Do you know what to put on your stress list?
Life is busy isn’t it? Home, work, relationships, children, money and all the other stuff. But being busy doesn’t always equate to stress. Being being can actually give you energy, especially if you are enjoying the things you are doing.
When a task becomes too much to handle, that can cause stress. Targets you can’t reach, a workload you couldn’t finish if you worked 24/7 or a house so untidy you feel like you just want to empty it all into a skip and start again.
You see stress is just the symptom of something else. Stress is a blanket term we used when we are:
- Out of control
- Out of line with our values
- In conflict
But stress is a biggy because it can make you feel like life is too difficult to cope with and really take the wind out of your sails. It can make the most capable people feel weak and vunerable. It can be difficult to see a way out or to muster the strength to pull through. Triggers for stress are different for everyone but include:
- Caring for parents
- Relationship problems with partner
- Problems with friendships
- Problems at work
- Health issues
- Money problems
- The past
- Lack of direction
Quick review of yesterday’s list:
Yesterday you wrote a list of things you could do to like your job more. How did that work out for you? Can you see how the things on your list could make a difference?
Or maybe you didn’t write that list because you love your job!
Your fourth list:
The fourth list you are going to write is your ‘things I feel stressed about’ list. Make a list of things that make you feel stressed out. The answers might surprise you. just get them all out of your head. Once you have your list try to label the things that stress you with how they make you feel. It might look something like this:
|Cause of stress||Makes me feel|
|Arguments with partner||Angry|
|Unrealistic deadline at work||Angry|
|Travel for work||Tired|
You will see from the example that the main feeling is angry. Anger puts the body under strain. Your energy is likely to suffer and you will probably be less productive and achieve less. The feelings of anger will ripple throughout your life. Anger can be built up over time but the good news is it can be eased and make a massive difference to your whole life once you have learned how to control it.
You are not alone. A lot of people feel like this but with help you can learn strategies to feel different. As a Hypnotherapist, I can help you understand your feelings and alleviate any feelings of anger, sadness, depression or anxiety.
See you tomorrow.
Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?
This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.
Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂
The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.