Book review: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

Book review: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

I’m so excited to do this book review of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers because it is one of my all time favourite books. One everyone should read! Especially people who are scared of change and embracing the new.

Who is Susan Jeffers ph.D?

Susan Jeffers (1938-2012) was an American best-selling author and sought-after public speaker. She appeared on many radio and television shows internationally. She saw herself as someone meant to do something in addition to raising a family. And boy did she, even thought at the time it was against society’s expectations.

When her children were young she attained a BA, Master’s Degree, and Doctorate in Psychology. She then became the Executive Director of The Floating Hospital, New York’s Ship of Health.

She survived a divorce, a mastectomy and a decade as a single working parent. She is a true example of someone who felt the fear but did it anyway.

She helped millions of people throughout the world overcome their fears, heal their relationships, and move forward in life with confidence and love.

Susan’s reading list

You only have to look at her recommended reading list to get a feeling for her and what she was all about. Here are some of the books from that list:

 

The book

Susan explains how fear seems to be everywhere in our lives. We ‘fear beginnings and we fear endings’! We also fear:

  • Change
  • Staying the same
  • Success
  • Failure
  • Living
  • Dying

 

I see fear of these on a regular basis in my Hypnotherapy practice. People who want help getting through a job interview, exam or driving test have fear.

People who are ready to change their lives but are scared. People who have had enough are scared of what their lives have become and will continue to be.

Scared of not being about to lose the weight…scared of what they will do instead of smoking….. and anxiety is full of fear of course.

Teenagers who are scared of bullies or being themselves. I would say people are even scared to fully relax sometimes. And there is definitely fear around what others think.

But when you remove fear. You get better things in its place. You get power, energy and excitement.

Fear is an energy

skydive

Fear can be a useful response because it warns us of perceived danger and gives us a ‘boost’ to avoid getting hurt. Very useful for cavemen who had to avoid wild animals and also useful for that run you do to get out of the way of a car. But not always useful for some of life.

Level one fears are those on the surface

Susan lists fears are those that just happen like getting old, being alone or not having enough money.

And then fears that need action like changing career, losing weight or stating or ending relationships.

I would just like to make the point that fears do not need to be ‘big’ to feel big. The fear someone feels is not related to society’s perceived view of whether that is a justified fear. Fears that cause extreme fear are called phobias.

Level two fears are held within you. Susan gives examples of those as:

  • Being rejected
  • Succeeding
  • Failing
  • Being at risk
  • Being tricked
  • Being helpless
  • Being disapproved of
  • Losing yourself

 

These kind of fears are around your sense of sense and often difficult to understand on your own. They seep into all areas of your life and cause problems. This is what the self-help industry is built on. An of course, as a therapist, I help many clients with this sort of thing.

 

Susan then details level three fears under the title of ‘I can’t handle it!’

These fears are ‘major’ and will probably hold you back. They include feeling like you can’t handle:

  • Illness
  • Mistakes
  • Being alone
  • Your job
  • Losing money

Do you have any level three fears and what impact are they having on your life? I can help you.

The good news is that Susan’s work aims to impart the knowledge and feelings which she poses as this question:

Question – If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possible have to fear?

Answer – NOTHING!

By lessening or removing your fear you gain more trust in the knowledge that you can handle anything that comes you way 🙂 Sounds great doesn’t it? As you continue to read the book (or listen to it as I did on a very long car journey!) you will feel this amazing sense that you can handle whatever comes your way. It is so empowering.

 

We believe what we tell ourselves

spaceman

 

Our brains don’t know the difference between fact and fiction. So if you tell yourself good things, you will feel good. It is such a simple concept and one to teach your children for sure.

As Susan says in the book. We tell our children to be ‘careful’. This is giving messages that the world is full of danger. We say this because we don’t want them to hurt themselves and we will hurt too if anything happens to them. We are projecting our own fear onto them.

Can you imagine if Richard Branson had been fearful. Things would be very different.

If everyone had been to scared to go into space?  

Or Columbus had been scared of sailing?

You can push through fear

There are many strategies for pushing through fear. Susan’s approach is to push through one fear, into the next! She sees the growth that this gives. I was looking at Amy Porterfield’s webpage recently and saw she has 250,000 Facebook fans! She does webinars to help people with their websites and stuff and I thought, I bet she felt nervous on her first webinar! But she has pushed through the fear each time.

