Oprah Winfrey knows what she is talking about here because we really do ‘own’ our thoughts and attitude.
Our thoughts control our feelings
Let’s explore what Oprah means more…..Our thoughts make us feel good or bad. We control our thoughts. This isn’t about suppressing emotions, it’s about realising that you can invest in negative thinking and feel less happy or invest in positive thinking and feel better. This is why they say that ‘happiness is an inside job’. We will cover this in much more depth as we go through the next 30 days together.
That voice inside your head
Our minds are constantly thinking. Like a running commentary in our head. It reminds me of that film ‘what women want’ with Mel Gibson when he can hear the women’s voices talking as they think (I think there are other films like this too, let me know!). We have this ‘mind chatter’ going on which is not only thinking of the practical things we need to be thinking about, but also talking to us in a negative or positive way.
What is the voice inside your head saying?
Imagine it now, this voice as you go about your day. You get to work, school, shops, whatever and see a friend, you chat and they say, ‘you’re so funny’ and that voice in your head says ‘you’re fun, ha ha, you make people laugh, great’. This creates good feelings for you and makes you feel good about yourself. You call a company about a problem on a bill and it doesn’t go well and the voice says ‘why don’t things go right for me, my life is full of problems’. This creates bad feelings for you and makes you feel worried, stressed and not so good about yourself.
You own your thoughts
When you become more aware of your own ‘mind chatter’, this is the first step to owning your thoughts. Imagine talking to a child or someone you care about in a negative way. Firstly it doesn’t feel nice to do that and secondly it would be horrible for the recipient. This is what you are doing to yourself if you speak to yourself in a negative way. We will work on this.
Here’s the plan
Get your notebook and pen and catch the negative mind chatter going on in your head, make a note of what it is saying. Just a couple of lines a day. Don’t dwell on it, just catch it. After all, it’s probably not true anyway 🙂
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Before you start thinking ‘oh no, she’s one of those that tells me to think positive and doesn’t understand what I’ve been through/what I’m up against’. This is so not the case. I help people ease their pain and smooth their thoughts on a regular basis. The work we do over the next 29 days WILL make a difference.
Happy hug 🙂