of tepid water with a squeeze of fresh lemon and apple cider vinegar to help kickstart my digestion and support the liver. The best way to have this is on an empty stomach. I make sure I stay hydrated throughout the rest of the day with plenty of water, green and peppermint tea. I love coffee and for me it’s the hardest thing to give up, but I am quite sensitive it and it sends me cortisol levels up so I only have 1 (2 max) cups a day. I have good quality fresh coffee with coconut oil to help calm the nervous system and for some healthy fats.

I get up before the kids so I can get some exercise in and also do some meditation and journaling while I have some peace. I meet a friend at 6am twice a week for a HiiT workout and then a couple of days I do kettlebells in my garage. I’m a bit lazy so I like the quick workouts which give maximum results and those work best for me. Other days I’ll just have a bit of a stretch to wake myself up! I’m not naturally a morning person but I find this helps me start the day calm and energised instead of rushing around stressed out trying to fit everything in like I used to!

green smoothie

Breakfast is usually a green smoothie (with extra protein powder like Sunwarrior or Purition for workout days to help with recovery) made with spinach or kale, some berries or half a banana, almond milk and some flaxseeds and chia seeds. Often I add in some cacoa powder for magnesium or spirulina if I need an iron boost. So, I don’t wake the kids, I make it up the night before and store in the fridge as my nutribullet is pretty noisy and I don’t want to disturb them (or my peaceful morning!).

homemade muesli

I’ll follow the smoothie with either some scrambled eggs with avocado and spinach or homemade muesli with yoghurt and berries. For me, breakfast is the biggest meal of the day as that is when I am most hungry!

I understand the importance of mindful eating

Once I’ve got the kids to school, I spend the rest of the morning at my desk until lunchtime. I usually break about midday and have a walk around, stretch off and some lunch. Long gone are the days of scoffing a sandwich at my desk without even noticing what I’m eating, while still working!

Nowadays I understand the importance of mindful eating and ensuring I focus on what I’m eating and when I’m full up. One of the things I’ve found with my clients is that they are no longer able to recognise the signs and just eat until they have emptied their plate. Stepping away from your desk and taking time to breathe and relax is also important for you mentally and emotionally in helping to reduce overwhelm and stress.

Rebecca's lunch

Lunch is an omelette (if I haven’t had eggs for breakfast!), a salad with chicken, salmon or prawns or some quinoa with roasted vegetables. I plan all my meals in advance and pre-prepare as much as I can which always helps me make better choices. I take a couple of hours at a weekend or after school to prep veg, chicken, fish, make a healthy cake or muffins and protein balls to keep in the fridge. It saves time, money and stress!

After I’ve picked the kids up, we always have an after school snack (usually oatcakes and hummus, fruit with some nuts or a Nak’d bar if we’re in a hurry). We often go a long time between lunch and dinner and it’s important to make sure your blood sugars don’t crash as this can make you tired, irritable and find it difficult to concentrate. As I don’t normally eat until 8pm I need something to keep me going or I am grumpy mum and just want a snooze on the sofa.

Dinner time

salmon and vegetables

 

Dinner is usually fish or chicken with roasted vegetables, a stir fry or a curry. We’re big fans of the quick and easy option. I also love my slow cooker and use to make big batches of chilli, stews and roasting joints of meat.

For me, it’s all about keeping it as simple as possible, being prepared so I get everything my body needs without it taking over my life, and allowing room for the odd chocolate, glass of wine or meal out!

You can find Rebecca on facebook

 

A note from Honey

Thank you Rebecca for sharing your food day with us and that steady energy sounds great!

What’s in this blog for you:

  • 30 days of blogs from a variety of people including experts to give you top tips and inspiration for healthy eating
  • You can get this blog sent to you every day if you sign up here for my newsletter and you will also get a free relaxing recording

See you tomorrow

Healthy hug 🙂

Honey

 

 

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