Another example of pushing through fear is when people hold spiders to get rid of their fear of spiders. This can have some bad consequences (I know because I have had clients in my Hypnotherapy practice that I have had to sort out because they have done this). But for many people, this works!

Overcoming fears makes you feel good!

It is natural to feel fear when you have to do something you haven’t done before. Whether that’s having a baby or a job interview!

One of the truest things I feel Susan says in her book is ‘pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the constant fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness’. How true this is!

Your mind is amazingly powerful, brilliant and creative and as much as it comes up with wonderful ideas that are helpful, it can also really go to down with feeling fearful, catastrophising and making you dread things that could be wonderful and exciting for you.

 

Fears I help people with in my West Sussex Hypnotherapy practice

fear

 

One of the best uses of Hypnotherapy is overcoming fear. Phobias are far more common than many people realise. It is estimated that more than 11% of the population have some kind of irrational fear. Here are some of the common fears I help people overcome:

  • Flying
  • Public speaking
  • Interviews
  • Driving tests
  • Exams
  • Claustrophobia
  • Sickness
  • Insects
  • Heights
  • Needles
  • Dentists
  • Water

 

Fear can stop you living the life you want to and doing things that you would enjoy or flourish at.

Get in touch and get rid of your fears and phobias today

 

Honey Lansdowne

I am ready and waiting to help you.

When I feel nervous about something I always think of that saying ‘it’s the things you didn’t do that you regret, not the things you did’.

So don’t regret not following me on Instagram or liking my Facebook page! See you there for inspiration and motivation 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong

Everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong

So how can I be so sure that everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong? Well for two reasons. When I have free consultations with clients they usually have questions about Hypnosis which I like to sort out and answer as fully as I can before their sessions. And also, in preparation for this blog post I invited questions so I could answer them fully here.

 

Assumptions about Hypnosis

1 – You are under the Hypnotist’s ‘spell’ or control.

Hypnosis is not control. You can ignore suggestions given in trance if you want to, or if they are not in line with your wishes.

2 – Hypnosis is sleep

You are not asleep while in Hypnosis. Hypnosis is not sleep. In fact your mind is super alert! But you will probably feel deeply relaxed as relaxation is a wonderful by product of Hypnosis.

 

Questions people asked about Hypnosis

 

1 – Will it brainwash me?

Suggestions made in Hypnosis are hugely powerful. But they only take affect if you truly want them and accept them. For example… if you really want to stop smoking, Hypnosis will enhance all the reasons you already affirm are good reasons to stop.

One of the meanings of brainwashing is ‘to pressurise (someone) into adopting radically different beliefs by using systematic and often forcible means’.

So my diplomatic answer to this is – it can help you make true the things you already believe, but can’t achieve alone. NLP can change your beliefs but more about that in another post.

2 – Does it last forever?

This will vary for everyone. Some smokers stay stopped. Some don’t. I don’t have any stats around it, but many people change their lives and remove their unwanted habits with Hypnosis.

It’s like saying if someone gets rich, will they be rich forever. Well, they might maximise on their wealth or not, depending on the decisions and actions they take.

 

Think you can

3 – What if I don’t want to change?

Then Hypnosis is not for you. You have to want to change for it to work. Although you might still enjoy the relaxation elements of Hypnosis.

4 – Will Hypnosis erase my personality?

No cases on record 🙂

5 – Can Hypnosis give lasting mindset changes?

Your mind does not know what is real and what is not. If you watch a movie you know it’s actors, in costumes, on a film set, playing a story in front of a huge film crew. You still cry and laugh like it’s real don’t you?! Your mind believes it and the emotions are real.

If the suggestions you receive during Hypnosis are consistent with what you REALLY want, it will give you the change you seek.

6 – What happens in a trance?

Hypnosis is a natural state of mind; people are often surprised that they hear every word and could get up and walk out of the room at any moment. Unless you enter a deeper state, you may not feel much different. 

7 – Why do you speak directly to my subconscious?

I will talking much more about your subconscious mind in a separate blog. But an analogy is making changes in your conscious mind is like clearing your inbox, it helps at a surface level but real improvements happen at hard drive or cloud level and that is your subconscious! Your subconcious is much more powerful than your conscious mind so makes sense to use it!

Your subconscious is like the film of your life and your conscious like the photos. The subconscious knows everything and the conscious just has snapshots. So review the film to remind you of things from the past and address them so you can move on and feel better.

