30 days to a happier you – Day 20 – The easy way to declutter your mind

30 days to a happier you – Day 20 – The easy way to declutter your mind

troubled thoughts

Who is Mary Kondo?

I’m currently reading ‘that’ book about decluttering. It’s called ‘Spark Joy’ by Mary Kondo. she is a tidying and de-cluttering specialist. As a Hypnotherapist, what strikes me when I read it, is how nice making space is. She is helping people have space in their house which is a great feeling.

And she helps people get rid of broken things, things from the past that are not needed anymore. And she also encourages people only to keep things that give them joy.

Do you need to declutter your mind?

There are so many synergies between a tidy home and a tidy mind. If your mind is cluttered, it doesn’t feel nice and you can’t think straight. You might feel confused, dizzy and stressed. It might affect your sleep, temper and decision making. But how do you tidy your mind and create space?

One of the most common phrases I hear from clients is ‘I think too much’. We are a thinking species and very good at it, but what they mean is their mind is so busy that they feel muddled. Their minds do not have space to organize thoughts and sort the useful ones out.

Some of the work we have done so far in this programme has helped with identifying your mind chatter and change the feelings that your negative mind chatter creates. But no doubt there will be other stuff in your mind which you may need to de-clutter to create space.

 

But why do you hold onto this mind clutter?

  • Is it a habit and you just don’t know how to be different?
  • Are you scared deep down of moving on and facing changes? If you let go of your thinking who are you really? And what might you really want? And what will you think and do instead?
  • People with cluttered minds know they want to feel different and when this feeling gets strong… the feeling of wanting to move away from the bad feelings and move toward something different. That’s usually when they seek help

 

What would decluttering your mind feel like?

If you had space in your mind you would:

  • Feel more relaxed
  • Be more creative
  • Feel more in control
  • Have more head space to focus on the really important things
  • Be able to prioritise more easily
  • Be easier to be around
  • Sleep better

 

Is your mind full of junk?

de-clutter

Could you imagine if you kept all the possessions you had acquired throughout your life? Your home would be bulging! You wouldn’t be able to move or clean. A good de-clutter feels good and the same is true for your mind. Some people like to talk over their thoughts with a coucellor and a lot of people have CBT and I see a lot of clients who have tried these treatments.

What’s different about Hypnotherapy is it actually changes how you feel, without talking about things for hours. It teaches you how to relax and find calm yourself after your sessions have ended. You will find a deeply calm place within in you which once you have connected with, comes automatically into your life. As if you were designed that way.

Here’s the plan:

  • Experience relaxation and mind de-cluttering for free. Sign up for my newsletter at the bottom of this blog or on my website to receive a free relaxing download.

 

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

30 days to a happier you – Day 16 – Why you shouldn’t leave a tooth abscess

30 days to a happier you – Day 16 – Why you shouldn’t leave a tooth abscess

Why you shouldn’t leave a tooth abscess untreated

abscess tooth

Having a tough time emotionally and not doing anything about it is the equivalent of having a tooth abscess in your mouth that’s causing a lot of pain. You hope it will die down. You don’t want the hassle or cost of going to the dentist and you might be scared of what could happen. So you carry on living with the pain.

After a while you stop eating on that side of your mouth as it becomes too painful and this becomes the norm. Even though you are noticing that now the good side is starting to ache because it’s doing all the work. You take painkillers on a regular basis or the pain ruins your day and sleep. Then one day you wake up with a big swollen face. That abscess is saying ‘SORT IT OUT’.

Do not ignore the problem anymore. So you go to the dentist and he can’t believe the size of the abscess and that you haven’t come sooner. Because this is what he deals with all the time and although it’s a bit tricky on the day, in no time at all the swelling has gone down and you can even eat on that side again. It was like that abscess never existed! And you really do kick yourself for not going sooner.

You don’t need a problem to have a problem.

What I mean by this is you can feel ‘out of sorts’, ‘confused’, worried or sad. Or suffer from anxiety or panic attacks, depression or stress. Or the problem presents itself in poor sleep. You might be clear on the symptoms, but not the cause. That is because the sub conscious mind has taken in a life event, it could be really small, and programmed it in a way that it effects behaviour and makes you feel bad.

What you resist persists

resist persist

Some people know they are not ok. But they continue to struggle on.. Maybe the problem presents itself in behaviour like over eating, drinking regularly to ‘numb’ those feelings or spending money for a quick feel good. Only to find that all of these things soon wear off and the feelings are still there.

Maybe you feel guilty for ‘over indulging in those feelings and that you should stop ‘being silly’. Or maybe you have found a way to avoid the problem? I’ve now treated two clients who drove everywhere without doing right hand turns because they were scared of turning right!

But what you will find is that what you resist, persists. It is the subconscious reminding you that something isn’t right and you need to sort it out.

We shouldn’t underestimate the link between mental health and physical health. There have been numerous studies into the links between the two.

What you may not realise if that when you are going through a traumatic time or feeling bad for no apparent reason, the difference getting therapy can make is unbelievable. You can feel better, gain strength and turn almost any situation into a learning experience. Once you learn to do this you will find curveballs that life throws at you easier to deal with. You will be more equipped to support others too.

Here’s the plan:

  • Review the postcard that you wrote to your younger self yesterday. What learnings can you see?

 

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

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