8 – I’ve had Hypno before but it didn’t work, should I try again?

I’m not going to be critical of my fellow Hypnotists here and put them at fault. I would say we all try things that don’t work at some point in our lives… relationships, diets, gym memberships, holidays, restaurants! Sometimes the time is not right, sometimes it’s the chemistry and sometimes it just is.

9 – What happens if I go to sleep?

The feeling can be similar to drifting off to sleep at night when you are not quite awake and not quite asleep but it is not sleep. If you were to fall asleep your Hypnotist would be able to sort this out and bring you back up to a suitable state.

10 – Will you make me do things I don’t want to?

Never.

11 – What’s the difference between stage Hypnosis and what you do?

A number of factors make stage Hypnosis different to therapeutic Hypnosis. When someone knows they are going to a Hypnosis stage show, they have probably decided if they will volunteer before they even arrive. They then put their hand up at the show and volunteer. They are giving their consent for Hypnosis to happen and they fully know some silliness will be involved! It is more likely than the volunteer is of an extroverted nature and enjoys being the star of the show.

12 – Will I definitely wake up?

You are not asleep. Please see answer to question 9

13 –  I find it hard to shut my brain down so struggle with meditation too. Can Hypnosis break through that?

Firstly, here is an interesting video about meditation myths:

I get loads of clients who can’t meditate but desperately want to relax. Meditation can take years to perfect! Think monks lol.

Hypnosis puts you in the hands of a skilled professional who can facilitate you reaching your desired or acheiveable state.

14 – Can I get stuck in Hypnosis?

Even from the deepest trance state (which is delicious), you will still emerge or fall into sleep when you are ready. So no. You can’t get stuck in Hypnosis.

15 – Can I be Hypnotised?

I’m going to be honest with you here. The level of success depends on two things. Your allowance to yourself to let it happen and removal of any fear to it happening (although there is nothing to be scared of). A Hypnotic trance is a feeling of relaxation, it is different for everyone. The more you do it, the better it gets!

There is also expectation. If you expect your Hypnotherapist to lay you out cold, this might not be your experience! During Hypnosis you are aware of everything that is being said and you can bring yourself at anytime you decide. But you probably won’t want to!

16 – How do I choose the right Hypnotherapist?

 

Honey Lansdowne

 

I’ve put myself in your shoes here because of course I want to say contact me! Some might give you recordings. Some might offer group sessions and 121. Some may specialise in certain areas like PTSD, weight loss, stop smoking, working with children, anxiety or phobias. I specialise in depression and what I call ‘work of the self’ (but I treat anything I consider feasible after a client consultation aswell).

When choosing your Hypnotherapist you might want to consider the way they work. They might favour a quick approach or prefer to see you for more sessions. Not every issue is a ‘quick fix’ although many can be. Some therapists (like myself) integrate Hypnosis with other therapies such as NLP for really deep work with their clients. You can cover so much ground and make real purposeful transformations in just a few sessions. I love the satisfaction of knowing that my clients have had the opportunity of an ’emotional deep cleanse’ which they often haven’t been able to fix even with weeks/months/years of Coaching, Counselling or Pyschotherapy. They walk away with a spring in their step.

To summarise:

You can’t be hypnotised if you don’t want to be hypnotised.
You can’t be made to do things that you don’t want to do.
You can’t get “stuck” in a hypnotic trance.
It is NOT mind control by one person over another.
It is your journey. The therapist is more like a guide.

 

So what do you think about Hypnosis now?

I loved writing this blog! And I would love to answer any other questions you might have in the comments so please type away!

Or like me on Facebook (it’s free lol) or on Instagram where I am just myself (photos without makeup and EVERYTHING).

Sending you Hypnotic vibes 🙂

Honey

Why you need Hypnosis in your life

Why you need Hypnosis in your life

You may never have considered why you need Hypnosis in your life so please let me explain. For many people Hypnosis is a last resort, but I really wish it would catch on like Mindfulness has because so many people could be less troubled and have better lives.

What is Hypnotherapy?

Now,  I’m a Hypnotherapist who thinks Hypnotherapy is the best thing since sliced bread  so this could be a very long blog post! One that would probably put you into a trance! So in the interests of your time and my fingers, I am going to break it down over the next few days and today just tell you about the nuts and bolts.

Hypnotherapy is used to make changes to things that are negatively affecting people’s lives (see lists below) but also to put positivity in. Because your mind is very alert during Hypnosis positive statements are very well received. Imagine your affirmations but 100 times stronger.

Once you have learned Self-Hypnosis (your Hypnotherapist will teach you this), you can use Hypnosis to self-heal, relax, sleep or ‘sort your head out’. One of my favourite things about Hypnosis is being able to ‘declutter’ my mind and feel fabulous afterwards. Even better than a power nap!

Short history of Hypnosis goes something like this:

  • It’s been around over 2,500 years. It was used in ancient China, Egypt and Greece where the remnants of the sleep healing temple of Asklepios still exist.
  • Franz Mesmer (1770) experimented with what he called ‘animal magnetism’ which involved using Hypnosis and magnets. He was convinced that these techniques could banish illness and suffering, and they often did. He had a lot of success with it in its hashed form.
  • French and British physicians in the mid-1800s studied Mesmer’s work and discounted the use of magnets.
  • James Braid, a Scottish surgeon, around 1843 coined the term “hypnosis” from Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep.
  • In 1933, Clark Hull. In his book, Hypnosis and Suggestibility, proved pain reduction through hypnotic trance. He also showed that effects of hypnosis were symptomatic of suggestion and motivation. As a result of his work,. many soldiers benefited from Hypnosis pain relief in World War 2
  • Dr. Milton Erickson (1957) is said to have been a genius with his work using Hypnosis and used metaphoric stories which he personalised for each client.
  • Dave Elman wrote Findings in Hypnosis (1964) and created a hypnotic induction used by many Hypnotists today.

There are now many fabulous modern day Hypnotists many with chosen specialisms. There have been some amazing results proven with neuro-imaging devices which can see inside the brain to view in real time when someone is pretending, imagining, or using hypnotic suggestion.

Are you in a trance yet?

Probably! We dip in and out of trance many times a day. But what is trance? A trance is where you access the subconcious part of your mind. You actually have two minds. Did you know! One conscious (said to be 10%), the other subconscious (said to be 90%). More on those minds another time (remember that reader’s subconscious mind won’t you *wink*)

So what is Hypnosis?

Rubik cube

Hypnosis works by keeping the conscious mind occupied, which allows access to the subconscious mind where all the ‘stuff’ is stored. Your Hypnotherapist will then guide you to the issues that you’ve asked them for help with.

I think the best description for the feeling is that bit before you go to sleep when you are having thoughts (and they are sometimes amazing) but you wouldn’t necessarily be able to put them into words very easily. But it all makes perfect sense at the time! Many a puzzle or problem is resolved in Hypnosis.

Issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis (most common):

  • Anxiety (social anxiety, health anxiety, panic attacks)
  • Depression
  • Phobia
  • Sleep
  • PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder)
  • Self Esteem
  • Stop smoking
  • Weight loss
  • Confidence
  • Motivation
  • Fears
  • Pain management
  • Healing emotional wounds
  • Unwanted habits
  • Stress relief
  • Childbirth
  • Sports performance
  • Exam revision and nerves

 

Other issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis:

  • Dyslexia
  • Bulimia nervosa
  • Anorexia nervosa
  • Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Asthma
  • Hyperventilation
  • Migraines
  • Warts
  • Eczema
  • Stuttering
  • IBS
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Chronic fatigue syndrome
  • Rheumatoid athritus
  • Oncology
  • Fertility
  • OCD
  • Tinnitus

 

Childrens’ issues

  • Bedwetting
  • Anxiety
  • Eating
  • Sleeping
  • Confidence
  • Thumb sucking

 

Does it work on everyone?

Young children are in Hypnosis already so make excellent clients. They just love metaphoric stories which appeal to their wonderful imaginations.

Adults suggestibility varies. I talk about suggestibility on another post called ‘everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong!’.  It is nothing to do with being gullible or belief.

The more you go into Hypnosis, the better you get at it. Imagine being able to slip into a state where you felt more relaxed and able to self-heal, whenever you like. They should do belts in it like Karate (I would be a black belt lol).

What can’t Hypnosis do?

Hypnosis is such a versatile tool. It harness the greatest power of your mind, the subconscious to address issues and creative possibilities. Ask any Hypnotherapist or anyone who has resolved an issue with Hypnotherapy and they will tell you. It is life changing.

You don’t need to live with your ghosts of the past. Hypnosis doesn’t change the past but certainly allows you to accept it and move on.

Hypnosis gives you personal power. The realisation that the story in your head is not the story of your future. The things that limit you simply need tweaking in your mind and off you go. The world is your oyster.

And oh! It works on physical pain too. The effect of positive thinking on the body is no secret. Ask anyone who has defied their medical diagnosis of expected lifespan for a disease.

Oh sorry I was meant to be telling you what Hypnosis can’t do wasn’t I?! It can’t make you win the lottery, it can’t make someone love you and it can’t give you perfectly behaved children. There you go lol. Seriously though, it doesn’t work on someone who isn’t committed to the change they say they seek.

The important thing for a successful Hypnosis treatment is that any concerns or fear are removed for the client and the client is motivated to change.

You want to try it now don’t you?

If this post has made you want to try Hypnosis NOW, then please get in touch and I will squeeze you in as soon as I can 🙂

 

 

How to feel less anxious in times of uncertainty

How to feel less anxious in times of uncertainty

How to feel less anxious in times of uncertainty

If you suffer from anxiety or depression, you might find yourself worrying more during times of uncertainty like the UK election results today. I had an influx of anxious and depression clients in my Hypnotherapy clients following Brexit, but we were able to calm emotions down with the techniques that I teach people.

The thing with uncertainty is that it makes people feel out of control. And when you feel out of control this can cause fear and from fear comes anxiety along with other symptoms like IBS, stress and sleep issues.

And there are plenty of things in life to give us those feelings of uncertainty. Like job losses, recession, separation, relationship breakdowns, financial trouble and ill health to mention but a few.

Scientists have proved that there are two types of uncertainty. The one we can prepare for and the one we are just stuck with. And they feel very different with the uncertainty we can’t do anything about being more stressful than the one we can.

Unpredictability is a great stressor. Studies in the 1960s and 1970s showed that rats and humans suffer more when given an unexpected small electrical shock than those who can predict when a zap is coming. And in a 2006 study, people rated the pain as more unpleasant than when they knew what to expect when they were zapped with unpredictable electric shocks to their hands.

If I had a pound for every time these words are used in my therapy room I would have a very heavy piggy bank:

  • Control
  • Worried
  • Scared
  • Anxious
  • Trapped
  • Exhausted

So how can you feel different?

change your thoughts

Now, we are emotional creatures and this is a gift. Without the full range of emotions we couldn’t experience joy and pleasure and we all want some of that don’t we? But it becomes a problem when the negative emotions don’t seem to give you a break and stop you living a ‘normal’ life. Let’s not forget that many people will be feeling pleased about the election result.

It might not feel like it, but anxiety actually exists to keep you safe. It goes right back to caveman days where if a predator animal came along, caveman would get anxious and prepare to fight or run. So a bit of andrealin which is released into the body is useful for both of those things. The trouble is that the brain can get confused about ‘danger’ and generate this fight or flight reaction unnecessarily which can be stressful and exhausting.

So maybe you would like to try some of these things to feel less anxious during uncertain times:

  1. Try some diaphramic breathing to get in a relaxed state. Relaxation is the hub of feeling in control
  2. Watch my video here for changing how you feel about something that currently bothers you
  3. Think about a situation of uncertaintity from 5 years ago. What happened? Was everything ok? What did you learn from that?
  4. Focus on the things that give you joy. When I work with clients we really dig into this so that their joy list is clear and they visit it often. The more you focus on the things that bring you joy, the less time and energy you will give to thinking about things that don’t bring you joy
  5. Get the right sort of help. If you have had years of counselling, it might be time to try something different. After my 4 session programme, your life will feel very different

‘The only certainty is uncertainty’ – John Allen Paulos

By learning to be calm and in control of your own emotions during tough times, you will be more resilient. And this means that you will find uncertainty less traumatic and problematic as you navigate through life. Thankfully, we don’t have an election very often 🙂

I would love to hear from you by phone on 07530 890089 or email or on Facebook

Sending you resilent thoughts

Honey

x

 

 

 

Does your fear of flying make holidays a nightmare?

Does your fear of flying make holidays a nightmare?

Does your fear of flying make holidays a nightmare?

Are you a nervous flyer? Is it the fear of being out of control or the fear of crashing that bothers you? You are not alone; it is estimated that 1 in 6 people have a fear of flying. And the extent of the fear can range vary greatly:

  • Worrying about an upcoming flight
  • Feeling nervous and shaky at the airport
  • Crying, shallow breathing and intense fear on the flight
  • Panic attacks in the lead up to or on the flight
  • Fear so great it stops you flying at all

Sometimes the fear can have been in place for a long time or even a lifetime which makes it hard for you to believe that you can get rid of it. But you absolutely can! Hypnotherapy is well known for helping people overcome fears and phobias and it is very effective as a treatment to remove fear of flying.

The treatment I offer is a mix of Hypnotherapy, Psy-Tap and NLP for very powerful and permanent results. And happy holidays! Often the fear can be removed in one session, two at the most.

Often flying is not the fear

The unconcious mind will always act in what it believes to be in your best interest to keep you safe. It can link unrelated events to fears and phobias and your concious mind doesn’t know or recognise this,  but you know you are scared even if you don’t understand why. Removing fear of flying or other fears often has more benefits than just being able to fly without fear. You will feel lighter, happier and more free than you have in a long time, because you have offloaded and gained confidence that you can overcome issues.

What adventure would you love to experience if you no longer had a fear of flying?

Taj Mahal

Is there somewhere you’ve always wanted to go on holiday?  See the Grand Canyon, the Great Barrier Reef or the Taj Mahal? Or relax in Thailand or see the big five in Africa?

 

 

Or maybe you want the dream honeymoon without the nightmare flight?  Or maybe you’ve been invited to a wedding or celebration abroad and would love to go? Or maybe you’ve got your eye on a job which has international travel and your fear of flying has stopped you going for it?

 

family reunionOr maybe you have family abroad and you would love to visit them, see where they live and spend time hanging out with them and their friends and family. In 2017 distance shouldn’t be a problem to nurturing those valuable relationships and neither should a fear of flying.

 

 

 

I can help you overcome your fear of flying very easily

I use Hypnotherapy, Psy-Tap and NLP to help you rapidly and effectively overcome your flying phobia, no matter how extreme. You will be booking your adventure soon after your session/s.

Although every client is unique, fears and phobias stand together as FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real. The brain doesn’t know the difference between fiction and truth so whether it’s a fear of flying, spiders, heights, public speaking, confined spaces or whatever, the theory of the treatment is the same.

To book your appointment and start your life of adventure please get in touch by email 

I can see you in my Hypnotherapy practice in West Sussex which covers the areas of Worthing, Lancing, Shoreham, Brighton, Ferring, Findon and Angmering or Worldwide on Skype in the comfort of your own home.

If you know someone that you would love to come on holiday with you but they won’t because they are scared of flying please share this blog with them.

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

It’s big thing to say change you can change peoples lives. Surgeons can say it, the people at lottery HQ can say it and maybe Apple can say it! But why can a Hypnotherapist say it?!

It’s unlikely that everyone makes it through life without encountering some sort of issue. Issues like:

Stress which can be work related, relationship related or simply life related and untreated stress can lead to depression

 

Anxiety which can manifest in many ways including post traumatic stress disorder, social phobia and panic attacks
 
Grief related to someone passing away or the loss of something important to you

 

Poor sleep which can really disrupt everything in your life

 

Depression which can affect anyone and create a cloud in your life. There is a useful factsheet here about depression

 

Uncertainty about life direction which can really make you feel lost

 

Emotional pain which can lurk for years but refuse to go away until it’s dealt with

 

Phobias which are sometimes irrational but life affecting

 

Weight gain which affects your confidence or self esteem 

 

Overcoming issues

 

So how do people overcome these issues? The most popular adage is that time is a great healer. I would argue here that in many cases the unconcious mind buries the issue and it often appears later in an unwanted behaviour or emotion.

If time healed everything I wouldn’t see so many clients that were affected by issues and traumas that occured years ago or even  in childhood. This pain is often disguised by the person telling themselves that they dealt with everything and their depression, anxiety or weight gain have happened because of another reason.

You could ride the issue out of course. This can take 1, 10,20,30 years! You can find all sorts of workarounds to avoid exposing the issue and live a life with exceptions because of the issue. You won’t know how long the issue will last and the longer you carry it, the more ingrained it becomes as a habit which might make you feel frustrated and upset. But it might go. One day.

You could go for counceling, CBT or other therapies and these work for many people but often the number of sessions is high which can be a big time and cost investment. I have a blog post about the difference between Counselling and Hypnotherapy here.

Sometimes people find that these kind of therapies don’t help and my view on this is that this may be down to when we talk about our issues, we relive them.  This gives the brain another experience of the issue to use as evidence that we have an issue. (Stick with me here). You also get another experience to remind you how the issue make you feel rather than the opportunity to experience a different feeling about the issue, which is how Hypnotherapy works. The brain carries a negative bias (meaning it finds it easier to think negatively than positively) so if you remind it of a negative experience or feeling it will focus on that. If you give your brain positive feelings and thoughts it will be pulled in that direction instead.

Interupted sleep

You could ignore the issue. An issue will pop up in the most unexpected of ways until you deal with it. The good news is that when an issue won’t go away until you resolve it, it will keep reminding you until you do. Notice these signs if you can so that anxiety doesn’t turn to depression or that food doesn’t become your solace etc.

So how does Hypnotherapy change lives?

 

When I started offering Hypnotherapy I underestimated it. People would come, I would make them feel better and they would be happy, get rid of their phobia, feel less depressed, overcome their anxiety, give up smoking whatever. But over the years as I have developed my Hypnotherapy skills, introduced Harley Street techniques and continued to use NLP at Master level I have seen many lives ‘change’.

Becoming a non-smoker

Take a smoker. Many smokers have tried to give up smoking a fair few times and feel frustrated and desperate to kick the habit but just can’t do it by themselves. They do some research and the idea of Hypnotherapy comes to them. They have their treatment and stop smoking easily. They are healthier, wealthier and free of the habit. It’s the easiest way to give up.

Losing weight

For some people losing weight changes their lives. They find that once they lose weight they have more energy and maybe start exercising. Maybe they find the confidence to do new things, go to new places, get a partner or a new job. Losing weight with Hypnotherapy can change people’s lives in many ways. And when I help you lose weight with Hypnotherapy, I build in healthy eating habits, portion control and confidence. And if necessary we fully explore the reasons for your weight gain or overeating and make that a thing of the past.

Being free of depression

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If you suffer from depression you may feel like you are living under a dark cloud; like you can’t get motivated to do anything or really enjoy your life. Can you imagine how your life would change if you didn’t feel depressed? What would be different for you? Maybe your social life would be different or you would achieve more of the things that you really want to do. Or maybe your relationships would be better or you would just be much happier. Living without depression is definitely life changing.

Overcoming anxiety

Anxiety sufferers can be the most enthusiastic about their life changes! What’s not to like about a life without panic attacks, sweats, shortness of breath or routines you have to run because you feel controlled by your anxiety. I use a blend of techniques to help my anxiety clients and sometimes it can take as little as one session to remove anxiety they have carried for years (although I don’t guarantee one session because there should not be that expectation and every case in individual). I also provide all my anxiety clients with a maintenance plan so they have the confidence to know that they are in total control, whatever comes their way.

Live longer by dealing with stress

Now I don’t want to use scare tactics here but they do actually say that stress is the ‘silent killer. It is unbelievable how many people are living with stress to different degrees. You don’t need to be a stressful job or a turbulent relationship to suffer from stress (although these probably aren’t helpful to anyone). The definition of stress is how you cope in any given situation. So you could be stressed by normal life, family, work or even boredom. Hypnotherapy is deeply relaxing. It takes you to a calm place you may not have connected with before and just like going to the gym to exercise your body muscles, the more you exercise your mind ‘calm’ muscle, the stronger it gets. This means that you find it easier to remain calm and harder to be stressed. Hypnotherapy treatment for stress is more than just feeling relaxed, I help my clients look at their stress triggers and alternative ways to cope with those triggers. When you have less stress in your life this can be life changing if you sleep better, lower your blood pressure, have less anger and better relationships. You can also think more clearly and you are likely to be more creative as creativity is located in the unconscious mind which is present where you are relaxed.

So Hypnotherapists really do change lives. It’s a very rewarding job and every client’s success means that I never tire of this work and training and developing further.

How can I help you change your life?

  • Your starting point might be to try my free relaxing download by signing up to my newsletter
  • You might be fed up of living with your issue and want to take action NOW. So send me an email and I will give you a call to have a chat and make an appointment

I can wait to see what your new life looks like 🙂

Sending you magical vibes.

Honey

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